But yeah. We’re all just commodities here. Just part of a list made up to fulfill everyone’s active fantasy life. Seriously. Life’s not about discovery. It’s not a journey. If you don’t arrive on the front steps with that same caddy, a ‘good name’ & family & and impressive resume (aka, suspiciously Like the Pre-historic 1950′s & prior) as your tall dark, handsome athletic self, well you might as well forget it. No matter how the Ex’s were acquired or how they might measure up by comparison. (But we’ve learned So much!) I could go on and get into the ‘other side’ by no need to bother. You get the drift.

I’d say I’ve been surprised by this development at the mark of the 21st century, but not very. Some things never change. But spouses & Lovers might down through the years. There’s discovery at work, wisdom gained, experiences shared & created. Suffering & loss overcome. Sorrows assuaged. No ones comes to your door step complete and ‘finished’. Not your kids. Not even your parents. No One. Why expect a Partner to come ‘Finished’ as to your Exact specifications of your desires? Yes, even the dog would scoff at that! Cheers & Good Luck, ‘VJ’

Be the example of the type of man my daughter should marry.

Be the example of the type of husband my son should be.

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I’ve thought about making a list in the past, but I’ve decided it’s healthier for me to figure out what I want through trial and error.

I thought I knew what I was looking for before, and that didn’t work out so well (hence, the single dad label I proudly carry today).

My list right now is pretty much one item. No lies.

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When I read through some of the typical responses on the question here & elsewhere I’m continually tickled by recurring themes:

Everyone wants that:

Younger Fit good looking hunk/gal with:

1.) The Soul & habits of a poet.

2.) The Romantic words and movement & timing of the best lyricists or a lithe dancer.

3.) The tolerance and patience of a nun/priest.

4.) The passion for work & work habits & ‘financial stability & solvency’ of a leading CPA.

5.) The understanding and empathy of a mother & a clinical counselor.

6.) The better taste of a classical European Epicurean.

7.) The reading habits, knowledge and retention of an English Professor. (Not the Reality mind you! Just enough to pick up some decent poetry every now & again.)

8.) One who loves us as selflessly, utterly& completely and wordlessly, always. Like our dogs do!

9.) Someone with the rationality of a machine when we need ‘figuring’ on some problem, but who’s connected enough to cry along with us when needed.

10.) Someone’s who’s always open to constant communication no matter the hour or circumstances, and is able to listen carefully and silently until we’ve finished.

Of course the last 3 are ringers. If this rings true for you? Learn to appreciate your dog(s) better. It won’t get any better than that for a love worthy of the name. Not in this lifetime! Cheers & Good Luck, ‘VJ’