My privacy and Facebook

by singlemomseeking on February 17, 2009


Thanks to QT Mama for just passing along this very helpful info on Facebook Privacy. If you’re on Facebook, this is a must read!



It seemed like your everyday evening:

On the way home from kickboxing, I finally got the chance to chat with Kevin from 5Ks and Cabernets for the first time ever.

Some of you know that I’m good at playing rounds of phone tag, and it’s a great feeling to finally connect with another blogger in real life. I encourage some of you to do the same!

Anyway, I was in a good mood after getting off the phone. When I walked into the house, nothing looked out of the ordinary. My dad was reading in a big chair, and M was working on an amazing 3-D art project with a glue gun.

After giving them kisses, I walked to my bedroom. There it was: my hydrating flower, out of its package, on my comforter.

“M!” I yelled out.

“Yeah, Mommy?”

“Come here, please.”

She walked into my bedroom. “Did you open a box that was for me?”

“Yes,” she said. “I told Grandpa that I open all of your boxes, and he said it was okay.”

“Honey, sometimes I let you open my packages —  if I’m here, and if I give you permission–”

(Hello Dad, who is the adult in this relationship?)

Then M wanted to know what the special, purple plastic thing was. “A massager” I said.

“So, why can’t I open a massager?” she said. “What’s wrong with that?”

When will my Dad learn not to let his granddaughter open packages that are addressed to ME?

It’s not like this this is the first time he let her open one of my unlabeled brown boxes — which also contained, uh, “a massager.”


Speaking of privacy, have you heard that Facebook recently changed its Terms of Service — and your photos, content, and more might belong to THEM?

Dr. Leah and I address the very controversial — and unclear — new Facebook terms of service here.

Are you concerned about what happens to your photos and content on Facebook? We are!

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{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

QTMama February 24, 2009 at 11:58 am

Hehehehe … I love my purple massager too!

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singlemomseeking February 19, 2009 at 11:41 am

CC: I’m laughing so hard that I have tears in my eyes… He was making sure you knew how those “eye drops” worked!

Privacy is key, isn’t it!

I also found it so challenging to keep a serious face as I explained the rules around here.

Mama Dharma: Here’s to purple “massagers”…


Mama Dharma February 19, 2009 at 11:13 am

OMFG this is too funny! Sorry, mama. Cracked me up because my “massager” is purple too 🙂

On another note, I am glad that FB has gone back on the TOS. Not that I am resigned to apathy, but it’s sort of the way of the internet isn’t it…lack of privacy seems to be the new way of life.

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CC February 19, 2009 at 9:14 am

This weekend a girlfriend swore by some drops that enhance female pleasure, so guess what I had left on my nightstand? My 11 year old son comes in and asks about the “eye drops” in my room. I froze and he said “They say they are for feminine arousal and something else?” I acted very casual and said I wasn’t really sure what they were and that a friend had given them to me. He actually ran back into my room to read it again and tell me all about their purpose. I cannot believe I taught him how to read? What I did not do was tell him that his two best friends’ mom had bought them too! I guess it is my fault for leaving them out but a brown box may not have stopped him either!


singlemomseeking February 18, 2009 at 3:49 pm

Casual Encounters: thank you for this awesome link. I’m going to study it tonight…. Believe it or not, I’m trying to work from the bowling alley. Kid is on a school break.

Kari: going to check out the award now. Thanks!!!

Reply February 18, 2009 at 2:50 pm

Yeah I totally freaked before reading the first comment. Their ToS were TOTALLY different from other similar sites, though. Check this:´s last blog post…“The tragedy, the true catastrophe, is that humanity continues.”


Kari February 18, 2009 at 2:38 pm

While I don’t like it each of us agreed to Facebook reserving the right to change their TOS without notice when we signed up.

Oh boy, even when you try and be discreet it isn’t discreet now is it?

I left you an award today at my original blog here is the post

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Apples February 18, 2009 at 12:10 pm

That hasn’t happened to me yet however years back I ordered something from a very big company online everyone knows about. Thinking that it would be okay I only ordered once and it was just “A massager”. WRONG yes the package came discreetly enough however the porn junk mail continued to be mailed to my parents house not so discreetly in my name forever (now it didn’t fill the mailbox and wasn’t all the time but still!)


