The ideal step-parent?

by singlemomseeking on June 21, 2011



For as long as I remember I’ve honored two men on Father’s Day: my dad and my step-dad. Well, all that changed this weekend.

As soon as Chris opened his eyes in the morning, I pushed a present into his lap. First, I gave him a silly card with a photo of a guy fixing a sink that said, “To my favorite Fix It Guy.” And then, under the card, he found a men’s shirt-and-shorts set for practicing yoga — which he has started to do for the first time in his life.

But the card or the yoga outfit didn’t truly show what I wanted to thank him for:

Being a friend who listens;

Turning into a math mentor when necessary;

Telling stories that make everyone laugh;

Unleashing his inner goofball;

Staying present when life gets challenging;

Passing along his great taste in music and movies;

Cooking three-course meals for dinner;

Letting go of judgment;

Being such a boy;

Wrapping his arms around our daughter when she needs a hug;

Carrying the heavy load, when needed…

Believe me, it isn’t easy. We sometimes disagree about the “right” way to parent. We can get so impatient — and oversensitive. Still, every day, I’m grateful that he has stepped into his role as a Dad with such an open heart, and the desire to be here with so much love.

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shim AKA NappyKitchen July 3, 2011 at 9:44 pm

@Hilary Jacobs Trout: I could not have said it better.
@Rachel: This post is extremely heart warming and encouraging!
.-= shim AKA NappyKitchen´s last blog ..The Best Kind of X, Part 2 =-.


bleu June 29, 2011 at 3:39 pm

That is very nice! So glad you have him in your life.
.-= bleu´s last blog ..Basic instinct =-.


T June 27, 2011 at 9:45 am

Oh girl, I love this post. I love the beautiful family you have. I remember how he read vows to her at your wedding. This post makes me want to cry like I did that day!

So glad to see he’s a great hubby AND daddy.

.-= T´s last blog ..With Faith =-.


GLSD June 23, 2011 at 3:03 pm

I love this: “Wrapping his arms around our daughter when she needs a hug”

So happy that M has a great step-dad!


Hilary Jacobs Trout June 22, 2011 at 9:48 pm

There is not much sexier than being a good father.


Anna June 21, 2011 at 2:16 pm

My bf got a card, too. He’s more of a dad to my son than the ex ever was or will be, and his ability and willingness to take on this role makes me a better mom, so I am thankful.


Tracey June 21, 2011 at 1:36 pm

I just came across your blog and found your words to be so authentic and beautiful. Your words are filled with gratitude and love and they made me smile so I figured I’d let you know.


Kevin June 21, 2011 at 9:49 am

That’s a great tribute, Rachel!


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