Comments on: Purging http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/ Remarried and Remodeling Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:21:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Amy http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9350 Amy Tue, 24 Feb 2009 03:05:10 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9350 My ex-husband only took one suitcase (mine by the way). Over the three years we were separated - I tried to get him to take his cds and other things. For a good two years I didn't even move his shoes from the foyer. Sad, huh? So I have been purging. However, I have a large box that I am keeping some things for Sadie. Our wedding photos, some love letters, all of his baby and family photos. Since her dad will likely never be a part of her life - I think that box might be the only way she ever knows him. And, I am comfortable with her knowing that she was the product of two people who were at one time very much in love. But that box....man do I hate it. I put it at the back of the closet and let the cat sleep on it. As for the general stuff - I just got new dishes this week. I've gotten new sheets, new towels, and painted all but one room. It too hard to look at that stuff that some well meaning person gave to us in 1998 at our wedding. And you are right - it does drain you. <abbr><em><em>Amy´s last blog post...<a href="http://shewasjustawish.blogspot.com/2009/02/journal-124-february-2009-short-month.html" rel="nofollow">Journal 124: February 2009 A Short Month</a></em></abbr></em> My ex-husband only took one suitcase (mine by the way). Over the three years we were separated – I tried to get him to take his cds and other things. For a good two years I didn’t even move his shoes from the foyer. Sad, huh?

So I have been purging. However, I have a large box that I am keeping some things for Sadie. Our wedding photos, some love letters, all of his baby and family photos. Since her dad will likely never be a part of her life – I think that box might be the only way she ever knows him. And, I am comfortable with her knowing that she was the product of two people who were at one time very much in love. But that box….man do I hate it. I put it at the back of the closet and let the cat sleep on it.

As for the general stuff – I just got new dishes this week. I’ve gotten new sheets, new towels, and painted all but one room. It too hard to look at that stuff that some well meaning person gave to us in 1998 at our wedding. And you are right – it does drain you.

Amy´s last blog post…Journal 124: February 2009 A Short Month

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9347 singlemomseeking Tue, 24 Feb 2009 00:20:36 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9347 Susan: Thanks for pointing out that cleaning really "cleans" us in so many ways! To all of you who are holding onto your wedding photos for the kids, I get it. (M has asked to see mine...and I don't have any.) Attaining Me: I narrowed down all the teenage mementos into one small shoebox. I've let myself keep that. But I'm still purging... Thanks for all of your inspiration! Susan: Thanks for pointing out that cleaning really “cleans” us in so many ways!

To all of you who are holding onto your wedding photos for the kids, I get it. (M has asked to see mine…and I don’t have any.)

Attaining Me: I narrowed down all the teenage mementos into one small shoebox. I’ve let myself keep that.

But I’m still purging… Thanks for all of your inspiration!

]]> By: casualencounters.com/blog http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9346 casualencounters.com/blog Mon, 23 Feb 2009 22:03:09 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9346 I've held onto a lot of letters from ex-girlfriends, etc. Sometimes when I'm in a relationship I feel sort of guilty about it, but I was with a girl once who made me LITERALLY burn everything I had that reminded her that I hadn't been ONLY HERS FOREVER and I regretted the bejeebus out of it after we'd broken up. <abbr><em><em>casualencounters.com/blog´s last blog post...<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/casualencounters/SkqR/~3/tNYkZplxYdc/" rel="nofollow">Casual Encounters Web TV Show, Episode 2</a></em></abbr></em> I’ve held onto a lot of letters from ex-girlfriends, etc. Sometimes when I’m in a relationship I feel sort of guilty about it, but I was with a girl once who made me LITERALLY burn everything I had that reminded her that I hadn’t been ONLY HERS FOREVER and I regretted the bejeebus out of it after we’d broken up.

casualencounters.com/blog´s last blog post…Casual Encounters Web TV Show, Episode 2

]]> By: GLSD http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9345 GLSD Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:55:44 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9345 I purge twice a year. Spring and Winter. It's a freeing feeling. If I haven't used it in 6 mos then I put old clothes in bags and donate to the Good Will or Salvation Army. I can not stand a cluttered house. I purge twice a year. Spring and Winter. It’s a freeing feeling. If I haven’t used it in 6 mos then I put old clothes in bags and donate to the Good Will or Salvation Army. I can not stand a cluttered house.

]]> By: SDMktg http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9344 SDMktg Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:50:19 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9344 My ex is being foreclosed on (her doing not mine). There are a handful of things there that I never got around to taking because I don't really have room for them. Now I guess I'll have to do something about that stuff. I'm forcing myself to get rid of things. I have the family pack rat gene. I always think I'll need it one day. I agree with MindyMom about the wedding stuff. It's packed away somewhere. The kids should know they were born into a loving family and we were happy once. <abbr><em><em>SDMktg´s last blog post...<a href="http://www.tailgatingtimes.com/index.php?/archives/186-Today-is-National-Margarita-Day.html" rel="nofollow">Today is National Margarita Day</a></em></abbr></em> My ex is being foreclosed on (her doing not mine). There are a handful of things there that I never got around to taking because I don’t really have room for them. Now I guess I’ll have to do something about that stuff. I’m forcing myself to get rid of things. I have the family pack rat gene. I always think I’ll need it one day.

