Let’s just say you’re sitting at your computer, working, when the phone rings. One of your single mom friends – who recently got remarried — is calling from her job, on a break. So, she cuts to the chase:
Do you think your daughter would like to go to Hawaii this August?
First, you want to laugh. Of course, your kid — and not you — gets offered a week-long summer invitation to Hawaii, with a round trip plane ticket already purchased.
Here’s how it goes:
Every summer, I bid farewell to this girlfriend as she leaves with her parents for Hawaii. But this August, for the first time ever, my friend has decided to take this week off for have an adults’ only vacation with her new husband. It’s going to be her longest time away from her daughter.
The grandparents have already purchased four plane tickets and rented an amazing home for a week. So, they have one extra ticket, and they’d love to bring along a playmate for their granddaughter. (As in, my girl.) Our girls have been friends for years — and these grandparents are sweet, doting, and very attentive.
So, what should I do?
I’ve never been apart from M for more than a few days, when I went on my book tour. But a whole week — without me?
Still, last night — just to get a sense about how M might feel about such a big trip — I broached the subject with her. Of course, I was expecting to hear: “You mean, take a trip away from you, Mommy?”
But no! Instead, she started jumping up and down, asking, “Can I go? Can I go?”
Clearly, I’m the one who’s having trouble at the idea of letting her go. Deep breath. I hold my breath every time I think about her on the plane without me. Will there be cell reception on the island? What if she gets homesick? How do I know she’ll get enough to eat?
What can I say? I’m a bit of a worrier. I know what I should be thinking about what I might do on my own: Getting some alone time. Doing some yoga to quiet my mind. Writing. Spending time with that LG.
Please: do you have any advice?
I know that many of you send your kids off to visit the “other parent” — or relatives — for the summer. How do you cope?
In the meantime, as I try to make a decision, Dr. Leah offers some very helpful advice about how to prepare your children for time away you this summer.
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