Comments on: Remind yourself that everything will work out

By: Andrea

Andrea — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 15:45:03 +0000

I’m late on this one, but I thought I’d chime in with something a bit different.

Back in my wiccan days I learned a kind of trancework that basically involves walking towards your fear. That’s really overly simplified but this is just a comment box … so …. Anyway. After a few years of doing that one day I had a revelation that this wasn’t something I should do just in trances, but in life in general–that fear is often a signal of a lesson that needs to be learned or something that needs to be mastered, and the best way to do that is to walk straight into it.

It doesn’t make the fear go away at all, but it does make it a bit easier to tolerate. And it makes my life much richer too, because it’s true that often what I am most terrified of is what I most need to learn or do.

That fear may be your best signal that this is exactly what you need to be doing right now.

By: T

Mon, 07 Dec 2009 21:22:39 +0000

Whew! I’m so glad its not just ME who gets this way.

Giant hugs, my sweet Rachel. Love to you and yours!
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By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 01:13:00 +0000

True @BigLittleWolf, he does seem to feel scared sometimes, too — I guess I’m just much more expressive about it.

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 01:12:25 +0000

Wow, @Swati, you hit it on the head for me, thanks: “I am in love now …but sometimes doubt creeps in and I just sort of tighten up, waiting for something to happen…but my boyfriend comes through every time. Every time. That’s what I keep reminding myself.”

Here’s to hot cocoa….

By: Swati Bharteey

Swati Bharteey — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 21:06:37 +0000

Yes, I want that completely trusting feeling back! I’ts blissful to be in love and feel completely secure. Unfortunately, when I did that, it did not end well. And that’s probably why I can’t totally relax.

I am in love now …but sometimes doubt creeps in and I just sort of tighten up, waiting for something to happen…but my boyfriend comes through every time. Every time. That’s what I keep reminding myself.

I guess you need to protect youself somewhat from the world. But I look forward to the day when I will stop checking to make sure I’m not being gullible about something and just trust that a) this is real; and/or b) my expert gut will tell me if something is up…so I needn’t worry about it all the time.

I need a hot chocolate now.

- Swati
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By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 19:35:45 +0000

It is a great post and a great question. Fear goes hand-in-hand with vulnerability, and disappointing experiences. When your child’s happiness may also be at risk, the fear is more expansive. And he’s probably feeling some of the same emotions, which seems like a good sign.
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By: Jodie at Mummy Mayhem

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 10:58:18 +0000

I think whatever happens, you have to listen to your inner voice. You know the one that niggles at you and tells you when you should or shouldn’t do something? Call it your gut instinct, your spiritual tug or the holy spirt (depending on your beliefs). It’s always right. You just have to listen.

This concern that lingers could be a warning, but if you really listen to that inner voice of yours, you might find it’s telling you that you’re worrying unnecessarily, and the concerns you have are unfounded. Personally, I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s the latter.

Good luck.
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By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 21:19:57 +0000

The same reason some of us cry when we are happy — fear that it will go away.

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By: StudentMama

StudentMama — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 17:43:11 +0000

It is interesting reading the responses here. I’ve always looked at fear as negative…my inability to “settle in” and my difficulty giving away power. All these wonderful comments make me realize that it isn’t all or nothing, and perhaps the fear is our natural response to wade into the waters of trust and comfort verses doing a cannonball as I always seem to do!

= )
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