Comments on: Single on Thanksgiving? http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/ Remarried and Remodeling Mon, 21 May 2012 03:42:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-16544 singlemomseeking Sat, 20 Nov 2010 23:25:01 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-16544 Misty: Thank you so much for sharing your story. You can see that I get it. Good for you for joining a church and finding your community. On my site, Singlemommyhood, single moms are chiming in with Thanksgiving ideas when you're alone as a single mom --<a href="http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2010/11/thanksgiving-single-mom/" rel="nofollow"> we'd love to hear your thoughts <strong>here</strong></a>. Misty: Thank you so much for sharing your story. You can see that I get it. Good for you for joining a church and finding your community.

On my site, Singlemommyhood, single moms are chiming in with Thanksgiving ideas when you’re alone as a single mom – we’d love to hear your thoughts here.

]]> By: Misty http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-16543 Misty Sat, 20 Nov 2010 20:40:43 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-16543 Well, I left my husband, who I adored, in Sept last year due to adultry and drinking and abuse. It all happened so suddenly I had no reason to stay. Not to mention I was two months pregnant. Our divorce was final Oct 5, two weeks later he had his gf living in our home. He was easy with the divorce papers, whatever I wrote up he signed as well as custody. So, I have sole custody with no worries of being forced to share her with the homewrecker he is with currently. He has three children from a previous marriage and I loved them like they were my own. So Thanksgiving and Christmas was hard even Halloween, when those days were catered around his kids and making it special for them. I wasnt close in connection with my family as theres a huge age gap from me and my siblings, i was on my own at 18. My husband said that it was sad they treated me differently but he and his kids were my family. Well that was short lived in a nearly two year marriage that he constantly was telling me he wanted a divorce. From that hard experience of not putting together a Thanksgiving meal for myself and too depressed and sick to want to eat at my cousins or grandmas, I still showed up for the games and snacks for Christmas and New Years. Without them close by I wouldnt have anyone as my parents spent it wiht my brother and sister and my ex spent it with his kids, his new gf and her two kids. I sat there in the midst of a crazy holiday season with cousins and their spouses and kids and my grandma who is a widow now for five years, thinking, if she is making it through the holidays each year with out my grandpa of fifty something years, then I can be strong and do it as well. I have since moved away out of state where I know only my ex inlaws, which I see few and far between, just because thats my choice, we werent ever close to start with. Ive become a member of this traditional Southern Church that I love! There are tons of families there with little babies now that mine is eight months and people of all ages. Im not sure what this year will instill for the holidays as Halloween we were alone but went to a hayrack ride and bbq before hand. There is so many things to do here, train ride through the Ozarks, ton of bed and breakfasts and lots of caring friends from Church. I willmiss my mom not being here with us, as she sees it fit to still cook and cater to my ungrateful, adult siblings living with her. Whatever we choose to do, my baby and I, Im sure it will be a new tradition for us to continue the two of us. Well, I left my husband, who I adored, in Sept last year due to adultry and drinking and abuse. It all happened so suddenly I had no reason to stay. Not to mention I was two months pregnant. Our divorce was final Oct 5, two weeks later he had his gf living in our home. He was easy with the divorce papers, whatever I wrote up he signed as well as custody. So, I have sole custody with no worries of being forced to share her with the homewrecker he is with currently. He has three children from a previous marriage and I loved them like they were my own. So Thanksgiving and Christmas was hard even Halloween, when those days were catered around his kids and making it special for them. I wasnt close in connection with my family as theres a huge age gap from me and my siblings, i was on my own at 18. My husband said that it was sad they treated me differently but he and his kids were my family. Well that was short lived in a nearly two year marriage that he constantly was telling me he wanted a divorce.

From that hard experience of not putting together a Thanksgiving meal for myself and too depressed and sick to want to eat at my cousins or grandmas, I still showed up for the games and snacks for Christmas and New Years. Without them close by I wouldnt have anyone as my parents spent it wiht my brother and sister and my ex spent it with his kids, his new gf and her two kids.

I sat there in the midst of a crazy holiday season with cousins and their spouses and kids and my grandma who is a widow now for five years, thinking, if she is making it through the holidays each year with out my grandpa of fifty something years, then I can be strong and do it as well.

