Comments on: His Facebook status. Again.

By: sugarplum

sugarplum — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 18:16:54 +0000

I think I’m a bit late on this post, but the never the less I could still relate. Me and the BF have been together now for about 9 months, and has not changed his facebook status. I’ve tried to ask him in a non psychotic jealous sounding way, but he says he likes to leave his private life, private. What bugs me though, is that when he was with his ex, he did have her on his status ( we were friends before dating). I don’t know. He’s also not that facebook saavy and rarely comments or posts things on peoples pages

All in all, I’ve accepted this and focused on the real life stuff, like meeting his parents, family and friends..

Thanks for the post, made me realize I’m not the only one who thinks about these things!!

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 18:55:08 +0000

@MissGreyDay: I can tell that you get it!! I’m learning every day to focus on what real love is, too. Maybe I’m just learning that for the first time in my life…. In the meantime, I changed my Facebook status to “engaged” and LG has left his as blank. His friends are telling him to just loosen up and let go… Wow. Yet he’s a man who holds tight to his convictions, and 99 percent of the time, I love that about him!

By: MissGreyDay

MissGreyDay — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 17:35:01 +0000

So interesting, I JUST had this talk with my new boyfriend. I am a lot like you Rachael, I like to shout it from the rooftops and he is the same as LG, wants to keep his private life…private. I guess I’ve just learned that actions speak louder than words (online words, too) and to focus on his “real life” declarations of love. (Introducing me to family and friends, meeting my family and friends).

It’s great to know that I’m not the ONLY one who may have struggled with this issue. Thanks!

By: Allowing | Single Mom Seeking

Allowing | Single Mom Seeking — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 07:15:11 +0000

[...] That Lucky Guy and I struggle with this sometimes, too. We’ve both been single for a long time. He’s used to being in the driver’s seat, so am I. Yeah, controlling does signify fear, doesn’t it! (No thank you backseat drivers!) We’re working on this, and I love the fact that we seem to have found this sweet give-and-take in the kitchen when we cook together. [...]

By: Lilly

Lilly — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 03:21:41 +0000

I hear you there, I also had my reserves when it came to my now husband. Trust me, it can be worst. When you are with someone who’s divorced with a child; who maintains daily contact with them, let’s just say, it is not a bed of roses all the time.
As a person you have to work on your self esteem every day. Telling yourself how important and beautiful you are and how it is always better to be by yourself than living with the wrong person.
That said, there are a LOT of great guys out there (including my husband), who take pride of who they are with but not necessarily have the need to shout it all around.
So, having my own experiences on the subject, DO NOT worry if your boyfriend/husband does not do things the way you would do them yourself. We are driven by feelings, they are driven by logic. Which will make a LOT of difference in the way we behave and act.
Good Luck to you all!

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:22:42 +0000

Going to check that out now @Viv. Thanks!

By: Anita

Anita — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:13:39 +0000

Oh I agree, Facebook is the devil! My trust issues together with FB have a whole lot to do with my recent relationship turning sour

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 13:15:55 +0000

I am completely with your BF on this one. I have no personal information whatsoever on FB, and I like it that way. I simply don’t find it an appropriate place – for me – to declare personal feelings of any sort, about anyone in particular. It’s for information, dissemination of information, and occasionally locating friends who’ve moved about.

Personal feelings are for face-to-face, phone, even a good old fashioned note in postal mail.
.-= BigLittleWolf´s last blog ..Sex vs Lovemaking – why are we so confused? =-.

By: LA Single Mama

LA Single Mama — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:19:44 +0000

I have a friend who was upset because her boyfriend didn’t tell her he loved her enough — yet, he spent an entire weekend fixing her porch, he always stops at the store if she needs it, he pays for things he knows she would like, but can’t afford, etc.

It’s probably obvious that I told her — he does tell you he loves you all the time, with his actions, not words.

That being said, everyone likes to “hear” they are loved, valued, “the one”, etc., the way they want to hear it — and the other person needs to be sensitive to that as well.

If I had a boyfriend on Facebook, I’d be obsessed with what he put on there. I get jealous of some of my male friends having girl friends on Facebook who I dislike. I can definitely be the jealous type — trust issues, too.

Hope you had a lovely holiday.
.-= LA Single Mama´s last blog ..Anxiety Before My Son Returns… =-.

By: ms. not mrs.

ms. not mrs. — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 18:21:44 +0000

wow, i really enjoyed your honestly and that fact that you turned to someone else. often times, i think we all need to use our support systems more often. kudos to you for taking some time to reflect as the New Year quickly approaches. while i love facebook, i have seen it reveal it's ugly face to me on more than one occasion. .-= ms. not mrs.´s last blog ..Am I the only one? =-.