Comments on: Do single dads prefer to date women without kids?

By: Single Dad

Single Dad — Sat, 21 May 2011 17:00:20 +0000

Well, I guess not. It depends on the person. Each guy i guess is different. Some guys may like it, some may not.

By: dc

dc — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 03:19:06 +0000

I agree with John that as a single dad there’s almost no point in dating a woman without kids because “they just don’t get it”.

I don’t think it would absolutely stop me, but I just think the odds of someone without kids understanding what you are contending with when you do have them is wildly unlikely. I mean, it’s hard enough just to find someone who’s basically compatible, without also being someone who (a) understands the demands of having children without herself having them (b) doesn’t have it in the back of her mind that whatever you bring to the relationship she “could find the same in some other guy, but without the baggage”.

I personally think (b) is wildly unlikely, possible, but terribly unlikely, but it’s a belief people cling to.

So, to answer the question about the bachelor though – I think it says nothing whatsoever about people in the real world. He is given an incredible opportunity to select as few ever get. His selections say nothing at all that can be generalizable. Any real-world single dad knows his best opportunities for a relationship lie with single moms.

By: Eric

Eric — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 15:38:49 +0000

I’m a single dad (34) with primary custody of my daughter (9). I think it starts out easier dating someone without kids because they are accessible, but ultimately it becomes more difficult because we have to be selfless, so I personally prefer a woman with one or two kids (not trying to put together a basketball or football team though!). I also used to think having an open arrangement with the ex was the right thing to do, but going by the decree and minimizing all contact really works best for everyone as it minimizes the chances for drama.

Wholeheartedly agree with Mike on the life lessons learned thing.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 06:11:04 +0000

I am a single mother to 4 children… all very young and my youngest is disabled (she has a very rare symdrome, but is cute as a button). I have done a lot of deep thinking recently, though, and have come to the conclusion that even though I am still in my early twenties… I do not have a chance at dating until my kids are in their teens. The men I have dated have not been single dads and always fight to get more attention than my children – or cannot hold their own (okay, so my daughters are a little high-energy… heh). The only single dad I dated turned out to be one of those low-life ones who doesn’t want to pay to support his own child (from an ex-wife) and never wanted visitation. I mean… if he didn’t even want his OWN kid…?

By: Superman

Superman — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:47:16 +0000

Just remember, the life you have now with your boyfriend/girlfriend with kids will probably not change. Don’t expect it to change. If you are staying in it cause you think you will get more time down the road, you are kidding yourself. If you are not happy now, you will not be happy later. Break up if you are not content with the relationship as it is. Stay in it if you love the person and don’t mind the struggle two complex lives bring to the table.

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 23:26:57 +0000

I have found that single dads understand my life as a single mom – much better than those who have never married or never had kids.

It’s a matter of individuals – there are great men who have never been dads (and love kids), great men who have been dads (and love it), great men who’ve been dads and finished the active parenting so they just don’t want to “go there” again.

I understand that. I have teens. Light at the end of the tunnel. I adore kids, but date a man with little ones? No. I’m in a different place. Date a man with teens? No problem.

I think gentleman “Mike” made a very important observation (above). He likes women who are mothers. He understands that we’ve learned a few things about life, and about loving. My hat’s off to Mike for getting it.

What works? Whatever feels right between two individuals + kids, at a point in time.

By: m

Thu, 13 Aug 2009 06:50:09 +0000

I am a 27 year old single mom. i used to be so good at dating. now that i am a single mom, it feels weird and scary. i don’t even know where to begin.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 18:19:54 +0000

Wow! There are some harsh comments on this website about women without kids. I dated a full-time single father for 2 years. I was kind, patient, understanding, blah, blah, blah and all it got me was dumped. Is it really too much to ask for one night every other month to spend alone? If it is then I guess I am not cut out to date a single dad. Now, I love his children and I can’t find any advise about how to maintain or if it’s possible to maintain a healthy relationship with the kids of your ex-boyfriend.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 02:06:38 +0000

This is such an interesting topic! There really isn’t a majority who would date one over the other… so it’s hard to know the answer.

I am dating a man who has 3 kids (all under 10). He has drama with the ex and still battling things out in court. I fell in love with him and love his kids. The problem is they take up ALL of his time. I admit that I get selfish and want more “alone” time with him. He has them constantly, and they’re not the most well-behaved, structured kids. They eat when they want, go to bed when they want, pretty much take over the house, etc.

I just ran into an ex boyfriend who has never been married and has no kids, but WANTS kids. Even though I’m in love with my ‘single-dad’ boyfriend, I still think about what it would be like to date someone WITHOUT all of that drama and time constraints. Is it worth breaking up with a wonderful man to create a family of my very own?

I want more children but my bf has had a vasectomy, he says he’s willing to reverse it but there is no guarantee that works.

Don’t know what to do????

PS. I have a baby girl so I’m a single mom as well. Both men are willing to accept her.

By: T

Fri, 20 Feb 2009 02:51:13 +0000

I cannnot have kids and have always wanted them due to health reasons. Where can I go to find a man with kids who would like a mom? I am 42 and I do not look it! But sometimes feel it since I am not a mother? I am not the dating show or dating scene kind of person, hell I don’t drink so that keeps me from clubs and bars and I am not polyester Sue for the bowling alleys and I don’t think I would meet the man of my dreams there either. Where can I go. This is bold move for me and I never considered the internet as I felter kind a despereate and I guess I am! HELP!