My Favorite Divorced Dad Blogs

Tell me if I’m wrong, but there aren’t too many single dads out there writing blogs. C’mon guys, where are you? Speak up, please.
Trey Ellis, one of my favorite single dad bloggers, kindly responded to my email in 2005, after I wrote to him. I’d just read his brilliant Modern Love column in the New [...]

I gave to myself this Christmas

Go ahead and call me selfish.
I do my best give to my kid all-year round. My friends and family will tell you. Ask them, really.
As we approached December 25, I was spent. I’m not the kind of person who forgets things or wants to sleep in. But that’s what was happening. Last weekend, after Mae [...]

Should you date a man who’s NOT divorced yet?

No, you shouldn’t.
But maybe you’ll just have to learn this the hard way — as I have.
If you’ve read my book, then you knew that I’ve fallen for a not-divorced-yet dad before.
This fall, I met another not-yet-divorced dad — but this time my guard was up. For the record, I really liked him. We’d spotted [...]

More than Mommy

The first time that I had sex as a single mom, I wasn’t worried about my stretch marks or my scratchy, unshaven legs.
I was worried about leaking.
When I started to date again, I was still nursing Mae. No matter how my hungry, agitated, red-faced, and cranky my baby was, nursing calmed her down. Yes, it [...]

He doesn’t like being No. 2

Do you remember when I asked you if you’ve ever Googled your date? (Thanks for your honest comments!)
Well, Karen from Online Dating is back. (Yes, this is the woman wrote her entire dissertation at the University of Southern California on “Online Dating.”)
As you might remember, Karen’s sister is the single mom of two children. But [...]

Who’s your role model for celebrity divorce?

UPDATE: Go to Hot Momma Gossip for an update on Kate Hudson’s thoughts about dating as a single mom

BabyCenter blogger Carolyn Robertson says it’s Kate Hudson for sure (”Out and about with Kate Hudson“).

She’s got a point: Kate and ex Chris Robinson don’t bad mouth each other in the press. In fact, they make it [...]

Beware of the Child/Dog Lover

I’d love to know: Who was your last date with?
Was he “The Just Your Average Steve,” who “most likely works in computers”?
“He’s moderately attractive, successful, and looking for a nice, average girl to settle down with and have 2.5 kids, a Golden Retriever, and an average-sized yard [...]

Have you ever Googled your date?

Recently, I posted about Dating Sites for Single Moms and you had a lot to say (thanks!). As promised, Karen from Online Dating is back. Remember: this woman wrote her entire dissertation at the University of Southern California on that topic exactly: “Online Dating.”
“Just how does a single mom get online and start dating?” Karen [...]

‘When are you getting married?’

Exactly one year ago, it seemed like everyone wanted to know when the Israeli and I were getting married.
Well, everyone except for my best girlfriends, who knew that the Israeli was not the right man for me.
Last year, I was a monthly columnist at San Francisco’s J Weekly, during which I learned a hard lesson [...]

I became a single mom on Thanksgiving

Looking back, I should have seen the signs. He was drinking more. He wasn’t sleeping. When he was, he crashed in the other room.
Just before Thanksgiving in the year 2000, Mae’s father told me he wouldn’t be coming with us to my cousin’s house, where we’d planned to spend the holiday. Instead, he wanted to [...]