Sending Love. Book giveaway!

by singlemomseeking on June 4, 2009


First, the winners of 113 Things to Do by 13, chosen by


Ria from My Mommy Manual

Coach Dad from Coach Blogger. Congrats to you three!


Ready for another great book giveaway?

In the midst of packing, I’ve been going through our favorite single parent books. When M was a baby, it was hard to find books about families like ours. Fortunately, that’s changing — especially for kids 10-and-under.

A couple of my favorites, which are currently deep in boxes:

Who’s in a Family?, by Robert Skutch, an illustrated paperback with a page in the back for kids to draw;

and Love Is a Family by Roma Downey, about Family Fun Night at school, in which the daughter is positive that she and her mom will be the weirdest family there.

But I’m always on the look out for a new angle on the single parent family — and at last! I’ve found a new book I love: Sending Love, My “Different-Functional” Family.


When Lori Hilliard’s book Sending Love came in the mail, M dove right in and read it from cover to cover. As we noted at Singlemommyhood recently, Lori tells the story through the eyes of her five-year old son, Joshua. The illustrations are actually photographs of Lori’s family, and the story is very real.

“‘Different functional’ is a beautiful reality: just because a family is ‘different,’ this does not mean that something is wrong,” explains Lori.

Now, how about that contest? Lori is sending books to three of you!

What do you need to do?

Leave a comment about how your own family is “different functional.” Ready, set, go….


P.S. You can always order Sending Love here, too.

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Dora June 7, 2009 at 7:01 pm

Well, my family’s in the making. I’m currently pregnant as a single mother by choice, via open, directed embryo donation. My little miracle is due in December. 🙂

Dora´s last blog post…I am a sacred vessel and other miscellaneous stuff.


Alicia June 5, 2009 at 9:30 pm

Different Functional – love it! Ummm, I chose to get pregnant as a singleton and go it alone because I was ready and I just couldn’t see waiting for a Mr. Right to come along. I carefully selected a sperm donor and 3 years later still cannot believe how lucky I am to be the mom to this AMAZING boy! We live with my mom, and my son sees this arrangement as a normal family unit: Mommy, MoMa and Owen – always.

Alicia´s last blog post…Worst Fish


Issa (NYC Mama) June 5, 2009 at 9:17 pm

My family is different-functional mainly because as a single mom, I am my son’s main role model for a happy, stable, functional person. Yikes! Lol. We do have other people in our family though. My Mom comes through for one evening a week so that my son can see his father (if he actually shows up) without me having to see him too, and more importantly so that my son doesn’t have to experience the extremely strained way in which we interact. I also have an older woman who has been a friend of the family for 20 years who will babysit him during the day 3 days a week so I can work and get things done without a 20 month old strapped to my hip. And then there’s my Dad, who drives in from 2 boroughs away to chauffeur his Grandson to the sitter, just so he can spend a little time with him and so I don’t have to commute during NYC rush hour madness with a baby. Somehow, we make it all work and I am so deeply grateful for it all. My son may not grow up seeing his Dad a lot, but he’ll have so many people who love him and will be there for him no matter what. We really are 2 lucky ducklings!

Issa (NYC Mama)´s last blog post…Who Put Me In This Time Machine?


Abby June 5, 2009 at 5:28 pm

In my family I came into our marriage with my son, I then gave birth to our daughter, and then we decided to adopt another baby. Even though each of my children came into our family very differently we are still a family all the same.


wendy wallach June 5, 2009 at 4:59 pm

As my mother is divorced x2 and I am a single mother come to any of our holiday gatherings and you will find any number of friends who are also considered and accepted as family.

madamerkf at aol dot com


Carlene June 5, 2009 at 2:02 pm

We are different functional because I am grown and my mom has married and man close to my age. So I am 47 and have a sister who is 14. My step sister is a handfull and my mom really strugles with her. Please include me in your giveaway.


Carlene June 5, 2009 at 2:02 pm

We are different functional because I am grown and my mom has married and man close to my age. So I am 47 and have a sister who is 14. My step sister is a handfull and my mom really strugles with her. Please include me in your giveaway.


Anna June 5, 2009 at 12:48 pm

We are different-functional on many levels. My son’s dad does not see him on a regular basis, and usually it’s about 3 or 4 months between visits. We also do not have family in town, so our “family” is really me, my son, and our fabulous babysitter! We are also different because my son has autism, which means we do things pretty differently than your typical family. But we are all thriving and happy!


judy June 5, 2009 at 11:21 am

let’s see besides being a single parent we are different functional because my daughter was born with a cranio-facial birth defect, she learned to speak by lip reading, wears glasses, a hearing aid and now a mouth appliance to keep her jaw aligned. As a toddler she was considered for a kidney donor list but with meds and surgery we outsmarted that issue yet she does only have one kidney.

I recently won a book her and would not want another winning so quickly, just wanted to share.


Legal Editor Mom June 5, 2009 at 5:52 am

My family is “different functional” because while I am a strong proponent of the sanctity of marriage, my own didn’t work out for reasons beyond my control and my daughter, who’s only five, already understands this. She accepts that daddy lives elsewhere and she calls our house “the girls’ house.” I smother her with love, always placing her first in my life, while emphasizing that her dad loves her, only from a distance. We do all sorts of fun things together, just the two of us, and she looks forward to the weekends or “home days” as she calls them because she knows I don’t have to go to work and that’s our time together.

I no longer feel embarassed or discouraged when we see two-parent families and I’m particularly encouraged when people remark about not only how bright she is, but also how happy she is. For me, that’s what our different functional family is all about.


Kari June 4, 2009 at 6:14 pm

Awww congrats to the winners.

How our family is “different-functional” well we are even different than most single parenting families.

We don’t have a traditional arrangement and finally we all work together peacefully. I sometimes babysit for ex’s new baby and his new wife and I have gone shopping together even. We have all gone out to dinner on occassion as well.

If we win this book we’ll read it and then I plan on donating it to the school my mom teaches at they have a group for kids who are having a tough time with their family dynamics due to seperation, divorce, single parenting or are new to the situation. It is called Lunch Bunch. DD’s elementary had it too and she was involved in it for a whole year.

Kari´s last blog post…Taking a break


Coachdad June 4, 2009 at 5:49 pm

Different? Four girls who spend three hours a day on the football field with their Coachdad. They are getting so football smart that are now telling me who should and should not play. Thank you for the book!


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