He wants to make me a bed

by singlemomseeking on June 22, 2009

I love my new home. Because it’s much smaller than my previous place, however, I spent weeks purging.

Fortunately, a yard sale covered the cost of moving. That Lucky Guy was quite the salesman! He enthusiastically helped sell my 10-year-old stereo, my rugs, lots of books, toys… and my bed frame:


If you’ve read my book, you might remember that I bought this bed frame back in 2003 (pictured here). Let’s just say that this frame has a lot of history.

It made me giddy to sell it to a sweet little lady — who was clearly past 70 — after she got a ride from someone at church to my yard sale. Isn’t that sweet?


But back to that boyfriend — whom I haven’t written about in a while — and my bed.

Getting a new bed is very meaningful, don’t you agree?

On a recent afternoon, I took M — who loves interior decorating —  to IKEA where she spotted this bed. “Mom, look!”

Indeed, it is perfect for my new little bedroom. It even has storage underneath:


When I later showed the bed to the Lucky Guy, he really liked it, too. Yeah! But I could see his mind turning.

“I could make that!” he said. One of his passions — in addition to science, cycling, and cooking — is making furniture. He made his own bed, as well as many tables, bookshelves, a bench… well, he’s simply an incredible woodworker.

“I want to make you a bed,” he said.

Me: “You do?”

Him: “Yes, just like the one from IKEA, with storage, maybe even a secret drawer–”

Me: “Stop!”

Him: “I’m serious.”

Me: “Wow, that’s incredibly generous–”

When he ran off to find his sketchbook, I got scared.

First, it has never been easy for me to accept big gifts. I have many fears around finding strings attached and owing favors. (Does this resonate with any of you?)

Besides, a bed is so significant. It is more than just piece of furniture. It’s where you sleep, rest, and you know…. A bed symbolizes a foundation.

“Let me make you a deal,” he said. “Think of this as our bed. I’m making it for both of us.”

Our bed? I love, love, love the sound of that…. but I’m afraid to accept his lavish offer. At the moment, I’m still sleeping on my mattress and box springs. I’ve gone back to IKEA once more to look at the bed in the showroom.

What do you think? Am I just over-analyzing here? (You know how I can get!) Should I accept his offer?

Or, just go to IKEA and buy a bed on my own? Help.

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