The Bachelor and a dating contest

by singlemomseeking on March 3, 2009

Update: the winner of Dating Topics to GO is Candy! Congrats!

Note: Jason might want to go out and buy himself one of these, too, don’t you think?


Some of you get so cranky when I write about The Bachelor.

So, I’m making it easy on those of you who shall remain unnamed.

To those of you who’d like to know why Jason Mesnick — the first-ever single dad Bachelor — is a “douche,” you can get the full scoop at Mom Logic.

On that note, here’s to getting to know someone deeply — before you propose, and break up with her six weeks later on national TV.

Especially when there’s a kid involved, you’ve got to spend time talking, listening, observing. But you knew that already! (Unfortunately, Jason didn’t.)

In honor of getting to know each other, Table Topics is giving away a fun question-and-answer cube to one of my readers.

These questions are specifically designed to take the stress out of those first “getting to know you” conversations. They’re even used by speed dating organizations to get singles talking.


Leave a comment between now and Sunday, March 8. One winner will be chosen randomly.

P.S. On a positive note, one reader has done an amazing job with “Dating Topics.”

Let’s send our big congratulations to Susan of One Woman ShowI’ve been one of Susan’s fans for a long while, and her last post — about how her guy proposed with M&Ms — had me in tears. You can read all about her exciting news here.

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worldwide dating May 31, 2009 at 8:13 pm

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: WHO CARES?? It’s reality TV so what do you expect? Yuck!


Mom2Maddie99 March 6, 2009 at 8:35 pm

I heard before the finale on a blog this was how it was going to end… I just hope Jason is happy…but I felt horrible for Melissa and was cheering for her when she referred to him as a b@stard.


peachofatl March 5, 2009 at 8:07 am

I, too, have written about The Bachelor on my blog. I believe he has a right to choose who he wants. Did he have to do it on TV in front of everyone? No. Do I believe he and Molly will last – no. But I think we all have a change of heart and you can’t expect to really get to know someone in 6 weeks! Really, its been scientifically proven that it takes about 18 months to really know if the relationship will last past the honeymoon phase. And if their (Jason and Melissa) honeymoon phase was over that quickly, they obviously weren’t meant to be.

peachofatl´s last blog post…Embrace the Loneliness


Canadian Bald Guy March 4, 2009 at 5:28 pm

A show like this is the reason why I love watching “Rock of Love”. At least watching that you already know it’s a train-wreck waiting to happen so you aren’t surprised.

Canadian Bald Guy´s last blog post…Confessions from a cubicle


Kath March 4, 2009 at 4:10 pm

Who proposes when the person has only met their child once?? Is that putting your child first?

Kath´s last blog post…Jalie 2449


Carol March 4, 2009 at 1:25 pm

Did you know the statistics for longevity of relationships developed on The Bachelor are pretty bad? After going through 25 or so women (or men) only about one fourth of the relationships begun are continuing forward. What does that tell you?
That fantasy dates, bungee jumping and helicopter rides on a Hollywood unlimited budget are just no proof of a successful, compatible relationship.
Welcome to the real world, people. you have to do it the hard way – building slowly with the real stuff of everyday life.


QTMama March 4, 2009 at 1:25 pm

Sometimes I think fame can turn you (or in this case, Jason) into a very large assclown.

QTMama´s last blog post…I’m Just Sayin


Candy March 4, 2009 at 11:49 am

On Jimmy Kimel show he made it seem like they had both agreed upon the breakup before that show. She knew it was over but the producers made him do it on TV. But that’s his side. I’d love to hear her side.

Either way, the cards look like lots of fun.


Terry March 4, 2009 at 6:29 am

According to Keith Olbermann and his guest Michael Musto last night, ABC producers put the weasel up to breaking the engagement.

Terry´s last blog post…A Tough Proposal to Swallow


singlemomseeking March 4, 2009 at 10:44 am

Terry — I DID hear that, too! What a way to bring up the ratings, breaking a woman’s heart on national TV…. and the fact that “the weasel” went along with it.


