Every week, I’ve moved more things from my home into his home… really making it our home. In between all this blending together, we are also planning our addition — and learning a lot about each other. Case in point:
When we first started to plan the details of our dream home, we went out for pizza, just the two of us. That’s when TP pulled out a bank piece of drawing paper, the kind that architects use, and pushed it across the table towards me.
I touched the crinkly paper, and looked up at him, blank.
“Go ahead and use it,” he told me. “Draw whatever you imagine.”
When my man dreams, it comes in images and shapes. Just for fun, he’ll pull out a drafting pencil to sketch a bedroom with a view, or draw a reading nook with a comfy chair. He sees the world in 3-D. In his spare time, he loves to design with “Sketch Up,” a program that our friend Jim introduced him to.
That night, I thanked him, then folded up the white paper and tucked it into my bag. I wish I could tell you that I went back to that paper and drew a house with lots of windows and a lovely front door.
Yet, if you give me a piece of paper, I just want to do one thing: fill it up with words.
I think in lists: shower vs. bath, sustainable bamboo vs. wood, lots of light is a must. Any bit of drawing I do comes in the form of writing down ideas — and then drawing clouds around them, like this:
We have so many dreams and expectations about what home means. Some nights, it feels like all we do is talk about the house. FOR HOURS. Often, imagining our dream home is lots of fun. And sometimes all of this communicating is really damn hard.
My friend T told me over the phone today: “You’ll be A LOT closer when this is over.”
“This” as in the three of us living together in less than 700 square feet, in the midst of construction.
So, back to living together — I know that MANY of you come with much experience in this department:
What’s your No. 1 piece of advice when you’re setting up house together?
If you could offer one tip to live in harmony with your man/woman, what would it be?
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