Comments on: Censoring my blog

By: Lisa R.

Lisa R. — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 15:06:59 +0000

I blog about my life with my kids, but I never mention them by name. Granted, I blog under my real name, so if you know me, you’ll know them. I don’t feel that I am censoring myself where they are concerned, so much as minding their privacy and my own with selective disclosure. I can’t bring myself to post pictures of them in an open forum, though.

It’s good that you and M communicate about her presence in your work – I feel that conversation coming on with my older son soon.

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By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 04:14:11 +0000

I use a pseudonym for that reason (as well as to protect my friends, former hubby, etc.) I have never felt comfortable putting pictures of The Kid online — I don't like giving up so much of my family's privacy. I don't think it's any less honest. I write about real experiences, but use fake names to protect the innocent (um, or not!)because what I write really isn't about me, or The Kid or anyone else I know — it's more about the universal experiences of parenting, mothering, divorce, dating, sex, middle age, etc. M is putting up her boundaries, a wonderfully healthy thing for a girl "on the cusp." You're a good mom, so I have no doubt that you'll find a way to honor her wishes and continue your blogging life. Kat Wilder´s last blog post...Is Ruth Madoff off the hook?

By: The Exception

The Exception — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 14:30:56 +0000

Each kid is different I think. I don’t necessarily write about my daughter as much as I write about the issues that arise from parenting. They are about me and my feelings far more than they are about her. I don’t use her name, her image, and really… no one would pick her out of a crowd nor would I ever use information on the blog that might hurt her feelings or embarrass her in any way. Always it is about my dealing with parenting over her as a wonderful person – which she totally is. In a world where employers use Google and people may use information found on the internet to make decisions about others… we all need to be aware of the information that we are putting out there. It isn’t necessarily censorship as much as it is learning to write for the time. The challenge is expressing the thoughts without leaving anyone open or giving out more information than is desired.

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 12:58:11 +0000

My daughter is 15, and I don't blog about her at all anymore. My boys are 7 and 5 and I rarely blog about them. I want to, but I have a difficult time telling their stories without getting bogged down in the minutae. Emily´s last blog post...Happy Pi Day!

By: Rosie Scribble

Rosie Scribble — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 12:51:52 +0000

My daughter is 5 but I'm sure they day would come when she would know what a blog is and realise I mention her on mine (although not by name). If she asked me not to thn of course I'd respect that. Your blog will still be interesting without the kiddie-content, afterall we have more in our lives than just our children. And as for some people who don't visit because you don't mention your daughter - well there are many other blogs out there for them, and you may even attract a different type of reader. Good luck! Rosie Scribble´s last blog post...A Comic Moment

By: Kat

Kat — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 01:53:55 +0000

I’ve been blogging since 97′, Mark was 8, Sebastian was 6.
I posted photos, stories etc, and as they got older and started becoming their own people, I started asking them what was ok to post, both photos and stories.
They are now 15 & 17.
Every single post I write with them as center figures of it, is written entirely with their permission.

It is my blog about my life as a single parent, they are central figures in that life and blog, but they are also their own people and I must respect them and their decisions to not discuss certain things that go on in their lives.

My sons have always known about the blog, they read it, but again, I respect that they have grown up, become their own unique people, and so it is only natural for me to show them respect when it comes to how much information I put out there about them and all of us.

I no longer post many photos of them, if at all any more, they have asked me not to, but if I want to, I need to show it to them, and they will approve it or not.

I really think as soon as your child says to you that they don’t want you to blog about them anymore, to not post pics anymore, that you need to respect that decision but also talk to them, find out what would be ok to post, when it’s ok to post something, and work with them when it comes to their being a part of your blog.

We write blogs about our lives as single parents, they are mostly about us, so as our children grow and become their own, it’s time for us to start posting more about who we are, about our lives, and not so much about their own lives.

Kat´s last blog post…A late birthday surprise!

By: SingleDad

SingleDad — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 23:52:03 +0000

Good luck with whatever you decide, but many of us hope you find a way to continue …