Comments on: Allowing http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/ Trust me on this: Love. Family. Parenting. Dating. Tue, 07 Sep 2010 12:56:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Vanna http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14609 Vanna Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:51:41 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14609 that was just a sample of what I've been reflecting on. I don't have any desire to allow myself to have a new girlfriend yet. that was just a sample of what I’ve been reflecting on. I don’t have any desire to allow myself to have a new girlfriend yet.

]]> By: Vanna http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14597 Vanna Fri, 12 Feb 2010 06:57:03 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14597 Yeah, Knowing the difference between pity and grief from a partner and allowing my new girlfriend time to adjust to my disability. I've had a lifetime to acquire and learn the skils I practice today, but she hasn't been with me my whole life. If my disability was acquired, I'd say adjust myself, but it is not. It is form birth. also, relaxing my self-sufficient attitude and let her help me. I realize I cannot do everything on my own, but most things, I can. Yeah,
Knowing the difference between pity and grief from a partner and allowing my new girlfriend time to adjust to my disability. I’ve had a lifetime to acquire and learn the skils I practice today, but she hasn’t been with me my whole life. If my disability was acquired, I’d say adjust myself, but it is not. It is form birth. also, relaxing my self-sufficient attitude and let her help me. I realize I cannot do everything on my own, but most things, I can.

]]> By: Bonnie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14581 Bonnie Thu, 11 Feb 2010 14:00:01 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14581 Oh goodness Rachel and T! Yes, we ladies have been programmed to run the show after being in situations where we constantly rise up to organize, take care of our families, pay the bills, develop our careers, and run happy homes it is really hard to let go! We constantly have this issue in our home and I'm remarried! I didn't even make it through an entire weekend of "letting go" recently. I have been consciously trying to learn to trust that things can get done with someone else in charge and that their way of doing it will be just fine-to let go of the details. That all of what I have worked for will not go out the window and down the drain! Oh goodness Rachel and T! Yes, we ladies have been programmed to run the show after being in situations where we constantly rise up to organize, take care of our families, pay the bills, develop our careers, and run happy homes it is really hard to let go! We constantly have this issue in our home and I’m remarried! I didn’t even make it through an entire weekend of “letting go” recently. I have been consciously trying to learn to trust that things can get done with someone else in charge and that their way of doing it will be just fine-to let go of the details. That all of what I have worked for will not go out the window and down the drain!

]]> By: Single Mom Seeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14578 Single Mom Seeking Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:41:18 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14578 @Pippi: I hear you, too! I'm the worst at comparing the past to the present... and creating anxiety about imagined problems to-be. Oy. LG has reminded me, "But I'm not that guy!" .-= Single Mom Seeking´s last blog ..<a href="http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/" rel="nofollow">Allowing</a> =-. @Pippi: I hear you, too! I’m the worst at comparing the past to the present… and creating anxiety about imagined problems to-be. Oy. LG has reminded me, “But I’m not that guy!”
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]]> By: Single Mom Seeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14577 Single Mom Seeking Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:40:20 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14577 Oh sweet Nicki! I feel you! You seem incredibly conscious of your actions, and I hope you can really enjoy your next meal together... you're more than worth it! .-= Single Mom Seeking´s last blog ..<a href="http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/" rel="nofollow">Allowing</a> =-. Oh sweet Nicki! I feel you!

You seem incredibly conscious of your actions, and I hope you can really enjoy your next meal together… you’re more than worth it!
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]]> By: Love Coach Rinatta http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14575 Love Coach Rinatta Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:46:42 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14575 Rachel, I love this part of what you said: "whenever I start to get scared, I slow down. Instead of shutting off, I sit with these unpleasant feelings — which sometimes seem unbearable — and continue to allow love to come in." That's good approach for any area of life! And it is often very hard to do, for me included. On the other hand, many women in our generation have a very hard letting men just be men. We are programmed to be equal, to share the burden, to be independent. But relationships are a dance. You know, when you watch ballroom dancing, is the woman any less spectacular because she's not leading, any less powerful because she lets the man lead, any less in control of herself? Allowing him to lead, to take care of can be amazing for both partners. .-= Love Coach Rinatta´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LoveCoachBlog/~3/P4w180WFOks/" rel="nofollow">Win Free Valentines Flowers Contest</a> =-. Rachel, I love this part of what you said:
“whenever I start to get scared, I slow down. Instead of shutting off, I sit with these unpleasant feelings — which sometimes seem unbearable — and continue to allow love to come in.”

That’s good approach for any area of life! And it is often very hard to do, for me included.

On the other hand, many women in our generation have a very hard letting men just be men. We are programmed to be equal, to share the burden, to be independent. But relationships are a dance.

You know, when you watch ballroom dancing, is the woman any less spectacular because she’s not leading, any less powerful because she lets the man lead, any less in control of herself?

Allowing him to lead, to take care of can be amazing for both partners.
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]]> By: uberVU - social comments http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14574 uberVU - social comments Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:44:09 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14574 <strong>Social comments and analytics for this post...</strong> This post was mentioned on Twitter by JennFinds: Allowing http://bit.ly/9zDFnR... Social comments and analytics for this post…

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]]> By: Jolene http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14573 Jolene Wed, 10 Feb 2010 18:50:50 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14573 Love this post - and though I can only relate from being on the single side (and not yet in a relationship, post divorce), I totally relate with what you say about being "in the driver's seat" and needing to adjust to some give and take with a relationship and getting accustomed to each other's styles/routines etc. I think that's something that will be a big transition for me, but one I'll look forward to embracing, at the same time :) .-= Jolene´s last blog ..<a href="http://tbdetermined.wordpress.com/2010/02/10/coping-with-imperfection-and-letting-go/" rel="nofollow">Coping with imperfection and letting go…</a> =-. Love this post – and though I can only relate from being on the single side (and not yet in a relationship, post divorce), I totally relate with what you say about being “in the driver’s seat” and needing to adjust to some give and take with a relationship and getting accustomed to each other’s styles/routines etc. I think that’s something that will be a big transition for me, but one I’ll look forward to embracing, at the same time :)
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]]> By: lovebabz http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14571 lovebabz Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:59:48 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14571 I was supposed to pop over here today and get God's meesage through your post today. I am standing in my defining moment for love right now. Contemplating surrending to the "allowing" My Beloved is a man's Man. He is very serious about that...and I, like you, have grown accustomed to be ing the driver's seat. You are giving much to discern and act on. I am always asking the question: Who and I and What Do I Want? Thank you for the post. .-= lovebabz´s last blog ..<a href="http://lovebabz.blogspot.com/2010/02/this-is-my-defining-moment-in-love.html" rel="nofollow">MY DEFINING MOMENT FOR LOVE</a> =-. I was supposed to pop over here today and get God’s meesage through your post today. I am standing in my defining moment for love right now. Contemplating surrending to the “allowing” My Beloved is a man’s Man. He is very serious about that…and I, like you, have grown accustomed to be ing the driver’s seat. You are giving much to discern and act on. I am always asking the question: Who and I and What Do I Want?
Thank you for the post.
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]]> By: Amira http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2010/02/allowing/comment-page-1/#comment-14570 Amira Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:49:50 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6588#comment-14570 Allowing...yes. Allowing ourselves to trust ourselves and to trust others. For some of us, that takes a lot of time and a lot of having it proved that trust can be placed in the "arms" of those trying to secure it. Allowing…yes. Allowing ourselves to trust ourselves and to trust others. For some of us, that takes a lot of time and a lot of having it proved that trust can be placed in the “arms” of those trying to secure it.

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