I have since moved away out of state where I know only my ex inlaws, which I see few and far between, just because thats my choice, we werent ever close to start with. Ive become a member of this traditional Southern Church that I love! There are tons of families there with little babies now that mine is eight months and people of all ages.

Im not sure what this year will instill for the holidays as Halloween we were alone but went to a hayrack ride and bbq before hand. There is so many things to do here, train ride through the Ozarks, ton of bed and breakfasts and lots of caring friends from Church. I willmiss my mom not being here with us, as she sees it fit to still cook and cater to my ungrateful, adult siblings living with her.

Whatever we choose to do, my baby and I, Im sure it will be a new tradition for us to continue the two of us.

]]> By: Cass http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13719 Cass Wed, 09 Dec 2009 01:15:32 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13719 He landed on Thanksgiving morning from California. Before 3pm he had booked his flight back to look for apartments and our marriage went from "not good and on the rocks" to "over - terminal - DNR". Thanksgiving is going to be tough next year.....but I have a lot to be thankful for....and I'll have even more next year. He landed on Thanksgiving morning from California. Before 3pm he had booked his flight back to look for apartments and our marriage went from “not good and on the rocks” to “over – terminal – DNR”. Thanksgiving is going to be tough next year…..but I have a lot to be thankful for….and I’ll have even more next year.

]]> By: Anne Devlin http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13510 Anne Devlin Thu, 26 Nov 2009 03:01:44 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13510 Well.. I have a little boy with disabilities. And another son. They are with me for Thanksgiving, but for Christmas, no. But Thanksgiving seems to not be going so well.. it's not looking up. And that sucks because this is the holiday I get. And I wanted it to be great. But my little boy, Liam... well he seems to be having seizures this week. And I am very worried about him and I need to take him to the hospital. I am supposed to go to my "aunt's" house (she's a chosen aunt- not really of any relation). Which will be super fun. But my son, Liam. He feels very sick and lethargic and I probably should just take him to the hospital instead of going to Thanksgiving. But I want to have a Thanksgiving for him, not in the hospital. He has spent too much time in the hopsital in his little life, more than I by far.y.. So I might wait until Friday. But either way.. Thanksgiving is really just plain going to suck. Now this is the first time I have come across this blog.. and for me.. I actually don't mind being a single parent so much. I left my ex. It's easier being a parent without him than it ever was with him. I'd like to find a good husband though. I miss love. Having a good step dad for my kids would be nice as well. Cheerio! Annie D Well.. I have a little boy with disabilities. And another son. They are with me for Thanksgiving, but for Christmas, no. But Thanksgiving seems to not be going so well.. it’s not looking up. And that sucks because this is the holiday I get. And I wanted it to be great. But my little boy, Liam… well he seems to be having seizures this week. And I am very worried about him and I need to take him to the hospital. I am supposed to go to my “aunt’s” house (she’s a chosen aunt- not really of any relation). Which will be super fun. But my son, Liam. He feels very sick and lethargic and I probably should just take him to the hospital instead of going to Thanksgiving. But I want to have a Thanksgiving for him, not in the hospital. He has spent too much time in the hopsital in his little life, more than I by far.y.. So I might wait until Friday. But either way.. Thanksgiving is really just plain going to suck.

Now this is the first time I have come across this blog.. and for me.. I actually don’t mind being a single parent so much. I left my ex. It’s easier being a parent without him than it ever was with him. I’d like to find a good husband though. I miss love. Having a good step dad for my kids would be nice as well.

Cheerio!
Annie D

]]> By: Two truths and a lie | Single Mom Seeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13508 Two truths and a lie | Single Mom Seeking Wed, 25 Nov 2009 21:49:40 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13508 [...] that note, here are the winners of my book, chosen by Random.org. Congrats [...] [...] that note, here are the winners of my book, chosen by Random.org. Congrats [...]

]]> By: Simone http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13458 Simone Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:15:37 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13458 It's been 5 years and Thanksgiving is still tough. No family close by, feel akward asking to be a part of someone else's family but hate being alone... Only Thanksgiving tho, Christmas I travel... Maybe time to accept my situation and face it instead of ignoring it. It’s been 5 years and Thanksgiving is still tough. No family close by, feel akward asking to be a part of someone else’s family but hate being alone… Only Thanksgiving tho, Christmas I travel… Maybe time to accept my situation and face it instead of ignoring it.

