How my daughter taught me to trust again

March 27, 2013

That’s the title of my essay in the current (April 2013) issue of Family Circle. Leaning over the counter, my daughter ordered the same meal she always had at our favorite taqueria: a quesadilla, no salsa, no sour cream. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to eat. But that wasn’t all I was uncertain about. […]

0 comments Read the full article →

When a single mom remarries and awaits baby No. 2

January 16, 2013

When I first met my friend Amy 10 years ago in the Bay Area, she opened up me — and told me that she was getting divorced. I don’t remember how I responded, but I hope I said something encouraging. Like You’re so strong. Or, you’re not broken. At that point, I’d been a single […]

1 comment Read the full article →

When a single mom uproots for love

December 17, 2012

When you take the “distance” out of a long distance relationship, it’s a big deal. Especially when you have kids. And he has kids. Especially when one of you leaves your job and friends behind. Especially when one of you puts your house on market, and the other one opens his/her door to a new […]

5 comments Read the full article →

My Thanksgiving scar

November 21, 2012

It took me years to admit that I was a classic co-dependent in a relationship with an alcoholic. Twelve years ago this Thanksgiving. That’s when our relationship ended, with our apartment door locked and his key slipped back under. Twelve years!! A lovestain on my heart. That’s what he left 12 years ago. We’d unraveled […]

5 comments Read the full article →

Drinking Diaries: it’s a book give away

November 12, 2012

  If you are a woman who drinks alcohol, Drinking Diaries will speak to you. Yes, it sounds like a book about alcoholism. And some writers do delve thoughtfully into this struggle. But this book is so much more. It’s about loving the taste of wine. It’s about almost getting a DUI. It’s about abstaining […]

9 comments Read the full article →

Saying “I do” after being a single mom

October 24, 2012

  When my friend, Desiree, walked down the aisle this month to Jason Mraz’s “I Won’t Give Up,” I knew exactly why she’d picked that song. Because the only way to fall in love again 10 years into single parenthood is to maintain a faith in love. To NOT give up. The rain held off […]

2 comments Read the full article →

Getting married after a decade of single motherhood

October 4, 2012

Getting married after you’ve been a single mom for 10 years is a big deal. I know. Because that describes me. Now, it’s Desiree’s turn. I met Desiree six years ago when she walked into Bananas to join the single parents’ support group I was leading. She has the loveliest smile. She has been a […]

4 comments Read the full article →