Eathan February 18, 2009 at 11:18 am

That was funny. I laughed pretty hard. It’s a good thing your dad wasn’t in the room when she was opening them… that would have been hilarious.

I’m glad that Facebook has stepped back on their terms.


T February 18, 2009 at 9:45 am

Oh my! Ian and Mike’s comments are hysterical!!!

Poor M. Your poor Dad!!

Poor YOU!!!

Still, it is pretty funny. Ha ha ha!!

Thank you for being my very adoring and protective friend, sweet Rachel.


T´s last blog post…Ambiguity leads to greatness


Mike February 18, 2009 at 8:11 am

LOL that’s pretty funny. That’s almost as good as Melanin’s daughter asking why the cap to the cool whip was under her bed in front of the church group.

Mike´s last blog post…Damn You To Hell!!!


Legal Editor Mom February 18, 2009 at 7:23 am

I wasn’t overly concerned about the change, but I was glad to see that they’ve reverted back to their old policy in light of all the controversy. Proves that it pays to speak up!


John F February 18, 2009 at 6:48 am

I agree with Phil. Take the time to read the TOS for AOL’s or Yahoo’s Instant Messenger. Essentially, if you are messaging about some new great invention, they can snatch it!

I think it is a case of an overzealous lawyer just trying to cover their collective asses and make a big buck for himself. The world could do with less lawyers as far as I am concerned.

As to the dildo. You have to love those moments. Fortunately mine have been few and far between, but the best one is from a friend of mine. She is rather “free” in her lifestyle and rather than pay for condoms individually or by the dozen, she purchases them in the econo-size. Well, not long after a safe sex talk with her daughter (18 or 19 at the time), the daughter went into the “sock drawer” and hauls out this gross of condoms and confronted mom! Now there is a conversation I could live without!

John F´s last blog post…CNN Reports That Northwest Airlines Serves Penis!


Angie February 18, 2009 at 5:42 am

That’s really funny! Really. You could get her one of those real massagers they have at the check out of Bed Bath Beyond – you know the little critters whose feet actually massage. Then it won’t be so taboo!

Oh my, I took ALL my pictures but one of a tree off MySpace — they changed their policy before Facebook. Those are my pictures, sheesh!

Angie´s last blog post…I want to get lost.


SingleParentDad February 18, 2009 at 3:44 am

Why comment on Facebook when M has opened your dildo package?

I bought my wife a ‘massager’ some time ago for Christmas or her birthday. It was a duckie thing whose tail and beak were the right distance apart for the special places. I forgot all about it, until she opened it in front of all her family. That was a proud moment.

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Phil February 18, 2009 at 1:15 am

Terrifying? Come on… it is no different than any other website. They don’t have copyright over your photos, only the right to use them in promotional material for Facebook. They changed the wording (and then changed it back), but I doubt if they are doing anything differently.

It’s very ironic to me that many of the people who are protesting are the same people who have no issues with copying music and movies off of the internet. Somehow their own photos are priceless, but a $100 million movie should be free to all.


singlemomseeking February 18, 2009 at 12:33 am

SDMktg: Thanks for that update! I just got the same notice and I’ve updated the post at SMH.

As Casual Encounters pointed out, however, it still leaves many of us very skeptical about Facebook and its ever-changing TOS.

Do you agree?

Reply February 18, 2009 at 12:31 am

The change to Facebook’s ToS is truly terrifying. What were they thinking?

Hey, sure. Why don’t I give you license to rip off everything I stick up there and profit from it FOREVER? SIGN ME UP.

Anyone on Facebook now? Expect to have the hell spammed out of whatever details you supply them with within a few years.


SDMktg February 18, 2009 at 12:12 am

Thanks to bloggers everywhere they just retracted the changes. Sometime in the past hour they posted this on my home page and I’m sure everyone else’s too.

“Terms of Use Update
A couple of weeks ago, we posted an update to our Terms of Use that we hoped would clarify some parts of it for our users. Over the past couple of days, we have received a lot of questions and comments about these updated terms and what they mean for people and their information. Because of the feedback we received, we have decided to return to our previous Terms of Use while we resolve the issues that people have raised.”

Thanks bloggers for putting enough pressure on today to get them to change their minds.

If you do decide to deactivate an account you should probably go through the process of deleting/removing all photos/content from the account first and then deactivating it.

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