Comments on: Help! I need a lock on my door!

By: judy

judy — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 00:17:18 +0000

I have a lock and have only used it when I leave the house and my DD is home alone with a friend or two who I don’t know very well.

By: Robin

Robin — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 21:26:45 +0000

I think that my bedroom door will lock, just as my daughter’s would, but gosh, I haven’t verified the location of the key for a few years now. I don’t have “sleepovers” if she’s home. We also both know to knock and ask before entering a bathroom or bedroom, which is easier since she’s a teenager than when she was a toddler who had to be right w/ her mommy all the time:) Anyway, put a lock on the bedroom door? Huh? Why? I only ask that my boyfriend’s daughter know to knock on her dad’s front door instead of just walking in if she sees my car over there….. We don’t limit ourselves to his bedrooms.

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By: Solo-Dad

Solo-Dad — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 19:01:46 +0000

I'll have to check my door. Funny thing is, I think Little Elvis' room does have one. I've not drawn his attention to it for fear that he'll somehow engage it and close the door after exiting. Anyway, my main point is that the bedroom door lock is a highly personal decision. For some it's essential, for others (reading some of the comments above) it abhorrent. To each his, er..her own. Solo-Dad´s last blog post...Right Livelihood and the Solo-Dad

By: GLSD

GLSD — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 18:49:47 +0000

All of our bedrm doors have locks. We don’t use them. My kids always knew if the door was closed (not locked) that means they have to knock first, i will say come in and then they came in my room. Same as the bathroom door. If I’m it the bathroom, i don’t necessarily lock it, but it’s closed for a reason. Boundaries and privacy. When my kids got older and they went in their rooms they would close the door to their rooms for “alone time” and i always knocked before hand. It’s out of respect for the whole family.

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 17:54:56 +0000

Bill: Very funny about that dresser in front of the door trick!

John F.: Of course, the first thing that my kid said was, “I want a lock on my door, too!”

I’m blown away by how many of you already have locks — and have established clear boundaries with privacy. You all blow me away!!

By: Bill

Bill — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 17:34:18 +0000

Looks like you have some old doors and millwork there Rachel. Very nice.

Just slide the dresser in front of the door cartoon style!!

By: Terry

Terry — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 17:23:51 +0000

Oh, I definitely have a lock on my door. And I use it! Terry´s last blog post...If You're Tired All the Time

By: MindyMom

MindyMom — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 15:37:59 +0000

Glad you are putting a lock on your door! Better safe than sorry, I say. MindyMom´s last blog post...Family Dinner

By: NewSingleMama

NewSingleMama — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 15:22:36 +0000

Hmm I'm still pregnant so I haven't given this much thought. It's a great idea though that I think I will try out. I hope to teach my son to respect privacy. I won't come in his room without knocking an I will teach him not to come into mine. NewSingleMama´s last blog post...Fighting the Mask of Pregnancy

By: John F

John F — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 14:56:55 +0000

Rachel, are you willing to put a lock on M's door if she needs some "alone time" or "ahem wants to entertain"? I thinks LEM is right on the money, you establish the boundaries and maintain them with mutual respect. I think there is a lock on my door, but if it is closed, it is closed and deserving of a knock unless there are flames or blood. My kids know this and respect it. Also when their doors are close, I always knock first. With my custody (50-50) I can count on one hand the number of times I have "entertained" when the kids have been there--and even then, they were well asleep and the entertainment was really only a "preview" for the entire show that would be premiering later that week after the kids went to their mom's. John F´s last blog post...Maui, Hawaii June 21-28, 2009