An ex is calling, Part II

by singlemomseeking on October 10, 2008

Recently, I asked for your advice about an ex who was calling (thanks to all of you!)

Some of you pointed out the fact that this guy is Jewish and Yom Kippur was coming up — a time when Jews around the world ask for forgiveness.

Others said that his conversation sounded right out of Alcoholics Anonymous.

And many of you pointed out that it’s simply the universe is at work, like TS Quest who said:

I think you are being tested... This is something that has come back into your life to show you something about yourself. Maybe it will show you your strength. Maybe it will show you that its okay to be vulnerable. But it will show you something and it probably won’t be comfortable. Get out of the comfort and welcome the growth. Take a chance.”

(Do you see why I turn to all of you?)

Here’s what happened:

We made a plan to meet for coffee, then he called to say that something had come up at work. We rescheduled.

He called again and left a message, saying that “something else” had come up. I didn’t call back. This was feeling like way too much work.

That’s when he emailed me:

“Hey Rachel,

Although I would still like to catch up and hear how things are going with you, I have since been focused on a diligent attempt at rescuing my relationship with ex-fiance.

I am pretty sure that she would not be too excited about you and I meeting and reminiscing, but perhaps a phone call or two wouldn’t be out of the question; she gets pretty uneasy about “other” girls

Thanks for your understanding and let me know if you would be up for a phone chat soon.”


I wrote back:

“Sounds like a lot of the drama. I’m in a good place right now —  without any relationship drama. I really wish you the best.”

And that was the end. So I thought.

The same day I posted that first entry about him, he emailed me again!

As far as I know, he doesn’t have a clue about my blog. And if he does, his email wasn’t letting on–

He wrote:

“Are you available for coffee and catch-up–?”

That’s it.

Hello, what happened to his jealous girlfriend?

I called him in between work meetings.

It was a very short conversation, in which he said that he has been going through some changes, which he’d like to explain over a cup of coffee–

We’re meeting on Monday morning (a holiday) after I drop M at a friend’s for a play date.

Any more words of wisdom?

I know that some of you mamas are going to tell me: “Don’t go! What a waste of time!”

And men? What’s your take on this one?

Photo by the amazing Keith Loh. If you’re looking for a photographer in the Vancouver area, you should seriously consider this guy.

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