Is the man you’re dating a mirror of you?

Wendy Merrill, author of the new memoir, Falling into Manholes, says that he is.
I know Wendy in person and she’s just as hot, genuine, and honest in person as she is in her book. No, she’s not a single mom. Yes, she is so open and revealing about life and love — that I had [...]

Sex and the City Trivia: Do you remember the name of Miranda’s nanny?

Hint: She’s the one who found a vibrator in Miranda’s bed… and swapped it for a statue of the Virgin Mary.

At San Francisco’s Sex and the City event with Sasha Cagen, author of Quirkyalone, Mysti Doughty, and Waleska — one of my always-there single mama friends. (Hint: we’re the two shorties!)

When’s the last time you were out without the kids?

When I first moved back to the Bay Area six years ago this month, I was wedged between resentment and anger. I wasn’t what you’d call “a single mom by choice.” I hadn’t exactly chosen the “single” part.
Fortunately, I soon found two other local single moms — with daughters around Mae’s age — who have [...]

Wishing all of you a “Happy Mother’s Day!”

I wish my words alone could thank all of you enough for being there with me on this parenting journey. It’s almost midnight, approaching Mother’s Day, and I appreciate all of you so much.
It’s amazing how people have come into my life through this blog. Just yesterday, a single dad named Stephen Miller contacted me [...]

Squeezing in a date before the birthday gala

Thanks to all of you for the birthday wishes!
While my little sister and Mae baked the 8th birthday ice skating cake (above) — which turned into a frosting party that yours truly got to clean up — I went on a date with the Biologist. We went downtown to a little swank bar, where [...]

Help. The ex-boyfriend wants to come to my kid’s birthday party…

It all started last week, when we were passing through the Israeli’s neighborhood and Mae piped up: “I wanna see him!”
I called, and he said, “Sure, come on over.”
I gently told Mae in the car that we were just stopping in to say “hello,” and then going home. Making boundaries is not my best trait, [...]

Are you having sex with your ex?

Of course, not. Right? I’m not judging, believe me. I’ll make it easy and spill my guts first:
When I was writing my book, I decided that I would skip over that part about falling back with Mae’s father — who showed up on my doorstep a year after he disappeared. It would be easy to [...]

I thought I was coming out of the woods

My poison oak was getting better. Not to gross you out, but the oozing on my arm had stopped. Tuesday night, however, there was this weird rash on my neck.
“Mae, do you see something on my neck?”
“Yeah, it’s all red.”
I wondered if I’d reinfected myself, but it didn’t look like poison oak. I phoned [...]

What happens if you step off the beaten path

I wasn’t going to write about Him in my blog because I’d already promised him that I wouldn’t.
But I can’t hold it in anymore.
I’ve never gone this long without blogging. Granted, I was in New York City last week, riding the subway up and down Manhattan with Mae, as well as meeting my go-getting’ new [...]

Let this single dad tell you a bedtime story…

In 2005, as I was shopping around the proposal for Single Mom Seeking, I read this “Modern Love” column in the New York Times called “Who’s that lady in the bedroom, Daddy?“
I was giddy. At last, a single dad who told the truth about trying to date and parent at the same time! I wanted [...]