Comments on: The addition

By: Another addition | Single Mom Seeking

Another addition | Single Mom Seeking — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 03:58:26 +0000

[...] As most of you know, we’re adding onto our little home: [...]

By: Looking through windows | Single Mom Seeking

Looking through windows | Single Mom Seeking — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 23:53:52 +0000

[...] that note, we spent months researching windows for our addition. Our goal was to find stylish windows that reduced energy use in a cost-efficient way. That’s [...]

By: From “I” to “we” | Single Mom Seeking

From “I” to “we” | Single Mom Seeking — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 00:26:22 +0000

[...] our contractors– a team of five guys — who sit around the table with us to chat about our addition and answer [...]

By: Anxiety and the American Institute of Architects Home Tour | Single Mom Seeking

Wed, 10 Aug 2011 22:55:21 +0000

[...] is: any big life changes bring anxiety, whether you’re getting married, moving, or building an addition onto your home. The question is, “How do you deal with that [...]

By: Erecting a 9 foot post | Single Mom Seeking

Erecting a 9 foot post | Single Mom Seeking — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 01:35:38 +0000

[...] — a man who loves his tools — this past spring was a big change. Now that I’m face-to-face with contractors and carpenters every week, there’s a constant stream of testosterone around [...]

By: Getting ready to break ground | Single Mom Seeking

Getting ready to break ground | Single Mom Seeking — Tue, 07 Jun 2011 19:05:40 +0000

[...] the madness is about to begin. Everyone has warned me that building an addition is going to be a challenge for our new family. We might drive each other crazy, squeezed into 700 [...]

By: Dean Kaplan

Dean Kaplan — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 18:36:10 +0000

I agree about money conversations being tough. I don't know why they are. When my wife and I have a scheduled time to speak about finances, it's always a dreadful spot on my calendar. I can't put my finger on why it's so tough to talk about. Is it a hard subject for people that have excess money? That's what I wonder. .-= Dean Kaplan´s last blog ..Hate Your Ex =-.

By: BlueBella

BlueBella — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 15:08:19 +0000

Wow – you’re right – we’re definitely in a similar space right now!

It can be hard to accept change after being a single Mom for so long. You have all the responsibility, all the decision making, all the blame to take. . . but you also don’t have to share any of those things, either – it’s your way or no way. Letting some of this go to another person can be very scary, especially when it comes to something as huge as your home!

I hope you can both be kind to one another and trust that each of you is making decisions based on what’s best for your new family.

I am lucky in that our transition has been quite smooth, though we still do own MM’s house as well . . . so mentally he still has that space to house his ‘former life’. I imagine when that goes away we’ll have more shuffling to do, and maybe a bit of panic, but hopefully in the mean time the trust we have for each other will continue to build and his comfort in my house being our new home keeps pace.
.-= BlueBella´s last blog ..Things I Make My Husband Do =-.

By: SDMktg

SDMktg — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 07:54:14 +0000

I struggle with this all of the time. My kids’ school was based on their mom’s home up until last year. When she moved away I moved back into the neighborhood so the kids could stay at the same school. Now as I think about marriage and the housing market in my area I still worry about keeping the kids in the same school because they are doing really well there. I’ve also made a really nice home for me and the kids and I’m worried about the blending process. I hate the idea of “man caves”. I don’t want all of my stuff relegated to one room. I’m sure it can all be worked out but change is stressful. Good luck Rachel and congrats.

By: Empowerment Guy

Empowerment Guy — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 17:42:53 +0000

My mother remarried and split homes for the first few months until the new family home was done. The only thing that mattered to me was that I knew how loved and important I was to my mother and that my new step dad was a great guy who treated all of us (my mother, my sister & myself) with Love & respect. As long as kids know how important and loved they are there will be no problems (kind of like adults huh?) Good Luck w/everything!