I need help with my online dating profile

by singlemomseeking on December 4, 2008

I’m thinking about giving online dating another try. But my profile is one year old — and it clearly needs a tune-up. Can you help me out here?

Let’s face it: if you’re browsing online profiles — whether you’re a man or a woman — you look at the photos first. (If you don’t agree, I’m not sure about you!)

After this, a catchy username might make you pause. And then, there’s the headline. It has to be compelling. Do you agree?

I’m definitely not keeping my former online headline, which went like this: “Are you honest, with a big heart, and no addictions?”

Here’s my favorite so far:

“Single mom seeking single dad…”

I think it’s clear and to the point. But one of my girlfriends has already told me: “You’re being WAY too exclusive! What if he’s a great guy, but he doesn’t have any kids?”

(Note to JDate: I wish you had a way I could search for a man with kids, the same way you can search for certain location, age, etc.)

Your turn: If you have an online profile, what’s your headline? I would love to hear it!

If you were previously online, what was your headline?

And if you’re thinking about trying online dating, let’s hear your headline ideas!

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PT-LawMom December 5, 2008 at 2:47 pm

Mine is “Kiss slowly; forgive quickly.” I also had great luck when I used “Teach me to line dance?” because I thought it was fun and activity-based.

PT-LawMom´s last blog post…Snugglebug


singlemomseeking December 5, 2008 at 8:00 pm

I should seriously ask all of you to write my profile. You are SO good!!

QT Mama’s “Yes, I Own My Own Car.” (That’s so you, with that great sense of humor you have!)

PT Law Mom: You’ll really need to explain “Kiss slowly; forgive quickly.” Hmmm. What the history behind that one?

Mommy to the Monsters: “So you think you can dance?” Brilliant!


Leah December 5, 2008 at 10:43 pm

OMG. This is great online dating advice. I’m absorbing, absorbing. I do want to say that guys with pics of random women are a next for me. They scream “playah!”

Leah´s last blog post…My amazing date tonight…


Jim Everson (Depot Dad) December 6, 2008 at 1:50 am

Well, I don’t have anything for you, SMS, but I think I’ll go change my headline now to say: Looking for a fun date AND free hard drive repair?

Jim Everson (Depot Dad)´s last blog post…That’s Quite a Ride


walt December 6, 2008 at 8:56 pm

Of course we look at the pictures first, but then we are looking to see if our personalities might fit. I like to lead with something a little zany (like some of the suggestions here), because a shared sense of humor is soooo important. I definitely go for the women’s profiles that show a sharp sense of humor.


Bill in VA December 8, 2008 at 9:59 am

I went with “Some assembly required”.
I’m hoping someone will see the wittiness there and not think I’m a basket case in need of serious help. LOL.


Lance December 11, 2008 at 7:02 am

“I’m a Big Nerd, Don’t Click Me!” I use that for my email subject header too and it kills. Anything catchy to get them to at least click your profile.

Lance´s last blog post…7 Thought Leaders in the Dating & Pickup Industry


Jackie December 11, 2008 at 4:24 pm

There’s some good tips for profile writing here:

some more here:

I personally would go with a neutral headline myself.

Detroit, MI


Alicia December 12, 2008 at 7:22 pm

LOl! Had to look at my headline because I had no clue what it was. (again,because I don’t overthink) Turns out I was pleasantly surprised:”Looking for the connection? Me too.” Simple & to the point, if I must say so myself!


Howard December 31, 2008 at 12:29 pm

Hope I’m not too late to comment, but I just found your blog. My headline read, “Yes, they both have 3 legs…” because I own two 3-legged dogs and posted their picture along with mine. Unfortunately, the emails I received usually began with, “Your dogs are so cute…and I liked your profile”.

Howard´s last blog post…Leftovers


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