Comments on: Snapshot: When a single mom gets remarried http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/ Remarried and Remodeling Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:21:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Single Mommy Makin It http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15589 Single Mommy Makin It Sat, 19 Jun 2010 21:22:02 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15589 Oh man. I'm just trying to get past the third date... Oh man. I’m just trying to get past the third date…

]]> By: My ex invited me to his wedding. I think? | Singlemommyhood.com http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15485 My ex invited me to his wedding. I think? | Singlemommyhood.com Fri, 04 Jun 2010 10:02:00 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15485 [...] wedding plans with her? We know that many of you have an ex who has gotten remarried — and some of you are getting remarried yourselves! Thanks for any thoughts you might add! ~~~ (Photo courtesy of [...] [...] wedding plans with her? We know that many of you have an ex who has gotten remarried — and some of you are getting remarried yourselves! Thanks for any thoughts you might add! ~~~ (Photo courtesy of [...]

]]> By: Shannon http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15381 Shannon Sun, 16 May 2010 13:38:05 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15381 Hi Rachel, I'm so excited that you're getting remarried! When I first discovered your site, I was a single mom and then became BsMommy at Former Single Mommy...after my remarriage two years ago. Full time step-parenting and blending the family has been a fun challenge, but sometimes frustrating as well. I wish you all the best and will definitely continue to follow your blog for years to come. Hi Rachel, I’m so excited that you’re getting remarried! When I first discovered your site, I was a single mom and then became BsMommy at Former Single Mommy…after my remarriage two years ago. Full time step-parenting and blending the family has been a fun challenge, but sometimes frustrating as well. I wish you all the best and will definitely continue to follow your blog for years to come.

]]> By: Lucy http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15353 Lucy Mon, 10 May 2010 18:48:41 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15353 I'm exactly the same. Never planned on being a single parent, but I am. My daughter is almost 15 and I am the only parent she has ever had and known. I decided shortly after her birth that I would raise her on my own and not bring a man into our lives. When she first started school, she was probably the only one in her class who didn't have 2 parents. But, that changed rather quickly, and year after year, many of her friend's parents were splitting up. My daughter saw many of her friends go through great sadness in their lives and many of these kids still struggle. Over the years, I've had so many women tell me how much they envy me and my daughter. I have no regrets in my decision to raise my daughter myself, but I do have to admit that the fact that I have always made a good income plus have had family and friends close by to help has made it all easier for us. My daughter has grown up in a house where she is free and not exposed to adults fighting and making each other miserable. I do not want to bring a man into my life as long as she lives with me since I always want her to feel free and secure in her home. Many people ask me about missing the company of a man, especially the physical parts, and I do have to admit that yes, on occasion I do. However, I can't have it all, can I, and I have chosen to put what I believe are in my child's best interests ahead of mine. In my opinion, she has developed into a beautiful, confident and well-rounded young lady, and I'm confident that one day she will look back on her childhood with great memories. However, all this being said, I don't purport to claim that my family's dynamics are for everyone, but I just wanted people to know that being a single parent has been a great phase in my life and my family is happy! I’m exactly the same. Never planned on being a single parent, but I am. My daughter is almost 15 and I am the only parent she has ever had and known. I decided shortly after her birth that I would raise her on my own and not bring a man into our lives. When she first started school, she was probably the only one in her class who didn’t have 2 parents. But, that changed rather quickly, and year after year, many of her friend’s parents were splitting up. My daughter saw many of her friends go through great sadness in their lives and many of these kids still struggle. Over the years, I’ve had so many women tell me how much they envy me and my daughter. I have no regrets in my decision to raise my daughter myself, but I do have to admit that the fact that I have always made a good income plus have had family and friends close by to help has made it all easier for us. My daughter has grown up in a house where she is free and not exposed to adults fighting and making each other miserable. I do not want to bring a man into my life as long as she lives with me since I always want her to feel free and secure in her home. Many people ask me about missing the company of a man, especially the physical parts, and I do have to admit that yes, on occasion I do. However, I can’t have it all, can I, and I have chosen to put what I believe are in my child’s best interests ahead of mine. In my opinion, she has developed into a beautiful, confident and well-rounded young lady, and I’m confident that one day she will look back on her childhood with great memories. However, all this being said, I don’t purport to claim that my family’s dynamics are for everyone, but I just wanted people to know that being a single parent has been a great phase in my life and my family is happy!

