Googling for sperm? A chat with the author of “Choosing You”

All her adult life, Alexandra Soiseth wanted a husband, children, dogs and cats, and a loving, home. But at 39, with no husband on the horizon, she decided to take matters into her own hands: she googled for sperm.

In Choosing You: Deciding to Have a Baby on My Own

Do you always use a condom?

All this talk about condoms yesterday has inspired me. Well, not inspired, exactly. It has made me a bit manic, to be honest.
To make matters more intense, it just so happens that during Mary Pols‘ book launch party last night for Accidentally on Purpose, she read her infamous chapter about her condom-free one-night stand, [...]

Accidentally on Purpose: A must-read about one woman’s one-night stand “and the loving best mistake I ever made”

Today, one of the most open, candid, painful memoirs comes out: Accidentally on Purpose: A One-Night Stand, My Unplanned Parenthood, and Loving the Best Mistake I Ever Made.
I stayed up way past my bedtime to read this book, about 39-year-old movie critic Mary Pols, who knew she wanted to have a baby. But never—not [...]

Sex and the City Trivia: Do you remember the name of Miranda’s nanny?

Hint: She’s the one who found a vibrator in Miranda’s bed… and swapped it for a statue of the Virgin Mary.

At San Francisco’s Sex and the City event with Sasha Cagen, author of Quirkyalone, Mysti Doughty, and Waleska — one of my always-there single mama friends. (Hint: we’re the two shorties!)

What’s a married dad doing on Single Mom Seeking? Welcome Robert Rummel-Hudson

This blog began in another format in 2006 as a safe space for single moms to open up. It easily could have turned into a male-bashing ring. Thank goodness it didn’t. Sure, we’re known to go off on our exes once in a while — because parenting solo can be tough — but the single [...]

Beware of blogging about your ex

Chrissy at Glamour does it. She refers to her baby’s father as “SD,” as in “sperm donor.”
Ms. Single Mama has a whole category about her ex-husband.
In her blog, Solo Mother pleads her ex-husband to answer her emails about her son, but he won’t respond.
Dad’s House recently wrote about the fact that communication with his ex-wife [...]

Can you guess which single dad I have a crush on?

He started “it” back in February by sending me this sweet email. I’m a sucker for compliments:
“I really like your blog and website, very well done,” he wrote. “There’s a reason it’s the only single parenting site in my blog roll so far.”
Fortunately, he has since added more bloggers, like Ms. Single Mama . [...]

Come out with me tomorrow night…

Top this: tomorrow night, a group of talented female authors is getting together to chat about writing, men, single motherhood, bad dates, work…and how we they balance it all.
If you’re in the San Francisco Bay Area, don’t miss this sassy event — Thursday, April 3 — to hear yours truly at the SF Commonwealth Club [...]

I still don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day…

but if you’re expecting a pity party over here, you’ve got the wrong address.
My mom is still scheduled to pick Mae up from school on Valentine’s Day, so I just might hit a yoga class and have a glass of wine with a girlfriend (no, not at the same time, silly!). On my way home, [...]

And the winners are…

Update: Trey Ellis has a feature at today’s Salon.com –“How does a single father ever get laid?” that begins:
“I have two kids to raise, a dating scene to navigate, and a rubber vagina in my drawer. Bachelorhood is off to a rough start….”
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Recently, I asked single moms, “What do you desire?” — and Kelly, [...]