Sure, it’s a movie named after a Facebook relationship status. But you better believe that I’ll be seeing this flick when it comes out this month.
[Update: I've got to thank LoveBabz for pointing out the double standard here, especially in the midst of Tiger Woods' recent transgressions: "This is a film about infidelity," she says. "And somehow this is charming and romantic. Infidelity is painful and hurts people."]
Yes, this Christmas comedy features a love triangle between Meryl Streep, Alec Baldwin, and Steve Martin.
Jane (Streep), the mother of three grown kids, owns a thriving Santa Barbara bakery/restaurant and has—after a decade of divorce—an amicable relationship with her ex-husband, attorney Jake (Baldwin). But when Jane and Jake find themselves out of town for their son’s college graduation, things start to get complicated.
An innocent meal together turns into the unimaginable—an affair. With Jake remarried to the much younger Agness (Lake Bell), Jane is now, of all things, the other woman.
Caught in the middle of their renewed romance is Adam (Martin), an architect hired to remodel Jane’s kitchen. Healing from a divorce of his own, Adam starts to fall for Jane, but soon realizes he’s become part of a love triangle.
Should Jane and Jake move on with their lives, or is love truly lovelier the second time around? It’s…complicated.
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Simply share why it’s complicated.
Contest is open until Dec. 18.
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WHY IS COMPLICATED? Because we can’t read minds!!!
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Why It’s Complicated? Because Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars and they collide frequently! LOL
First of all let me say I love Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin is still a very good looking man. But this is a film about infidelity. And somehow this is charming and romantic. Infidelity is painful and hurts people. And I know this film will be fun and light hearted, but I am seeing a double standard in our real lives versus what we are willing to tolerate in films. OK…getting off my soapbox. (I know… I am SO not winning the prize)
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@lovebabz: Stay on your soapbox!
Your perceptive comment is so right on. On my other blog at Singlemommyhood, I’m writing about how painful the whole Tiger Woods situation is – and then, here, I’m giving away tickets to a light comedy about infidelity. Your words are very poignant: “I am seeing a double standard in our real lives versus what we are willing to tolerate in films.”
i agree. completly? so lovebabz got the price? do i have to make my comment? well..i dont care…but i would glad, allthough my comment is trivial
but btw, love ur blog…
Are you ready for an overshare in comments? Great!
It’s complicated because I don’t want to hate him. I don’t want to hate this person he picked over his family. I don’t want to because she will be part of my daughters life. And I know that my hostility (rage, aggression, despair and hurt) will show through to my girl….and I don’t want to screw her up for the rest of her life. So I’m trying not to….I am trying – but for the love of Nutella its fucking hard. And complicated.
@Cass: You know that I love overshares….
I agree with Lovebabz. While I so love a romantic comedy, I am not a fan or proponent of infidelity. Look at Tiger Woods! Infidelity hurts people and should never be condoned, even among former marrieds. People need to truly decide what they want and stick with it, or not bother to get married in the first place. Remember when marriage vows used to be sacred? Nowadays people make a mockery of the ideal of marriage, without even a second thought or consideration for who they may be hurting. Ugh!!
It’s complicated because life, love and happiness are complicated.
Is that cliche or what?
Aw, I love Cass’ comment.
Its complicated because no matter what mistakes we or someone else makes, we’re still trying really hard to love and be loved.
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It’s complicated because our head gives us all the reasons we should be angry and hurt and willing to let go and yet our heart reminds us of the good, of the “what might have been” and heaven help us when they smell good!
It’s funny that you metioned the Facebook status in relation to the movies title.
My son’s ‘father’/(in quotes for a reason, lol)……chose that as his status EVEN when we were still together/LIVING together….jerk…ONE of the MANY reasons I ended it with him…
It’s not “complicated” anymore….at least for him….I don’t think he still knows what hit him OR even believes that it’s true/that I (we) have our own life now…away and free from him and all of the drama and heartaches……
Oh my! It’s complicated because we all forget the KISS motto! I told my ex that his life was complicated because he chooses it to be. I am raising my daughters to avoid the drama by four simple words:
KEEP
IT
SIMPLE
STUPID
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its complicated? because some of us wanna make a cool movie with famous, lovely actors, an they need some stuff to deal with. i think, thats the reason, why there are these little differences between women and men. BECAUSE GOD WANTED NANCY MEYERS TO DIRECT A MOVIE, WHICH WE ALL ARE GOING TO LOVE!
Ok, here’s my take: It’s complicated because we want different things at different times! Some people want different things over the years, and others (me?) want different things from a man almost from day to day.
I’m wondering these days if loving multiple men for their own individual selves might be actually worth the downside of never settling down with just one guy “forever”?
It’s complicated because life (and people) are full of surprises. I certainly didn’t think I’d be on this path at this point in my life.
You guys rock…. I love the comments and my heart bleeds for some of you dealing with the very thing that is made lighthearted in the movie. I don’t want to be guilty of falling victim to being entertained by the very thing that places some people at a point of depression and even worse… yet… it is Alec Baldwin… and Meryl Streep…
If we maintain for ourselves our own morality and ideals and remember that reality of life and its hurtful parts is not a part of theater… but instead theater is our escape from the real world… Does that make us watching and laughing and rooting for one side… better or ok?
