Comments on: Single parenting ends tomorrow!

By: hannah

hannah — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 04:36:27 +0000

it bugs me. They can see the light at the end of their tunnel. And while I love my parenting arrangement and wouldn’t in a million years trade it for the relationship I had with my husband, the loneliness, the empty bed, the no one cooking for me but myself? That may go on forever, and they have no idea how that feels.
hannah´s last blog ..Push

By: Big City Dad

Big City Dad — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 03:26:35 +0000

Hate to say it, but it makes me laugh. While I no empathy whatsoever, I love helping my boys out when they’re on their own. Things like braiding hair, tying a ponytail, cooking dinner while holding a 3 year old…it cracks me up to see them struggle. Nothing like a good teasing to help lighten the mood.
Big City Dad´s last blog ..On the Band Wagon

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 03:24:25 +0000

Everything is harder when you’re not used to it. True single moms (and dads) may have it harder, but we have systems down, and we know what to expect. We don’t start to run out the door to the pharmacy only to realize that there’s no one on the bench and we have to bundle up the sick kid and take her to the pharmacy with us. Just being prepared and having routines that we’ve learned to make work makes all the difference in the world.
Tiffany´s last blog ..Maybe She’s Just Not that Into You

By: HiveMama

HiveMama — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:56:15 +0000

It’s natural to feel annoyed when you hear these complaints, but I don’t think they mean to be insensitive. It’s just too easy sometimes to lapse into taking your husband or wife for granted. I’m not a single mom, but I struggled with infertility for years, and it’s a similar thing. Women who have never been through that have no clue, yet it’s not their fault. It’s easy to talk about stepping into someone’s shoes, but a totally different reality when you actually LIVE it. But, we are stronger for it, are we not?

By: Allison

Allison — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 12:01:12 +0000

A lot of my married friends have husbands that travel for work, but so far none of them has actually described it as single parenting. I do have some pity for them; it can always be hard to be on your own. I think the upside of single parenting in one way is that this is the way it always is. If something goes wrong, well, you handle it because you have to. When something goes wrong for one of my married friends, it can be more of a shock because they’re used to having some help around. The bottom line is that they aren’t single parents because at some point, somebody’s coming home to offer support if not help.
Allison´s last blog ..TV experiment

By: saint nobody

saint nobody — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 01:51:38 +0000

Good question, great topic. I used to say stuff like that when i was still married….my ex is a jazz musician and was gone on several lenthy tours while we were still together, and was often working nights and weekends, so it felt pretty isolating.

But of course it’s nothing like the real crushing weight of I AM THE ONE WHO GETS THEM BOTH TO BED EVERY NIGHT EXCEPT SOME WEEKENDS AND GETS UP AT 6:15 TO DRAG THEM OUT OF BED AND PUT THEM ON THE BUSES. etc.
I have to say, though, that because my ex is really involved, and for the time being his situation is such that he cares for them at my apartment during the week, it sometimes does not feel a whole lot different. Hmmm.
saint nobody´s last blog ..in need of chocolate

By: Coachdad

Coachdad — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 01:09:46 +0000

When one of my boys complains about being alone with his kids, I just say “Welcome to my world…”
Coachdad´s last blog ..Here is my rock

By: Floridagirl

Floridagirl — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:41:57 +0000

Sometimes it bothers me and sometimes it doesn’t but either way I usually brush it off. Everyone’s reality is their own. I am a completely solo parent (so well put by some on here) with no family nearby so there are times when I am jealous of the married ones complaining. How I would love to just talk to another adult about my daughter on the phone or go to the grocery store by myself or sleep in one Saturday a month. But then I take a step back and I often wonder how the married ones fit in time for their husbands and their relationships especially if the mom works. Life is busy enough and I don’t have to make time for this too. And then there are times that I’m thankful that I get to make all of the decisions and someone else isn’t overriding something or saying something different to my daughter. So I think there are pros and cons to both worlds.

By: Christena

Christena — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:54:49 +0000

I feel like such a clueless single mother when it comes to the topic of single parenting. I was married 10 years ago… then I wasn’t and I think life is easier outside of marriage. So as I approached 40, I chose single motherhood with a fertility clinic and vial of biodad. I love being a single mom without the complications of a relationship. Of course my kid is only a year old and the hard stuff is yet to come, so what the hell do I know. And maybe I’ll want a husband or long term relationship again some day. So I guess I just don’t at all relate to “those” non-single, single parents. If that’s what they want to call themselves, then I guess I welcome them to the club with open arms or a pat on the back. I really like this club and hope they enjoy their visit!!
Christena´s last blog ..Another Wordful Wednesday

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 20:26:03 +0000

Thanks so much for chiming in Carla Anne! Wow, “Married Single Moms”…. I’ve yet to hear that one. Thanks.