The man I hope to love

by singlemomseeking on November 10, 2008

The beautiful, spunky, bold blogger at The Quest for T put me up to this dare. Here’s what she emailed me recently:

“I’m making a list, starting today, of traits I have loved in men I’ve been with. I’m going to list the next perfect man I choose for me. It will be an empowering exercise…What about you? Are you in too? Make a list with me!”

Anyone who knows me knows that I’m a sucker for dares.

First, thanks for reading our lists. Second, although I might print this list out and put it under my pillow, I’m not on a mission to check off these qualities in every man I meet. Check! Check!

Instead, in my own life, I’m striving to embrace all of these traits. As T puts it so well, “I am going to be this list. We only get what we give away…”

This is only the tip of the iceberg on my list…but here goes:


You help me carry my heavy baggage. I’ll help you carry yours.

You look me in the eyes, really look. Neither of us turns away. Well, except to blink.

You get my dry sense of humor… and actually laugh.

You hold my hand without letting go, even when we hit rough patches. You can hold both hands if you want.

You get along with your family — or try to.

You want to stretch alongside me, physically and emotionally.

You like to have sex (in the morning, afternoon, evening…?) You also love to kiss.

You are financially responsible.

You cheer me on. I have my pom-poms ready to cheer you on!

You like to cook, and feed me. (I make a mean lasagna!)

You make every effort to communicate, genuinely and respectfully.

You want to live a committed, open, and honest life.


Now, let’s open up the floor to you: men and women, yes YOU…

What are some of the top traits on YOUR list? Name just one if you can.

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