Seriously, good thoughts here… but I am asking that question…. and will probably end up watching the movie…. just to see it and critique it for myself… of course.
its complicated, because there is this “crazy little thing, called love”. oh, i know, that sounds creapy, and you heard/read this 1000 times before, but dont stop reading this comment, please. only these few lines about a subject which is one of the most interesting but also painful ingredients of our life. let me say, love is stupid.
it makes us feel victorious and self confident, and so it helps. for the first time. and then, to get back to the question, it starts to become complicated. this lucky feeling leaves us, when we find another man/woman, fits perfectly into our crazy world. or when someone returns, and there r still feelings for him/her. we can control ourselves even if we r drunk, or stoned, or afraid to fly, whatever…but we cant control our heart, especially when it beats for someone else.
so i think, making a movie about THAT is the only thing that shows us these coherences in an easier way. so we got perfect entertainment for the broken hearted, for the ones who fell in love and don’t even know the lucky one who is mr./mrs. right, for the older, wiser people who r still in this tricky mood of being alone or unmarried (what is not SO bad
) or, last but not least, for the crazy fans of mez streep and alec. they r both sooo lovely, that i cant wait for the release of THIS MOVIE!
so, face the fact that its complicated, whatever we do, but its there for a reason. lets face the fact, that we can help ourselves with thinking about our crazy instincts and tryin to enjoy nancy meyers perfect work about everyones marrow.
Wow, @K: You sure said it, didn’t you?
yes…
but it took AGES to think about these tricky feelings and to formulate my thoughts, cos english is not my mother-tongue. but im sooo glad u liked it 
my life. that’s all i can say. it’s complicated.
I’m with T. . . loving and being loved is pretty much the goal.
And then there’s also this history with the ex – at one time you wanted to spend the rest of your life with them and shared many of the most significant life events together – marriage, birth of children, homes, etc.
It’s hard not to still have love in there somewhere for that person -I know I still love my ex, but it took years for that to come back around, and it isn’t in the same fashion. Complicated? For sure.
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Why is it complicated? Because we live in a society where many people operate based on thier emotions and not thier morals… (and I’m not saying that in judgement of anyone here… just of the movie that, just by looking at the previews, seems to glorify infidenity as ‘fun’ and something that ‘just happens’.
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It’s complicated because at one point all you ever wanted was to spend the rest of your life with someone and now she has her own ringtone so you can screen her calls.
This made me snort Ginger Ale out my nose. It stings – but it’s totally worth it.
It’s complicated because we are raised to believe in the fairy tale ending… yet when we marry we are usually too young to truly understand the depth of that commitment. Distractions like work, the white picket fence dream now realized and a family ….one day you awaken after the children are raised and you begin to realize that you have both grown and become sometimes very different people. Different needs…. different in your relationship and the one “til death us do part” becomes more of of a cliche than an ability to fulfill the contract.
For me… (cliff notes here) … my “awakening” came after losing 7 loved ones in 14 months, my mom being he most difficult to lose. I then lost two beloved pets 19 days apart, my marriage crumbling and my job was so stress filled that I resigned my position. I am still arried (together 30 yrs) and sleeping in separate bedrooms for going on three of them.
For the last 4 1/2 yrs I’ve endured so much that a movie could be made from this life of lessons…. so, simply stated … IT’S COMPLICATED.
It’s complicated because more than one person is involved – ex, children, new loves, etc….
It’s complicated because in almost all ways, men and women are completely incompatible…we think differently, we communicate differently, we deal with conflict differently, and in times of stress we need polar opposite things and can’t understand why the other needs what they need. Marriage is the constant struggle to overcome these differences. Those who do overcome the incompatibility have learned to use compromise, humor, and practical solutions to problems that seem unsolvable to the rest of universe.
It’s the above or just that God made it complicated for his/her own amusement.
I love Meryl Streep…will have to check it out!! I’ll tell you why it’s complicated: (for me anyway!)
It’s complicated because you are in love– heart, mind and soul with an older man who is afraid of PHYSICALLY committing to you, and only wants to live with you 1-3 months out of the year and head back home the rest of the time. (did i mention “back home” is 2000 miles away?) YET, he is committed to you EMOTIONALLY and says he loves you….so you just talk on the phone every night when you are apart. what’s wrong with this picture?? Is this really how life is supposed to be>? To each his own, i suppose…but sadly, it isn’t working for me!
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It’s complicated because we never want to realize that it really is simple. Love is simple, it’s us who complicates with all of our He said, She said. Almost all complications arise from a miss-communication that then leads to another miss-communication.
It will no longer be complicated when you desire to understand first, then be understood.
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To be honest I don’t like Meryl Streep, but at this film “It’s Complicated” I can enjoy watching her action.
Divorce was difficult; but nevertheless the relationship after the divorce is sometimes even more difficult: there are some messages that we can learn from this film.
Nancy Meyers may have tapped into the market for middle aged women, but she’s only at the top because she’s the only one in it. Meyers is not an especially great screenwriter or director. The dialogue is nothing special, and her direction is flat, which renders the drama more inert than it should be. The comedy only works because of the actors, not Meyers; this should be construed as a compliment to Streep, Baldwin and Martin, since the comedy is not adequately set up. Many of the plot points exist because Meyers is trying to follow the formula of “romantic comedy,” even if what happens doesn’t make sense.
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Franny: Thanks for the compliment! I don’t link that @lovebabz is too intent on seeing the movie… I won’t be choosing the winners until Dec. 18. So, you’re in the running!
thx for ur answer…just saw u wrote that 18. dec thing…im overlooked that, sorry, just a bit confused…but im going to watch that movie really sure…I HAVE TO! dont understand how poeple can resist meryls smile and alecs humor