I agree with MindyMom about the wedding stuff. It’s packed away somewhere. The kids should know they were born into a loving family and we were happy once.

SDMktg´s last blog post…Today is National Margarita Day

]]> By: Attainingme http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9343 Attainingme Mon, 23 Feb 2009 18:24:52 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9343 Oh man. I have way too many keepsakes. I still have everything from my first teenage love. Everything someone has written me, etc . . . Hmmmmm <abbr><em><em>Attainingme´s last blog post...<a href="http://attainingme.wordpress.com/2009/02/23/a-story-in-eyes/" rel="nofollow">A story in eyes</a></em></abbr></em> Oh man. I have way too many keepsakes. I still have everything from my first teenage love. Everything someone has written me, etc . . .

Hmmmmm

Attainingme´s last blog post…A story in eyes

]]> By: Debbie http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9342 Debbie Mon, 23 Feb 2009 18:09:09 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9342 When i left my marriage I got rid of EVERYTHING! wedding pictures, mementos, gifts...I blogged recently that I wonder if I will ever regret it. But, truly it was freeing. I don't accidentally come across something that no longer represents truth. I 'purged' it all. Took no prisoners and left no reminders behind....except 3 amazing children..I'll keep them!:) <abbr><em><em>Debbie´s last blog post...<a href="http://singlemominacomplicatedworld.blogspot.com/2009/02/last-look-backjournal-entries-cont.html" rel="nofollow">Last look back...journal entries cont</a></em></abbr></em> When i left my marriage I got rid of EVERYTHING! wedding pictures, mementos, gifts…I blogged recently that I wonder if I will ever regret it. But, truly it was freeing. I don’t accidentally come across something that no longer represents truth. I ‘purged’ it all. Took no prisoners and left no reminders behind….except 3 amazing children..I’ll keep them!:)

Debbie´s last blog post…Last look back…journal entries cont

]]> By: dadshouse http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9340 dadshouse Mon, 23 Feb 2009 16:47:31 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9340 I'm not holding onto anything from my long marriage or past relationships, but I do tend to hold onto mementos from life. My garage is a mess! I’m not holding onto anything from my long marriage or past relationships, but I do tend to hold onto mementos from life. My garage is a mess!

]]> By: Dr.Leah www.singlemommyhood.com http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9339 Dr.Leah www.singlemommyhood.com Mon, 23 Feb 2009 15:51:08 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9339 Chatting on the phone with a GF while decluttering just makes the chore so much easier. While Rachel was tackling her shed, I was sorting through old make-up (what was I thinking when I bought that lipstick? - ugh!). Chatting on the phone while decluttering is also a powerful reminder that you have friends in the present--here and now--who love and support you. That's a helpful reality check as you "let go" of your past. <abbr><em><em>Dr.Leah www.singlemommyhood.com´s last blog post...<a href="http://www.singlemommyhood.com/2009/02/beware-of-the-marriage-museum/" rel="nofollow">Beware of the “marriage museum”</a></em></abbr></em> Chatting on the phone with a GF while decluttering just makes the chore so much easier. While Rachel was tackling her shed, I was sorting through old make-up (what was I thinking when I bought that lipstick? – ugh!).

Chatting on the phone while decluttering is also a powerful reminder that you have friends in the present–here and now–who love and support you. That’s a helpful reality check as you “let go” of your past.

Dr.Leah http://www.singlemommyhood.com´s last blog post…Beware of the “marriage museum”

]]> By: BlueBella http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2009/02/purging/comment-page-1/#comment-9338 BlueBella Mon, 23 Feb 2009 15:51:02 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=3920#comment-9338 Great post! I keep finding little baby daddy artifacts ferreted away in my house . . .and am slowly but surely throwing them away. It's starting to feel quite good to have them gone and for some reason I'm a bit superstitious about it . . .like bad karma is attached to these objects and when I can find them all and purge them I will be finally free. I know, it's silly, but it helps me get through the emotional side of it. <abbr><em><em>BlueBella´s last blog post...<a href="http://bluebellababe.blogspot.com/2009/02/more-kitchen-stuff.html" rel="nofollow">More Kitchen Stuff</a></em></abbr></em> Great post! I keep finding little baby daddy artifacts ferreted away in my house . . .and am slowly but surely throwing them away. It’s starting to feel quite good to have them gone and for some reason I’m a bit superstitious about it . . .like bad karma is attached to these objects and when I can find them all and purge them I will be finally free.

I know, it’s silly, but it helps me get through the emotional side of it.

BlueBella´s last blog post…More Kitchen Stuff

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