]]> By: Kat Wilder http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15351 Kat Wilder Mon, 10 May 2010 14:17:54 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15351 Thanks for writing back, Tinamarie. I certainly don't want to sound judgmental — wasn't my intent, especially when all the details aren't known (nor do I expect them to be and, yes, Rachel is a wonder indeed!) I do know in many situations, a parent can not or should not be present in a child's life. That said, I know teens and adults who did have a parent move away, and the abandonment issues are painful and long-lasting. Of course, divorce alone can do that! .-= Kat Wilder´s last blog ..<a href="http://katwilder.com/2010/05/high-times-at-high-school/" rel="nofollow">High times at high school</a> =-. Thanks for writing back, Tinamarie. I certainly don’t want to sound judgmental — wasn’t my intent, especially when all the details aren’t known (nor do I expect them to be and, yes, Rachel is a wonder indeed!) I do know in many situations, a parent can not or should not be present in a child’s life.

That said, I know teens and adults who did have a parent move away, and the abandonment issues are painful and long-lasting. Of course, divorce alone can do that!
Kat Wilder´s last blog ..High times at high school My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Tinamarie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15349 Tinamarie Sun, 09 May 2010 18:55:53 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15349 Congrats! You are right - if we were 20 something, the timeline would have been very different. Since we were both married previously for 9 years (which means that between us, we had 18 years marital experience) we circumvented lots of the fluff of dating and got down to the nitty gritty of love and relationship. Do I recommend it for everyone? Not necesarily. But I do recommend listening to that small, still voice inside that knows the best answer for YOU. Congrats!
You are right – if we were 20 something, the timeline would have been very different. Since we were both married previously for 9 years (which means that between us, we had 18 years marital experience) we circumvented lots of the fluff of dating and got down to the nitty gritty of love and relationship. Do I recommend it for everyone? Not necesarily. But I do recommend listening to that small, still voice inside that knows the best answer for YOU.

]]> By: Tinamarie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15348 Tinamarie Sun, 09 May 2010 18:53:16 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15348 HI Kat - I appreciate your concern here. For the record, it was actually a good thing for my son. I won't disparage anyone here, and his father loves his son. But as we all know, it takes more than love to be a good parent. Now my boy gets the best of all things - two fathers, 3 sets of grandparents, and more love and support than he did when his father lived 10 minutes away. Rachel respected me by not including certain private details about our move, and for that I am grateful! She's quite a wonder, isn't she!? HI Kat – I appreciate your concern here. For the record, it was actually a good thing for my son. I won’t disparage anyone here, and his father loves his son. But as we all know, it takes more than love to be a good parent. Now my boy gets the best of all things – two fathers, 3 sets of grandparents, and more love and support than he did when his father lived 10 minutes away. Rachel respected me by not including certain private details about our move, and for that I am grateful! She’s quite a wonder, isn’t she!?

]]> By: Tinamarie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15347 Tinamarie Sun, 09 May 2010 18:49:53 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15347 Thank you Michelle! :) Thank you Michelle! :)

]]> By: Tinamarie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15346 Tinamarie Sun, 09 May 2010 18:49:13 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15346 It's difficult to do this. I don't know if we ever fully get through transitions. Each day brings a new challenge in this area for us. The best gift is seeing the growing bond between my son and his step dad. It's remarkable how kids take us places we'd never imagine in our hearts and minds. Good luck! It’s difficult to do this. I don’t know if we ever fully get through transitions. Each day brings a new challenge in this area for us. The best gift is seeing the growing bond between my son and his step dad. It’s remarkable how kids take us places we’d never imagine in our hearts and minds. Good luck!

]]> By: Tinamarie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/04/snapshot-when-a-single-mom-gets-remarried/comment-page-1/#comment-15345 Tinamarie Sun, 09 May 2010 18:47:33 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6983#comment-15345 Good luck and congratulations! Good luck and congratulations!

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