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I’m trying to be a “sex-positive mom,” really I am

By singlemomseeking ⋅ April 30, 2008 ⋅ 16 comments

This weekend, a mysterious brown box was on my doorstep, with a return address from a local warehouse. Whenever there’s a box at our door, Mae assumes it’s for her. It usually is.
But I had a feeling that it was for me this time. That’s because Babeland had contacted me recently to blog about being [...]

“Nowhere in your ad should you mention your children”

By singlemomseeking ⋅ April 24, 2008 ⋅ 19 comments

That’s what Sherrie Schneider, co-author of The Rules for Online Dating, suggests in an article at LavaLife.com.
“Don’t say that you love hugging your three-year-old or taking walks with your teen,” Sherrie adds in the “The Single Mom Conundrum.”
“And never, ever, post a photograph online that shows you with your kids.”
I agree with Sherrie about the [...]

Help: How do you have a sleepover when your kid is in the other room?

By singlemomseeking ⋅ April 14, 2008 ⋅ 36 comments

If you think I’m asking you this for selfish reasons — you’re right.
It was so easy when I was the single mom of a wee little one, like Ms. Single Mama or Chrissy at Glamour.
Back in the days, it was so simple. I could invite a man over — and escort him out the door [...]

Hollywood options movie about a single mom who settles

By singlemomseeking ⋅ April 10, 2008 ⋅ 18 comments

When I wrote about Lori Gottlieb’s Atlantic Monthly article “Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough,” you had a lot to say about not settling. Thanks!
Now get this: Lori’s article has just been optioned by Warner to become a movie. She got a book deal out of it, too — sold to [...]

Do you own a first date skirt?

By singlemomseeking ⋅ March 26, 2008 ⋅ 15 comments

This week, at Single Minded Women, I say that “every single mom needs a first-date skirt.”
But I can’t take credit for this advice. It was my single mom friend, Arden, who gave me this tip very early on, when I was terrified to go on one of my first dates as a single mom, and [...]

I invited the Biologist to our Easter egg hunt

By singlemomseeking ⋅ March 23, 2008 ⋅ 9 comments

And then I promptly disinvited him.
But it wasn’t because I didn’t want to see him. (I really wanted to see him!). Moreover, I really wanted my single mom friends to meet him.
It would have been so convenient: three of my closest single mom girlfriends were all at the Egg Hunt. So, I’d invited the Biologist [...]

How do you tell your child that you’re dating?

By singlemomseeking ⋅ March 17, 2008 ⋅ 12 comments

Crazy Computer Dad recently commented that “you really want to make sure you let your children know you are dating.”
He added: “The backlash and alienation can be severe if they learn through some other means or very late in the process.”
As I read Crazy Computer Dad’s advice, I was relieved. After all, Mae is way [...]

Experience love, sex, and intimacy as you’ve never imagined it…

By singlemomseeking ⋅ March 14, 2008 ⋅ 8 comments

That’s what Ian Kerner, Ph.D. dares you to do, in his just-published book, Sex Detox - and I’m giving away a spankin’ new copy here.
The second half of Kerner’s book is “The Singles’ Detox,” is a step-by-step plan to “improve your self-awareness, self-esteem, and ability to achieve long-term fulfillment.” I’m following Kerner’s Detox plan [...]

Please give this man some advice about dating the single mom of a toddler…

By singlemomseeking ⋅ March 12, 2008 ⋅ 12 comments

E. is a single, 33-year-old man who recently started dating a single mom with a two-year-old son. This is new territory for him, and he wrote in yesterday to say that he’d really appreciate some advice.
First, E., thanks for being bold and reaching out. Here goes:
E. met this 32-year-old single mom just two weeks [...]

Have you ever taken your kid with you on a date?

By singlemomseeking ⋅ March 10, 2008 ⋅ 13 comments

Confession: I have. But not since Mae was three years old. And never on a first date, or a second. But maybe a third.
More than once, I met a new man at the ice cream parlor, with Mae in tow. I’d made it clear to him that this wasn’t about being touchy-feely, this was about [...]