Hot chick? Advice, please.

by singlemomseeking on March 29, 2009

spinnin

I recently asked my new guy if he wanted to work out with me.

Here’s how it happened: He was asking if I had any free time during the week to get together, and I explained that any breaks in my schedule (not many!) find me at the gym in the evening. (I wasn’t about to give up my evening cardio classes. No matter how cute he was.) Even though I’m not a biker, I’ve started to spin during the week, when I’m not kickboxing. All that jumping during kickboxing can be hard on my knees and ankles, so spinning has been a good addition.

Anyway, he’s an avid cycler who climbs those really steep Bay Area hills.  But he has never taken a spinning class. So, this week, I invited him as a guest to my gym, and he said: “I’d love to come.”

There was another bonus: he also got to meet my single mom friend who works out with me. (And, yes, he passed the potential boyfriend bogus test!)

Who knew that working out together could be so sexy? For an hour, we spun side-by-side, sweating, and on the way out of class, however, he had something to tell me: “I think I’m going to join the gym.”

Me: “You are?”

Him: “Yeah, I’ve been thinking about joining a gym for a while, and that class was really great.”

Me: “Do you really think I’m buying this?”

He reached out and offered to fill up my water bottle.

Me: “Look, if this doesn’t work out, I was spinning here first. Okay?”

Fortunately, he gets my dry sense of humor — and he laughed.

Which leads me to back this week’s spin class.

My all-time favorite spin teacher is Robert, whose class is a mix of exercise and performance art. It’s not just about cycling. We sing along to the lyrics — loudly. (Maybe this is how Robert makes sure that we’re breathing?)

Robert also loves to hop off his bike during class to “play” his blow-up air guitar — or shake maracas in between the stationary bikes. For real.

Every once in a while, Robert announces a give-away contest: one student can win a copy of the evening’s spin mix. (He never fails to add a joke: “So, you not only get the CD, but there’s a Cadillac waiting downstairs for you.”)

It’s easy to enter the contest: all you have to do is write your name on the back of your spin ticket, and a winner is chosen at the end of class.

I should have known better. In a rush to set up my bike, I let my guy fill out my name on my ticket. I didn’t even think about it.

So, here we are, at the end of class, and it’s time to choose a winner from the hat. Another student reaches into the hat and reads out loud in front of 40+ folks:

“Hot chick.”

Silence. Robert seems confused. So, he takes the ticket and repeats out loud: “Hot chick.”

All of a sudden, my cute spinning partner is pointing at me. WTF?

Robert catches on: “Rachel is the hot chick!”

Me: Blushing.

Sure, I was thrilled to win the CD. But I’m not sure how I feel about this new nickname.

hot-chick

In the hallway right after class, someone whizzed by me: “Hey, hot chick.”

Oh, swell.

Here’s what I want to know. Are we moving too fast?

We haven’t even changed our Facebook statuses…. and now we belong to the same gym?

What do you think?


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singlemomseeking March 30, 2009 at 3:10 pm

John F: The plural of “status” had stumped me, too!

According to Webster’s, however, the plural is “statuses.”

Although I like “stati”!!

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Legal Editor Mom March 30, 2009 at 3:34 pm

I purposely don’t post my status on FB. I didn’t at the onset so if I do now, it will generate all kinds of inquiries. (Like people who’ve been married for years and finally list a status. They get congrats, when did you tie the knot, etc.) It’s too much for me…So Bill, the answer is a definite YES. People do read statuses. Especially with the constant updates when you change your status. E.g., if you go from “in a relationship” to “single,” everyone will know.

And for what it’s worth, I am friends with THREE old boyfriends on FB, my first “love” from the first grade, AND the guy I’m seeing now!! It has not been a problem at all. (The current guy and I mutually decided not to post our status. Didn’t want to jinx it, generate questions, or otherwise “put it out there” while it’s still new and we’re still getting to know each other. You know me, Rachel, a rather private person. And if it doesn’t work, I don’t have to explain it to anyone.)

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Amy March 30, 2009 at 6:51 pm

He sounds like fun – and I think you are due for a good time. Personally I loathe the word “hot” and “chick” comes in a close second. Muffins – not women – are hot. But he sounds pretty cute – so I could probably overlook that.

As for the FB status – mine says “It’s complicated”. All my family and friends got all freaky and I got all kinds of messages saying “you aren’t with anyone – what are you talking about”. But I contend that I am in a VERY complicated relationship…with myself.

