Comments on: When someone you know is getting divorced

By: Get Your Ex Back

Get Your Ex Back — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 03:35:31 +0000

I’d have to go with “I’m sorry to hear that” because I think it’s sad that the relationship had to end. Letting them know you are open to them talking about it might be helpful to them.

By: jason

jason — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:02:07 +0000

the best response i got when i told a friend that i was getting divorced was a real hug.

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By: staciesmadness

staciesmadness — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 21:46:36 +0000

I usually say something really dumb, sticking my own foot in my mouth.
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By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:24:44 +0000

Erica: Please keep us in touch, okay? Let us know how you’re doing. Big hug.

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:21:33 +0000

Bonnie: You know I love it when “my” remarried moms chime in. Thank you!!

By: Erica

Erica — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:18:55 +0000

Ok – so I’m not EXACTLY going through the same situation. But long story short, I’m a single mom, got pregnant with a guy I was just dating and he doesn’t want to be involved. I’ve decided to have the baby, I’m nearly 4 months along now and haven’t heard a word from him in 3 months.
So now, when I tell people that I’m pregnant and they ask about the father, I get a really sad sigh from them with a big “I’m so sorry”. When in fact, I’m not sorry. This isn’t the most ideal way for things to happen, but in the end, this is what’s happening in my life and I want people to be happy for me and the path I’ve chosen. I guess just asking how someone feels when they tell you something so huge is a good way to start?
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By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:12:11 +0000

“Can I pour you a drink?” or “I know the process is difficult, but I hope you are able to live the life you really want soon.”
Or if you are going out for fun with other single parents soon I always invite the person to join. It helps not to feel so alone. Though, I am remarried now to Guns, I still hang with my single mama friends. They are still way more fun than most married people and we can still talk about dealings with our exes.

By: Kelli

Kelli — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:57:12 +0000

Haha. I heard “Its about time!!” I wish someone would have begged me not to marry him. But I think the best thing to say is “do you want to talk about it”– Sometimes he/she wanted it so saying sorry isn’t necessary. Why are you sorry if they aren’t? Ya know? If you keep it simple by asking if they want to talk… that opens the door for them to tell you how they feel. Good, bad, happy, sad, mad, etc.– In my case I was so glad to be rid of my good for nothing now ex-husband. So I didn’t want to hear “Im sorry” b/c I wasn’t.

-Just Keep it simple. Let them talk. If they want to.

-KS
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By: Ms.V

Ms.V — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:06:32 +0000

Here’s what I did. An ex-colleague came by my house to tell me she is filing tomorrow.

I got out my file. Gave her a referral. Wrote everything down that she will take to her attorney tomorrow. I said, “I support you completely.” What else do you need?

Never EVER say “Are you sure you’ve done everything possible to save the marriage?” EVER. Because by the time I made the decision, I didn’t need anyone questioning me. In fact, I never went to that well again.

Gave my friend a hug, told her: You have two boxes. An emotional box, and a legal one. Keep them separate. Deal with your emotions APART from what you will do legally.

Boy, did I learn that the hard way.

Oh, and one more thing…Get all your bills, go online, create online accounts to EVERYTHING. If your ex is like mine, little bills and accounts that he neglected to tell….well, let’s just say….I saved myself over 4K because I had taken it upon myself to INFORM myself. Legally, before I didn’t have any right to those debts.

Be smart. Be there for your friend, and mad props to you if you can help while they’re in a fog…
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