CC March 3, 2009 at 9:38 pm

I must add that my opinion of Jason was definitely confirmed last night. Living in Seattle, a good friend ran into him at a very public place, just a day or two after it was announced he was the new “bachelor.” Her daughter and Ty were playing in the same area and let’s just say, Ty was not the most polite child. Meanwhile, Jason was too busy talking on his cell to notice what was going on and deal with the situation. I can understand life was busy and hectic, but the realities of parenting should not take second stage to any phone call. Thanks to my friend who called me right away and extinguished any thoughts I had about him being a great catch.


singlemomseeking March 4, 2009 at 10:44 am

CC: Thanks for the insider anecdote. Wow!


LeAnna in MN March 3, 2009 at 7:21 pm

You know, I don’t know why people go so crazy about that stuff. It happens all the time. I was pretty much engaged to someone who broke up with me when I was nine months pregnant for another woman. Classy, eh? It happens all.the.time.


Legal Editor Mom March 3, 2009 at 6:36 pm

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: WHO CARES?? It’s reality TV so what do you expect? Yuck!

Anyway, the Table Topics does look like a great idea; much like all of the quizzes that are floating around on Facebook. Yet most of my guy friends never bother to complete them! But I agree, but the cards do seem like a fun way to break the ice, especially in a newer or even potential relationship.


Susan March 3, 2009 at 6:28 pm

Rachel, I thought of you when I watched the show last night — I should have just called you up so we could scream “Douchebag!” into the phone together.

Good god, do you think there’s a flakier guy out there? (Don’t answer that.) Seriously, I’m sure he’s not a *bad* guy, but to do all of that AND on national TV. Words escape me!

Now that I’ve gotten that out of my system, thank you (and your readers) for the thumbs up and well wishes on my engagement! It’s an exciting time for us — and one I never would have imagined a year ago. It’s all good…and can’t wait to catch up on the details in person! 🙂

Susan´s last blog post…Yet another reason I love chocolate


Angie March 3, 2009 at 6:28 pm

I for one was ecstatic at the ending of the finale. It was filled with so much romance and jubilation. Mellisa was on top of the world and she has such charisma it was difficult to not sit in front of the TV grinning.

And then…Jason had to prove himself to be such an ass! How is it that EVERY OTHER couple has managed to break up without it being televised? The contractual excuse is bogus, Jason was hiding behind Chris and ABC, what a coward. And the most awful thing is he did this under the cover of being a good father and keeping his son ahead of everything. Right.

I now wish he wasn’t the first single parent on the show…he gives all of us; moms and dads, a very bad image.

Angie´s last blog post…I want to get lost.


Alicia March 3, 2009 at 5:39 pm

Rachel, I didn’t watch the Bachelor finale last night, but as soon as I heard what happened, my FIRST thought was of you! I watched The Bachelorette w/ Jason last season, and even as women worldwide were jumping up and down for him-I always felt like something was off. He just seemed too “perfect”. I’m kind of mad I missed the bombshell moment last night(LOL). I personally would LOVE to hear your thoughts!


SDMktg March 3, 2009 at 4:31 pm

I just think the whole premise of the show is unnatural. I wouldn’t fell too bad for Melissa for too long as it’s almost a certainty she’ll end up getting to be the next bachelorette.

Table topics looks like a fun icebreaker.

SDMktg´s last blog post…UPDATE: Jack’s waking up – Jack In the Box CEO Recovers?


Eathan March 3, 2009 at 3:38 pm

I’m up for a contest too. And for the record.. I watched and twittered about it last night. And just for you Rachel.. I’m going to write about the Bachelor and how I think he’s a douche. FYI.. Melissa is a Dallas girl.. and Cheers for her putting him in check on TV. There have been alot of rumors about the show. I’m just glad she’s done with him.


singlemomseeking March 4, 2009 at 11:54 am

Eathan: I thought about you and Melissa! I can’t believe you haven’t asked her out…. yet?

Please let me know when you post about this single dad Bachelor. I’ll link to you, okay?

Reply March 3, 2009 at 2:29 pm

It’s possible to love two people at once.

It’s also possible to deal with that situation without being as much of a godawful mushbrain douchetard Extreme Edition Max 2000 than Jason Mesnick.´s last blog post…How to Find Sex: the Art of the One Night Stand – Part 11 “Looking Ahead”


Wondermom March 3, 2009 at 1:35 pm

I’m always up for a contest!

Wondermom´s last blog post…What’s going on here?


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