Amy´s last blog post…Journal 126: March 2009 A Long Day

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Love Coach Rinatta March 30, 2009 at 6:54 pm

The good thing is that the two of you are bound to keep treating each other with great respect, because I gym membership is on the line. You would hate to have an ugly argument with someone you’re going to run into at the gym. So this could be great for your new relationship.

Love Coach Rinatta´s last blog post…How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship

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Mommy to the Monsters March 30, 2009 at 9:38 pm

I personally think it’s cute that he called you Hot Chick! I wish someone would call me Hot Chick! LOL

About him joining the gym, I personally wouldn’t read too much into it…

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Anne Good March 31, 2009 at 2:06 am

Keep chasing the fun and excitement!

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Bill March 31, 2009 at 5:39 am

I’m just gonna post again after the hot chick above me. ;)

With all this input on FB statusises’, I wish you could create your own and really stir up some fun! Like….maybe….deceased. Or, in Limbo, or Sold to the Highest Bidder. Now let the FB world discuss that!!

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Legal Editor Mom March 31, 2009 at 7:15 am

Bill, I love it!! LOL. I always loved the “it’s complicated.” To me, you’re either with someone or you’re not. But one friend I know uses it because she’s in the process of getting a divorce and doesn’t yet feel that “single” is accurate. (Her soon-to-be ex is on FB also, and already lists himself as “single.”) I have another friend who uses “it’s complicated” because she’s engaged but they haven’t been getting along and have postponed the wedding. That IS complicated, but I’d love to see more creative ones…

By the way, Rachel, the ex who sold me the gym membership is still a good friend to this day. We don’t work out at the same gym anymore, but just yesterday I was sick so he came over and took Lexi to the park and to get a snack while I rested. He also took her bike home to fix the wheels and is coming back today…so all’s not necessarily lost if/when a relationship doesn’t work out. NOT that you should be thinking that way now, but just thought I’d let you know…;-)

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Dating Advice (Almost) Daily March 31, 2009 at 7:54 am

It’s a great sign that you’re so uninhibited in front of one another (sweating, screaming out lyrics, etc.).

And I also think it’s wise that you warned him, “I was here first.”

If you find yourself getting scared, pace yourself by filling some of the time you might spend with him with friends and other FUN people. Space will give you perspective.

I agree with everyone who said, “Go with your gut.”

Thinking happy thoughts for you. ;)

Dating Advice (Almost) Daily´s last blog post…An Effective Way to Find Out If He’s Interested

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judy March 31, 2009 at 7:57 am

I am surprised at the thoughts and energy that many of you put into FB. For me, Cyberworld is still somewhat make believe. I would not trust what anyone says about themselves on FB, My Space or e-harmony.

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Lance March 31, 2009 at 7:57 am

Dude, that’s good game. I love it.

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Legal Editor Mom March 31, 2009 at 8:30 am

Judy,
FB is not a dating site. I’m sure some use it as that, but for me, it’s a social media where I only befriend people that I actually know. So I can “trust” what they post. It’s no different than an e-mail between friends, except you’re able to connect with many at once, with very little effort. Agreed it’s not for everyone…I still have friends who won’t touch it…

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The Girl You Don't Bring Home to Momma March 31, 2009 at 1:30 pm

Oh, roll with it…He sounds like fun !

The Girl You Don’t Bring Home to Momma´s last blog post…Our Kids Need Homes Too !

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Eathan April 1, 2009 at 12:39 pm

Don’t over think it. I’m friends with plenty of women that I’ve had dates with and we attend the same gym from time to time. Just be adults and cancel out the Jr. High School urges.

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Michelle -WT Mom April 1, 2009 at 10:18 pm

Dude. I never made it out of the cute and perky stage. Hot is not a word used with ME. Sorry no advice but I loved the post!

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John April 2, 2009 at 9:12 am

Am I the only one who finds spinning a bit weird?

I’m not sure what your spinning class was like but the one at my local gym they all sit on their bikes in a dark room with flashing lazer lights listening to loud dance music.

Odd to say the least, no ones been able to explain it to me..!

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singlemomseeking April 2, 2009 at 10:14 am

John, you crack me up! Spinning IS a bit weird. Robert, our spin teacher, jokes about getting flashing laser lights…. but alas, there’s no budget for them. Spinning next to someone you’re attracted, however, can be a turn on. Yes?

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John April 2, 2009 at 10:43 am

Yes I probably would be willing to put up with the madness that is Spinning, to cycle with someone I fancy for an hour ;-)

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