Is there room to dance?

by singlemomseeking on January 26, 2010

When I first started to date again as a single mom, I first flirted with men who were “behind the counter.”

Yes, literally.  For starters, there was that guy who sold me chicken at the grocery store. He was on one side of the counter, and I was on the other. Go ahead and laugh, but his distance felt safe. Something about that counter created a wall, and there was room to step away.

Do you know what I’m talking about?

There comes a point when you wonder what it means: to meet someone when there’s NO counter between you two? Trust me, I know how scary this is. But only here do you have the space to step forward, only here can you hold each other and truly feel vulnerable.

When there’s room to dance together, you have potential. When you meet each other in the middle — with the possibility of reaching out — you might meet love.


Don’t get me wrong: most of you who come to this blog are single parents. When your kids are watching from the sidelines, it can be challenging to get close and have boundaries at the same time.

But let’s imagine that you’re on the dance floor — and your kids are with a reliable sitter! How are you going to take a risk? How will you step forward? How will you say “yes”?

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