How do you handle loneliness?

by singlemomseeking on December 15, 2008

Loneliness used to hit me really hard around this time: the holidays. Don’t get me wrong: it still hits, but fortunately I can sit with it now. I’ve learned to turn to family and friends, exercise, reading. (If you’ve read my book, then you know that I used to turn to one thing only: men.)

And, of course, there’s this blog.

Although an online connection can feel surreal — how well do we really know each other? — it has taken away so much of the loneliness. I can only hope that this blog is doing the same for many of you. When I read your comments, I swear I can hear some of your voices.

There’s this poem I recently read — The Rider, by Naomi Shihab Nye — which beautifully sums up my relationship with loneliness:

A boy told me
if he roller-skated fast enough
his loneliness couldn’t catch up to him,
the best reason I ever heard
for trying to be a champion…

On that note, I’m giving away an Afterglow Candle from Babeland for the holidays. Who doesn’t need a little light?

Not only does it burn up to 42 hours, but the candle doubles as a massage oil! It comes with a body brush that you can dip into the melted wax and use as massage oil on your skin (or someone else’s skin? I’m just saying!)

“More than a candle, it’s an encounter.”


So, let’s hear how you handle loneliness. What do you do when you’re feeling lonely?


If you’re inspired to get poetic, go for it! You have until Friday to participate!

Read “The Rider” by Naomi Shihab Nye in its entirety here.

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