]]> By: VJ http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13371 VJ Sun, 15 Nov 2009 10:17:05 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13371 Geez, all these somewhat sad & bittersweet tales for the hols. We'll be doing our 'new' usual for Thanksgiving. Going nowhere but intown, to the 4 Seasons. Sitting down, enjoying ourselves & letting someone else's excellently trained staff do the cooking and serving. Works fine every time. For those desperately needed & otherwise missed leftovers? We order a pre-cooked smoked turkey from our local fav BBQ place. Fills the fridge fine, and no muss & fuss either! Best Thanksgivings of our lives actually. Quiet, peaceful, no strain or arguments, and those that seek to reach out can find us. Later. Well fed & rested, at home. Cheers & Happy Hols! 'VJ' Geez, all these somewhat sad & bittersweet tales for the hols. We’ll be doing our ‘new’ usual for Thanksgiving. Going nowhere but intown, to the 4 Seasons. Sitting down, enjoying ourselves & letting someone else’s excellently trained staff do the cooking and serving. Works fine every time. For those desperately needed & otherwise missed leftovers? We order a pre-cooked smoked turkey from our local fav BBQ place. Fills the fridge fine, and no muss & fuss either! Best Thanksgivings of our lives actually. Quiet, peaceful, no strain or arguments, and those that seek to reach out can find us. Later. Well fed & rested, at home. Cheers & Happy Hols! ‘VJ’

]]> By: Meghan http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13358 Meghan Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:29:49 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13358 Last Saturday I moved out. He has been seeing a girl from work for the past three months and verbally and emotionally abusing me. I just couldn't take it anymore. Now I am living with my parents and with the help of my attorney I have come up with a custody plan. The only major issue is that since my son is 1 it is his father's year for Thanksgiving. According to the agreement his father should have him from Wednesday afternoon until Friday night. I am a teacher and off school all three days. I am not sure how I am going to be able to handle this?? I have my parents to celebrate with but my little guy is my whole world. HELP!! Last Saturday I moved out. He has been seeing a girl from work for the past three months and verbally and emotionally abusing me. I just couldn’t take it anymore. Now I am living with my parents and with the help of my attorney I have come up with a custody plan.

The only major issue is that since my son is 1 it is his father’s year for Thanksgiving. According to the agreement his father should have him from Wednesday afternoon until Friday night. I am a teacher and off school all three days. I am not sure how I am going to be able to handle this?? I have my parents to celebrate with but my little guy is my whole world.

HELP!!

]]> By: Sarah T http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13345 Sarah T Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:45:42 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13345 Holiday's are always difficult for me... I consider myself 3579 (3rd person,5th person or 9th person). Last year the table was tight and ended up at the kids table. Alot of my family may not know as I smile at the table what I am really thinking (why do I not have anyone next to me). This year I will have my boys as I do always on Thanksgiving. I will be Thankful that I get to wake them up every morning, kiss them good night, put band aids on when they get hurt. Thankful that we are healthy and that they love me. Holiday’s are always difficult for me… I consider myself 3579 (3rd person,5th person or 9th person). Last year the table was tight and ended up at the kids table. Alot of my family may not know as I smile at the table what I am really thinking (why do I not have anyone next to me). This year I will have my boys as I do always on Thanksgiving. I will be Thankful that I get to wake them up every morning, kiss them good night, put band aids on when they get hurt. Thankful that we are healthy and that they love me.

]]> By: christine http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/11/single-on-thanksgiving/comment-page-2/#comment-13343 christine Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:55:34 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=6227#comment-13343 It's been almost 2 yr's going though my divorce..three kids later,still trying to make time for myself...The father makes no atempts to see or speek to his kids.They have grow used to this,and i play both roles,HARD to do..Out of money cant afford gifts,even b-day partys..On the other hand,happy and the kids,4,11,13,love me dearly!It can only get better, RIGHT? It’s been almost 2 yr’s going though my divorce..three kids later,still trying to make time for myself…The father makes no atempts to see or speek to his kids.They have grow used to this,and i play both roles,HARD to do..Out of money cant afford gifts,even b-day partys..On the other hand,happy and the kids,4,11,13,love me dearly!It can only get better, RIGHT?

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