Comments on: I need your advice about a man and his exes

By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:10:17 +0000

RED FLAG RED FLAG> There are too many other fish in the sea. I think that is way too much for him to ask for. How insensitive…and awkward.

By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 17:59:54 +0000

Now you have to go….if nothing but to give us a good laugh and get a great blog out of it!! Sorry to say but it all sounds just odd. He sounds odd. If you do decide to go, go with humor and the idea of getting a funny blog from the experience. Otherwise, pass on the invite. It has already given much fun to us all so thanks!

By: molly

molly — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 03:53:39 +0000

Sorry, it’s totally freakin’ weird he wants to have all those exes in one place. No way would I put myself in that situation.

If your instincts say no, then say no. It’s the drama lovin’ writer in you that wants to go. I’m the same way. But it is not a healthy situation.

I hope he is at least really hot and good in bed to make up for it.

By: Mama Dharma

Mama Dharma — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 03:10:03 +0000

As usual, I have no advice… only to trust your gut. The fact that your closing question involved “sucking it up” makes me think you already know the answer. In any case, it should be a very interesting evening. And perhaps over time, he’ll get your sense of humor

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By: Alicia

Alicia — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 03:22:30 +0000

Sorry Rachel! This is just plain weird. And this guy sounds like he is “socially delayed” (I made up that phrase-lol!) He doesn’t “get” you, AND why on earth would anyone who’s trying to get to know you, and put his best foot forward, want to put you in this ridculous & awkward situation? Pass!

By: SDMktg

SDMktg — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 18:11:31 +0000

You really struck a chord with this one. I think this is the most comments I've ever seen on a post. I have to join in with the others who think it's strange. I'm friends with a couple people I dated but not close friends and they aren't in the same circles. For the life of me I can't understand why anyone would have an intimate dinner party with 3 exes and invite someone he just started dating. Initiation ritual or something? You mentioned the chemistry not being instant but the kicker is his not getting your sense of humor. When that happens it's time to go. I've been there & it usually gets worse not better. SDMktg´s last blog post...Happy Fat Tuesday! Hurricanes, Jambalaya, and Hottness

By: Nikki

Nikki — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 16:49:12 +0000

Personally...I dont' know how I'd be able to focus on getting to know the man if I was surrounded by his exes. I have my own opinions about how closely a man (or woman) should stay with their exes and they may be a little less than today's 'traditional standard', but frankly, when dating someone new, those 'friendships' should find their way back to acquaintance level. When intimacy is shared with someone...it shouldn't be shared with the rest. And really...that is what happens. There's no way to keep the lines from being all gray and blurry and complicated when everyone is in the same room. Exclusivity is what brings a man and a woman together in a trustworthy manner. You can't find exclusivity with anyone when three other people in the room have tried him on. Ew. Nikki´s last blog post...This n That, Single Mama Ponderings

By: Kathy D

Kathy D — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 13:11:10 +0000

wouldn’t go because the ex girlfriends… ex wife would be enough but if they are friends you have to meet her sometime but not the ex girlfriends to weird for me

By: Janet

Janet — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 00:58:09 +0000

I honestly would be uncomfortable with this for 2 reasons: 1. His ex-wife and other exes are there...and personally I'm not too keen on that. 2. It's an intimate party and he's inviting you even though you don't know each other well. Could easily end up being one of those nights where everyone has private jokes and stories that they know about and you're left out. BUT...it could be a good opportunity to see how he interacts with others. Might learn some things about him. Depends on how gutsy you are! Janet´s last blog post...Hope is the thing with feathers...

By: GLSD

GLSD — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 23:46:32 +0000

I’d go just to see how he acts around all these females and ex’s. If after a while you feel uncomfortable, you can bail out Good Luck and I’d love to hear all about it