Comments on: Hiding in my kid’s suitcase http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/ Remarried and Remodeling Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:21:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Getting with the program | Single Mom Seeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12333 Getting with the program | Single Mom Seeking Thu, 27 Aug 2009 22:35:52 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12333 [...] was the first thing I said to LG after sending M off on her week-long adventure — without me. With a quick hug and kiss at the balmy Lihue airport 10 days ago, she was on her way. And I was on [...] [...] was the first thing I said to LG after sending M off on her week-long adventure — without me. With a quick hug and kiss at the balmy Lihue airport 10 days ago, she was on her way. And I was on [...]

]]> By: Dido http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12255 Dido Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:33:51 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12255 ...and, btw, what's wrong in doing it for yourself?? plus, you'll be on a whole different side of the island. (some people actually live in a country that size!) you will be having your holiday - even better than time alone at home - and she'll be having hers. and as a bonus, you get to have a couple of days of holidays together too. sounds perfect to me. don't sweat it. …and, btw, what’s wrong in doing it for yourself??
plus, you’ll be on a whole different side of the island. (some people actually live in a country that size!)
you will be having your holiday – even better than time alone at home – and she’ll be having hers.
and as a bonus, you get to have a couple of days of holidays together too.
sounds perfect to me.
don’t sweat it.

]]> By: Love notes | Single Mom Seeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12254 Love notes | Single Mom Seeking Fri, 14 Aug 2009 05:41:50 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12254 [...] started to write little love notes for my daughter before she goes on her trip. This was all Dr. Leah’s idea, really. When I asked for some advice to prepare for our [...] [...] started to write little love notes for my daughter before she goes on her trip. This was all Dr. Leah’s idea, really. When I asked for some advice to prepare for our [...]

]]> By: Dido http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12223 Dido Wed, 12 Aug 2009 09:48:43 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12223 PERFECT. clever girl. have fun! PERFECT.
clever girl.
have fun!

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12209 singlemomseeking Mon, 10 Aug 2009 22:40:37 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12209 @Tanasie... She's 9. Thanks for letting me hear the "other" side. Wow, two weeks on your own? Maybe that was TOO long. Of course, I'm dying to hear what your grandma was like! @Tanasie… She’s 9. Thanks for letting me hear the “other” side. Wow, two weeks on your own? Maybe that was TOO long. Of course, I’m dying to hear what your grandma was like!

]]> By: tanasie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12200 tanasie Sun, 09 Aug 2009 02:29:11 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12200 How old is your daughter, again? My grandmother took me to Hawaii when I was 12 -- and I hate to say it, but my all-time worst childhood memories took place in paradise. My cousin and I were just talking about that the other day (because Grandma took him a year later for his bar-mitzvah trip). I think Hawaii is a lovely place. I would definitely lobby against letting your daughter go to Hawaii with MY grandmother... but let's hope her friend's grandparents aren't, well, like mine. On my trip, I went alone with grandma for the first two weeks. And then my mom came for the third week. I really missed my mom. But the best part of the trip, was that my dad sent me a snail-mail letter every day. Just a little card or a cartoon. (He did the same when I was in college.) Maybe you could send her a postcard. It's nice to get mail. How old is your daughter, again? My grandmother took me to Hawaii when I was 12 — and I hate to say it, but my all-time worst childhood memories took place in paradise. My cousin and I were just talking about that the other day (because Grandma took him a year later for his bar-mitzvah trip). I think Hawaii is a lovely place. I would definitely lobby against letting your daughter go to Hawaii with MY grandmother… but let’s hope her friend’s grandparents aren’t, well, like mine.

On my trip, I went alone with grandma for the first two weeks. And then my mom came for the third week. I really missed my mom.

But the best part of the trip, was that my dad sent me a snail-mail letter every day. Just a little card or a cartoon. (He did the same when I was in college.) Maybe you could send her a postcard. It’s nice to get mail.

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12199 singlemomseeking Sat, 08 Aug 2009 21:52:09 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12199 Priscilla: I really appreciate your honesty. That matters a lot to me. Yes, you're right: I am doing this for me, most likely. It's true that kids do need to experience what it's like to feel sad or miss people. (I think my kid had already gotten a good dose of that so far...) For the record: I'll be on different side of the island. I've explained that she's having her vacation for a week, and I'm having mine.... I won't be dropping by to "check in." I'd LOVE to know what other parents think about this one: Would you call this "helicopter parenting"? Is it important for kids to experience homesickness? Thanks! Priscilla: I really appreciate your honesty. That matters a lot to me.

Yes, you’re right: I am doing this for me, most likely. It’s true that kids do need to experience what it’s like to feel sad or miss people. (I think my kid had already gotten a good dose of that so far…)

For the record: I’ll be on different side of the island. I’ve explained that she’s having her vacation for a week, and I’m having mine…. I won’t be dropping by to “check in.”

I’d LOVE to know what other parents think about this one:

Would you call this “helicopter parenting”?

Is it important for kids to experience homesickness?

Thanks!

]]> By: Priscilla San Remo http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12197 Priscilla San Remo Sat, 08 Aug 2009 16:43:24 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12197 OK, I'm not going to be popular here but I'll say it anyway. While I think LG had the best of intentions, and going to Hawaii too sounds like a good compromise, he is enabling what some might call helicopter parenting. It sounds like a great solution but 1) you are not really getting time alone to just experience being at home without a kid, and 2) you are doing this for you, not really for M, who has said she will be fine. Even if she went to Hawaii alone and experienced homesickness, it would be OK. Why are parents today so concerned with preventing their children from feeling any unhappiness or failure? They NEED to have those experiences to grow. You need to do what you need to do to feel OK about the situation, and I respect that. But as long as you're soliciting comments, I thought I'd chime in. OK, I’m not going to be popular here but I’ll say it anyway. While I think LG had the best of intentions, and going to Hawaii too sounds like a good compromise, he is enabling what some might call helicopter parenting. It sounds like a great solution but 1) you are not really getting time alone to just experience being at home without a kid, and 2) you are doing this for you, not really for M, who has said she will be fine.

Even if she went to Hawaii alone and experienced homesickness, it would be OK. Why are parents today so concerned with preventing their children from feeling any unhappiness or failure? They NEED to have those experiences to grow.

You need to do what you need to do to feel OK about the situation, and I respect that. But as long as you’re soliciting comments, I thought I’d chime in.

]]> By: Single Mom Survives http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12194 Single Mom Survives Fri, 07 Aug 2009 20:10:37 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12194 Awww - have a wonderful time. You do need some adult time. We all do and it's the hardest thing for us to and enjoy. It's not just the guilt, it's all the missing that we do. I love your solution, brilliant! Awww – have a wonderful time. You do need some adult time. We all do and it’s the hardest thing for us to and enjoy. It’s not just the guilt, it’s all the missing that we do. I love your solution, brilliant!

]]> By: Shannon http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/08/hiding-in-my-kids-suitcase/comment-page-1/#comment-12192 Shannon Fri, 07 Aug 2009 16:42:46 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=5471#comment-12192 So glad you made this decision. I would have been the momma telling you not to let her go...it's just too far in my mind. But now, well now that you are on the same island...now I say DEFINITELY! Perfect solution! So glad you made this decision. I would have been the momma telling you not to let her go…it’s just too far in my mind. But now, well now that you are on the same island…now I say DEFINITELY! Perfect solution!

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