Men with fur? I need your advice.

by singlemomseeking on February 8, 2009

Let’s just say that one man I recently went out with got a little more than a kiss. Mmm.

We got far enough, however, to know that he’s not lacking in the hair department. Don’t get me wrong. A bit of hair on a guy’s chest is sexy. I don’t mind some hair on his back, either.

In fact, I’ll take a little body hair over a waxed chest — and back — any day. A back that’s as smooth as a baby’s butt is a bit too metrosexual for me.

When I see a completely hairless shiny back, I can’t stop imagining how this guy must have sworn an awful lot of expletives, like the 40-year-old Virgin. (Jason Mesnick on The Bachelor SO waxes his back! A Jewish man without any hair on his back? C’mon now.)

Yet back to my date, this man’s back and chest are very hairy — the hairiest I’ve ever seen.

Kristin of Better Now recently asked, “Is fur a dealbreaker for any of you or am I just really, really messed up?”

No, this isn’t a deal breaker — as it is for some women who wrote into Kristin’s blog.

But still, I am having a hard time getting past it. I can shut my eyes, but I do have other senses at work.

Any advice about how I might get over this?

Women, is a hairy back a deal breaker for you?

And guys, please speak up. I need to hear what you think, too.

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Sooz February 12, 2009 at 4:50 pm

I want to be a bigger person about it, but tons of Man Fur turns me off visually and tactile sense-wise –and has been a deal breaker for me in the past. With one man who was so special in many ways, we tried for awhile, but all that fur irritated my skin so severely that I had rashes on my face, arms and chest. He wasn’t willing to take care of it so that we could get closer to each other physically and emotionally…so, that was the end.
I’ve tried, but more than a little on the chest and it turns me off. More than a tiny bit on the back, same thing. A full pelt irritates my skin and just makes me feel like…shudder…I wish I could be a more enlightened being about it!!!


Mike February 10, 2009 at 11:37 am

I’ll agree with Jim (Depot Dad)on the back hair. Shouldn’t thought since I do have some. My single mom never noticed it (and may not yet) although I recently mentioned it (in as “you don’t seem to mind my back hair). She thought I didn’t have any (perhaps she doesn’t pay enough attention to my back).
Shaved my chest once when my ex said I might “need a trim”, but she had a fit when I did.
Thankfully all the women I’ve met like some hair.
As to how to deal with the excess amount. All I can do is compare to how I deal with what I like. I like a woman to have the completely natural look (in the area that most women don’t completely shave…if at all). If they have a bikini wax (or whatever) it’s not a deal breaker for me. If may not be my preference, but I’m not seeing them for the amount of hair they do or don’t have. As long as they are mentally and …physically stimulating (in that order), then I don’t worry about the hair. Not being able communicate or to kiss well is much more likely to be deal breaker for me.


Nicole February 9, 2009 at 11:48 pm

Gosh I hope my boyfriend never finds this comment… lol

I’ve always been a fan of a little chest hair. I find it sexy.

But I’d never been with somebody that had any real amount of body hair. My previous ex’s all had a little bit of, uh, difficulty in growing body/facial hair department.

The current BF is quite the opposite. QUITE, the opposite.

(*please* don’t find this comment..)

Previous to me sliding my hands under his shirt and up his back it had never really occured to me that most men were significantly hairier than I, naively, knew. In fact I was in a little bit of shock at the time…

*TMI Warning*

The first time we slept together I was totally weirded/grossed out and literally all I remember is thinking was about how grossed out I was.

I know, I sound like a terrible person..

If it helps at all, after I got over the initial shock, it never really crossed my mind again.

4 years later and here we are again – Still hairy.. and ridiculously happy!

It’s kind of cozy and comforting now.
It’s part of what I love about him.

Nicole´s last blog post…Last Day!


Nikki February 9, 2009 at 10:16 pm

My Dad had a bare chest, so I grew up with that as the norm. As I grew into womanhood and started dipping into the manpool, I was initially very grossed out by hairy men. Over time I adjusted myself to accommodate whoever Mr. Wonderful was at the time, but really…I prefer naturally bare chest/bare back. Shaving is just not as appealing as naturally smooth.

Something very funny to me…if a man is REALLY hairy, it seems he has extra hair growing out of his ears and nose, too and really…THAT grosses me out.

Nikki´s last blog post…Why Do Fools Fall in Love?


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