This post was mentioned on Twitter by SingleMomSeekin: New post: Should the boyfriend and I be talking about THIS? Or, is it too soon? http://bit.ly/yeCVL...

I would say, though, that he probably pays 90% of the time when we go out for drinks, dinner, whatever. If he’s feeling pinched financially he lets me know, and either I pay (which I’m happy to do if I can) or we find something less expensive to do.

I may pick up the tab a bit more once my credit card is paid off – we both have credit card and student debt, but since I get paid so much less I feel the pain of it a bit more. But instead of picking up the tab, I may divert that money to our wedding fund instead!
Honey´s last blog ..How Safe is Too Safe? Or, Lance Blows Up Brazen Careerist

Let us know, if you bring it up…..

I feel very strongly about having my own bank account…. and my own last name. I’ve always been this way. How do others feel about this one?

I’ve been dating a guy for 3-4 months but I’m mostly cooking for us at my house and we rarely (I mean RARELY) go out. I’m starting to get a little annoyed, but I’m wondering if I should be? Last week he suggested either going to a bar or staying home and cooking, but when I said “cooking would be great” (I’m not really into bars) it because clear that he meant at my house not his. I did ask him to pick up the groceries and bring wine, though, because he hasn’t spontaneously offered to this before.

In general I really like going out but I know it’s expensive and men sometimes like to/feel obligated to pay. But I usually pay about half the time once we get past the 3rd date or so. Also in general I think cooking is fun to do together. But in my other recent dating relationships we’d go out on about 50% of our dates and when we stayed at home, about 1/3 of the time it was at his house & he’d either (try to) cook himself or order takeout.

So my current guy has me confused and slightly offended. I’ve told him that I like to go out more, and once I took him out to a nice restaurant (& paid myself). But he hasn’t gotten the hint. I’m debating whether to ask him if he’s on a really tight budget or what? But I’ve held off for fear of embarrassing him.

In my past relationships it’s worked out where I was buying the groceries and cooking for us (often with my kids) and dining out was paid for by him. When I was with DBD, after a while it became unblalanced where it was mostly me cooking and us rarely going out and then I did feel taken for granted. Shocking, I know.

The best thing to do would be to talk with LG about it. Keep the lines of communication open so no one ends up feeling they are being taken for granted.
MindyMom/Single Mom Says…´s last blog ..Boo! Who?