I’ve recently plunged back into online dating. Without naming names, let’s just say that this whole process has reminded me: social skills really do matter.
It’s one thing to “chat” with a potential date by email. But what happens when you have that first phone call? And how about when you meet in person?
For that initial phone call, I do my best to carve out a quiet, space with no interruptions for 10 minutes. (I see you laughing. Ten private minutes without interruptions as a single parent? Ha!)
I’m extremely sensitive to a man’s voice. If he’s nervous or awkward, it shows right away. You can practically read someone’s aura by listening to the way he talks. Do you agree?
When you meet a date for the first time, eye contact is crucial. If I’m walking up to a man, and his eyes immediately dart to the ground, that’s not a good sign. Are you with me?
Then, there’s the greeting. I’d love to know:
Do you shake hands when you meet a date for the first time? Or, do you give each other a hug? (I’m still figuring this one out, but for now, I listen to my gut about which one to do.)
Once we start talking, I seem to have this uncanny sense for seeing a man’s pain right away. Perhaps this is because I’ve had my share of painful experiences — and the hurt in his eyes mirrors back to me. Because I know my pattern of trying to “fix” men, my challenge right now is to recognize the neediness, say “thank you,” and move on.
How much does someone’s voice matter to you, when you speak to him/her for the first time?
How do you greet a blind date when you meet him/her initially? (Hug? Handshake? Big old kiss on the lips? Just kidding!)
What are you super-aware of on a first date?
And no, I DON’T wear my “Single Mom Seeking” T-shirt on a first date!
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