Found: a book give away with Jennifer Lauck

by singlemomseeking on March 7, 2011

If you’re a parent, then you know that getting the time and space to read a book can feel, well, almost sacred. So, when I read Jennifer Lauck‘s first memoir — Blackbird: A Childhood Lost and Found — and its follow up — Still Waters — I guarded my space behind closed doors, as I consumed her raw, beautiful writing.

By age five, Jennifer was taking care of her mother — who suffered from an ulcer and tumors — like a nurse. Every day, Jennifer made her mother meals, helped her get dressed, and stayed loyal at her side. Her mother died two years later, and Jennifer’s father quickly remarried to a cruel woman. In the meantime, Jennifer was told that she was adopted.

Jennifer’s childhood story gets grimmer and more riveting as it goes on, yet her will to survive and succeed is incredible. Her writing is so crisp, but without self-pity. Blackbird has been translated into 22 languages, and her first two books are often given to patients working to heal childhood trauma.

Yet, when Jennifer’s second memoir ended — she describes getting married and giving birth to a son, followed by a daughter — I DID have questions:

What about her birth mother? Did Jennifer ever think about finding her? Did she ever try?

Little did I know that Jennifer was already writing this part of her story — in her just-published book Found. Her third memoir centers around her search for her birth mother, but it’s also about how she overcame her sense of displacement, her desire to please, and her lack of a sense of self — all issues she attributes to having been adopted.

In Found, Jennifer (below) also describes her divorce from her husband, their co-parenting journey, and her strength to open her heart again to a very loving man whom she calls “Rogelio.” She’s also very honest about her thoughts on adoption, which I won’t give away here.

Seal Press (my publisher!) is giving away a copy of Found to one of YOU.

In the comments, please share:

Have you ever felt an inner struggle that has plagued you?

How have you healed? How are you on your way to finding more peace today?

You do NOT need to read Jennifer’s first two books before reading Found. It reads like a memoir on its own.

Contest ends at midnight PST on March 18. Winner will be chosen by


If you’re in the Bay Area, please come out and hear Jennifer read this weekend!

On Sunday, March 13th, she’ll be at Book Passage in Corte Madera at 7 p.m.

And on Monday, March 14th, Jennifer will be reading at Books, Inc. in Berkeley at 7 p.m.

Author photo taken by: Staci Vriese

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{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

Trace A DeMeyer April 14, 2011 at 7:05 am

Amazing review! Can’t wait to read it! My memoir One Small Sacrifice: Lost Children of the Indian Adoption Projects is so similar but not on Seal Press. Hooray to all the adoptees who find their voice and survive well enough to write a memoir…


ella March 22, 2011 at 10:10 am

My inner struggle is really knowing and reflecting what do I really really really want.. I have been thinking and reflecting it for some time, made some bad choices. Blogging helped me and friends helped me to define myself and of course my husband who has been supportive ever since with what do I want and my purpose. Oh and I do read books every now and then to helped me get through with what I call early midlife crisis.


Abby March 14, 2011 at 3:01 pm

Thanks for the post! I’m really looking forward to reading Jennifer’s book – it sounds great.


avigail74 March 13, 2011 at 8:17 pm

Inner struggle?
Hmmm….sure I have one, actually, many. For years, I struggled with my relationship with my father–always falling victim to every single negative word he said. For years and years, I worked on not being a victim. I found EMDR—and through it, I not only allow the words to hurt me any longer, I am able to tolerate being around him and yet feel very strong, independent and womanly. More than that, I found myself and am doing my best to live fearlessly.


Allison March 13, 2011 at 10:40 am

Sure, and it’s one that will surely continue. I love my family but I struggle with feeling completely different from them. They all live far away; some visit me although most do not. I want my son to grow up knowing his blood relatives, but should it just be me who continues to make the effort? Should I let it drop? I have continued visiting but as the years go by the differences become harder for me to ignore on our visits.


Jennifer Lauck March 12, 2011 at 10:24 pm

Thank you so much for this great review and for your encouragement to get folks out to the readings! Looking forward to meeting another busy mom!


bad mummy March 11, 2011 at 8:52 am

My struggle? Whether to drink the kool-aid or not…do I take the anti-depressants that have more side effects than effects or struggle on w/o pharmecutial help? Every year or so, I take a break from the meds and see if I can make it on my own and I, inevitably, end up back at my dr’s office, ‘fessing up to not following his advice.


Memoirs of a Single Dad March 10, 2011 at 8:17 pm

The first two memoirs sound fantastic but the third sounds outstanding and quite relevant to my situation as well. Jennifer’s experience sounds like a Cinderella story! I do hope it has the happy ending, too. Can’t wait to read them!


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