Comments on: About me http://singlemomseeking.com/blog Trust me on this: Love. Family. Parenting. Dating. Mon, 22 Mar 2010 01:16:18 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Lauren http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/about-2/comment-page-1/#comment-14268 Lauren Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:39:37 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?page_id=18#comment-14268 Being a single parent really has to be one of the toughest challenges around. I was raised by a single mother, and a non-dad. Meaning no relationship,period. That was how I came into the world fifty years ago. It was not easy, not for me, not for her. My 3 boys are grown now. But after 5 years of marriage, I left their father. It was very hard to do but he was on drugs and constantly unemployed. We survived. But I often wished there was somehow some person that I could "share" my kids with, their special moments. But I was alone. They grew up with struggles of their own, maybe feeling they sensed my feelings. Now I am a grandmother. I cannot help but to notice now just how much "he" has missed, by his own choice. So have I. "He" cannot know how wonderful and how special it is just to be able to experience all that I have. The boys and now their babies. Is it crazy to say that it hurts still because "he" and I can't share it? Being a single parent really has to be one of the toughest challenges around. I was raised by a single mother, and a non-dad. Meaning no relationship,period. That was how I came into the world fifty years ago. It was not easy, not for me, not for her. My 3 boys are grown now. But after 5 years of marriage, I left their father. It was very hard to do but he was on drugs and constantly unemployed. We survived.
But I often wished there was somehow some person that I could “share” my kids with, their special moments. But I was alone. They grew up with struggles of their own, maybe feeling they sensed my feelings.
Now I am a grandmother. I cannot help but to notice now just how much “he” has missed, by his own choice. So have I. “He” cannot know how wonderful and how special it is just to be able to experience all that I have. The boys and now their babies. Is it crazy to say that it hurts still because “he” and I can’t share it?

]]> By: Julia http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/about-2/comment-page-1/#comment-14197 Julia Sun, 17 Jan 2010 22:09:15 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?page_id=18#comment-14197 New to this site. Am 39 with a 22 mos old son. Going at it alone but have had incredibly difficult time with divorce/custody battle with ex who refused to work to support his son then wanted to take him only to use him as an excuse not to work. Not exactly my dream of having a 'family,' with 1.5 kids. hormones kicking in and long for a partner but kinda hard when you're home every night and hard to find evening sitters or extra cash to go out. Have tried to meet men when son is with his father but wish I had access to a regular partner vs. every other weekend arrangement. so how DOES a single mother date, meet financial needs, etc? New to this site. Am 39 with a 22 mos old son. Going at it alone but have had incredibly difficult time with divorce/custody battle with ex who refused to work to support his son then wanted to take him only to use him as an excuse not to work. Not exactly my dream of having a ‘family,’ with 1.5 kids.
hormones kicking in and long for a partner but kinda hard when you’re home every night and hard to find evening sitters or extra cash to go out. Have tried to meet men when son is with his father but wish I had access to a regular partner vs. every other weekend arrangement.
so how DOES a single mother date, meet financial needs, etc?

]]> By: Joyce http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/about-2/comment-page-1/#comment-13872 Joyce Fri, 25 Dec 2009 22:41:18 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?page_id=18#comment-13872 Hi Elizabeth, Last night was my first venture into any type of online "community" like this and I found this among several sites to be very supportive. Since I cannot know where this post will end up, I will reserve the details of our lives. But suffice to say our family fits closely with your demographics and situation. There is so much that transpires in the lives of families who go through childrearing [and divorce] later in life. The same people who would have been supportive earlier are cruel at 40 something -- it's as if society [not all obviously] resents or holds a certain disdain for older moms. I'm not sure what type of help would be supportive or helpful for you, but I am an editor and small publisher and would love to hear back from you if you're interested in pursuing writing. You can find my email address on our site by going to: www.ShulamitePublishingHouse.com We are expanding at the moment, so everything that you see is not everything in the works. Healing single-parent families is important not only to me, but to the success of our nation. I hope this response is encouraging to you. Blessings, Joyce Hi Elizabeth,

Last night was my first venture into any type of online “community” like this and I found this among several sites to be very supportive.

