Comments on: I blew it and asked him out

By: Aimee

Aimee — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:05:51 +0000

I just asked a guy out myself. I completely went against my beliefs and did it because he had been repeatedly asking me to call him, but never made the move. I don’t like playing games. I get straight to the point. So I asked him out, he said he was busy and I said “If you’re not interested, it’s okay.” He completely avoided that statement.

My question when someone says, “It doesn’t sound like he’s interested” is always “Well, why the heck not?! Why wouldn’t he be?!” I think that’s my thing. I never want to believe he’s not interested because it makes me think something’s wrong with me. I hate that.

Note to guys: If you’re not interested, make that clear from the beginning and don’t give signals that you are interested. Have some respect for your female friends.

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 01:24:52 +0000

Thank you all so much!!

Interestingly, this man in mention has read these blog posts.

QT Mama, thank you for “You live, you date, you learn.”

SDMktg: Will you please send me your favorite cake recipe? I know who’s getting the next cake! (She’s going to be 9…)

Wanda: No worries.

Yes, Alicia, “next”!

By: Mike

Mike — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 22:08:50 +0000

Rachel, you didn’t “blow it”. So it took you two dates to find out what you needed to know. Small price to pay in the grand scheme of things.

By: Attainingme

Attainingme — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 18:02:01 +0000

Rach- I think we all support you no matter what. And i think sometimes we know someone may not be Mr. Right, but perhaps, he offers something that is right in the moment. Even if it's just clarity, end to not knowing or flirting! Attainingme´s last blog post...Gift me with anything but indifference

By: wandamd

wandamd — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:05:08 +0000

I kinda take back what I said in the previous post…fact is you figured out on the second date that YOU just weren’t that into him! Instead of beating yourself up over him not having called you again for a second date it will now be much easier to let him go. Sorry for being so tough on you…should have said “Do what your gut says”…in the end you DID and it was a win-win situation.

By: Alicia

Alicia — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 02:17:06 +0000

Rachel, it’s all good sweetie. You did what your heart and your head told you to do; and it steered you right. Now you know that he wasn’t right for you, no matter who did the pursuing. Next!

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 01:53:28 +0000

The hardest part of dating, I think, is accepting that not everyone we go out with is going to like us, even if we like them. And sometimes it takes a few dates to figure that out. The worst thing women do when that happens is ask themselves, "what's wrong with me?" And the answer is, nothing. Once we accept that, dating -- and life -- is so much more pleasant. Hang in there, Rachel. You're great and you know it! We do, too. Kat Wilder´s last blog post...Girl-on-girl, hot; guy-on-guy, not?

By: Nikki

Nikki — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 23:32:02 +0000

Life's a dance. :O) We don't learn how to dance the first time we get on the dance floor. It takes practice and a few stepped on toes but eventually we realize what feels right and is right for us. If you have someone throwing you all over the dance floor it is uncomfortable. If you have to lead in a dance, it feels uncomfortable because the man is supposed to lead. But after enough practice we find a partner that fits us perfectly. We don't have to try so hard and it becomes a smooth dance, when the moves of the other become so comfortable that we can anticipate which way we'll be turned. This is the partner we deserve. There's no blowing it in the pursuit of truth. Each turn becomes confirmation...and we learn. :O) P.S. Thanks for linking to me. :O) Nikki´s last blog post...Never Walk Alone

By: SDMktg

SDMktg — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 22:09:04 +0000

I have to agree that calling him wasn't "blowing it". You found out what you needed to know so you can keep moving forward. Next time around though save the cake for a guy who really deserves it (and more importantly, who will appreciate it and you). SDMktg´s last blog post...Playoff Tailgate Recipes PART 2 - Baltimore vs. Pittsburgh

By: GLSD

GLSD — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 18:16:50 +0000

Way to go for following your instincts and pursuing him. You found out sooner than later. Now you know he’s not worth it. You can move on. Good Luck and keep us posted!!