Since I cannot know where this post will end up, I will reserve the details of our lives. But suffice to say our family fits closely with your demographics and situation. There is so much that transpires in the lives of families who go through childrearing [and divorce] later in life. The same people who would have been supportive earlier are cruel at 40 something — it’s as if society [not all obviously] resents or holds a certain disdain for older moms.

I’m not sure what type of help would be supportive or helpful for you, but I am an editor and small publisher and would love to hear back from you if you’re interested in pursuing writing. You can find my email address on our site by going to: http://www.ShulamitePublishingHouse.com

We are expanding at the moment, so everything that you see is not everything in the works. Healing single-parent families is important not only to me, but to the success of our nation. I hope this response is encouraging to you.

Blessings,
Joyce

]]> By: elizabeth http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/about-2/comment-page-1/#comment-12977 elizabeth Mon, 19 Oct 2009 19:29:32 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?page_id=18#comment-12977 Hi all - I'm a single 46 yr old mother of a 6 yr old boy. I am 1 year in a new community and feel stopped and isolated. I love and treasure being a mother - I'm grateful for every day for this most amazing opportunity to teach a young person how to live with love, humor and wisdom in this world. I have so many thoughts and observations I'd like to post - but where? I'm not a 30 something mom, I'm not in need of a partner, I simply want to connect with other moms who are doing it alone. Mothers who, like me, miss the community that comes with moms that share their own 'demographic' profile and geographic proximity. What action I should take to fix this I'm not sure. I myself am the mother of an only, and that in of itself has its own built-in lonliness. I've often thought (at 3 am) that I'll just build a site on Ning or something - how hard can it be? - but then the logistics of life seem to obscure the late night inspiration. Just wanted to say hello to the moms out there - I'm off to the bus to meet my young Master Elihu.... All the best from upstate NY... Elizabeth Hi all -
I’m a single 46 yr old mother of a 6 yr old boy. I am 1 year in a new community and feel stopped and isolated. I love and treasure being a mother – I’m grateful for every day for this most amazing opportunity to teach a young person how to live with love, humor and wisdom in this world. I have so many thoughts and observations I’d like to post – but where? I’m not a 30 something mom, I’m not in need of a partner, I simply want to connect with other moms who are doing it alone. Mothers who, like me, miss the community that comes with moms that share their own ‘demographic’ profile and geographic proximity. What action I should take to fix this I’m not sure. I myself am the mother of an only, and that in of itself has its own built-in lonliness. I’ve often thought (at 3 am) that I’ll just build a site on Ning or something – how hard can it be? – but then the logistics of life seem to obscure the late night inspiration.
Just wanted to say hello to the moms out there – I’m off to the bus to meet my young Master Elihu…. All the best from upstate NY…
Elizabeth

]]> By: robin http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/about-2/comment-page-1/#comment-12956 robin Thu, 15 Oct 2009 22:14:38 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?page_id=18#comment-12956 What a nice website. It is so nice to see so many more sites about single parenting. When I started http://SingleParentsNetwork.com there was just two, and one you had to pay to belong to. Kudos and enjoy the transition, one day you will find the right one. Peace Robin What a nice website. It is so nice to see so many more sites about single parenting.

When I started http://SingleParentsNetwork.com there was just two, and one you had to pay to belong to.

Kudos and enjoy the transition, one day you will find the right one.

Peace
Robin

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]]> By: jamie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/about-2/comment-page-1/#comment-12289 jamie Wed, 19 Aug 2009 23:19:13 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?page_id=18#comment-12289 I just started writing for a friend to help their website www.singlemomsindiana.com it is fairly new and I really love getting ideas from other bloggers. You write so freely and honest, i love it, which is how I am more accustomed to writing...hence, why i've kept a journal for the past 10 years. check em' out. Im twinmother05 take care I just started writing for a friend to help their website http://www.singlemomsindiana.com it is fairly new and I really love getting ideas from other bloggers. You write so freely and honest, i love it, which is how I am more accustomed to writing…hence, why i’ve kept a journal for the past 10 years. check em’ out. Im twinmother05
take care

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