I sure hope so. I loved being married, and I was a great wife! Next time though, I will marry someone with the same commitment to marriage that I have. Which means, he’s going to have to stop dating other women after we get married. LOL

For 3 years, I took care of the domestics, shopping, and was fortunate (and grateful) to have gotten to stay at home with the baby. My ex would come home at night; we’d have dinner, run through our various bed-time routines then settle into some television or talk. The one thing that was different is that we had separate rooms and never shared nary a peck on the cheek; it just wasn’t there for us. I was raising my daughter with a best friend and didn’t realize until a trip out to visit relatives that things needed to change. While visiting my sister, my daughter found the affection between her and her husband to be the funniest thing she’d ever seen! She kept asking them to kiss and would jump and clap and ask them to do it again. It made me VERY sad in realization that she’d never seen her Mommy or Daddy engage in this type of affection and/or closeness with someone.
From there I began to ask myself questions (many that I don’t have solid answers to yet) about the choices we’d made as parents and how they were affecting our child. She is a very happy child who is close to both parents (thankfully) but I began to realize that while yes, primarily finding a husband/partner was going to fulfill me the most, I also believed the main place she would learn to relate to the opposite sex is going to be by watching the example I put forth! What a scary thought and a lot of pressure as a single parent!
So I did begin the painful process of putting plans into place that would put me in a better position to A. venture out on my own and further pave a path towards being able to date. I am VERY protective of my family life when I date, thus thankfully she didn’t see the pitfalls I encountered while first venturing out as a single parent. I am now dating someone wonderful and it is getting serious. While she has not seen any displays of affection, she has met him and is clever enough to understand this “friend” is different. So yes, I am hopeful that I will be able to provide for her at some point a family setting so that she can have an example of a loving relationship thus shaping her views on marriage and men for the future in a positive light. (I like Rachel do not know if I need the marriage certificate in order to be in a committed relationship and be considered a family)

At this point, I don’t know if I’ll remarry or not. I guess if the right guy came along… But I worry about being abandoned again also. I just don’t know. I miss marriage sometimes, but then I remember and I don’t miss it.

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Ha! Julie’s comment is hilarious!!

I had decided I would never marry again. A month later, Soldier reentered my life and asked me if I would marry again! I remember thinking, “Well… maybe?”

Since then, I say “I don’t know.”

The thing is, I wasn’t expecting I would feel those intense feelings again. I didn’t know I would crave it like I craved it when the ex and I were together.

No, I’m not looking forward to the scary parts of living together and disagreements. I’m sure I’ll have moments of worry about abandonment again. But I also know now, that many of those thoughts are the drama that I create in my own head. If I am truly present to the love in the moments we are together, the worry subsides.

My oldest daughter is going through fears of growing up and being taller than me. (She’s 7 and up to my shoulder already.) She worries so much about it. I told her last night, “Do you know how to stop growing up so fast? You stop worrying about it and enjoy how young you are right now.”

True dat. Worry ages us. So instead of worrying if I will get married again, I try to live for now. And I know now to not say “I will never…” or “I will always…”

Instead I say, “Never say never because you never know!”

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I honestly don’t know.

Trying to plan what your life will be like years away is a fool’s game…. it can’t be done. I know because I’ve tried!

I would like to get married again, but I’ve learned that I’ll survive if I don’t and it’s okay to define relationships a little differently than others might. (That said, I think it would be easier for my kids at their age to understand and for me to explain “Mom’s married” than “Mom’s in a long-term, committed but not married relationship”. But that’s just me.)

I guess I learned the hard way that it’s more important to focus more on being with the *right* person who truly understands, accepts and complements me than in the institution. And, who knows, if my current relationship keeps going the way it is, I may get both. I might even consider another baby

(ha, insanity! but, yes, seriously, I’ve thought of it)

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for me no. I have been a single mom for 13 years. that entire time i WANTED to get married, wanted a family. in 13 years I have had one relationship and he lived with us for 2 years, that was plenty. I now look forward to selling my house when my son goes to college and traveling. Then i will be ready for my soul mate and marriage, i think.

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Julie, “T” is right, you’re hilarious: “Which means, he’s going to have to stop dating other women after we get married.”

Here’s to seeing the humor through it all.

Susan: Wow, you are smitten for sure.

Just A Girl:

Timing certainly is a factor, isn’t it? When your children are really young, it seems like it’s easier to bring a partner into the mix, smoothly. (Does everyone agree?)

I hear you about waiting until your son goes to college… until you think about getting married again.

Right now - nope! I dont see marriage in my future!

I would like someone in my life yes but right now I dont see anyone actually fitting into my life!

Like you there are alot of things I dont want to do again!

I do realise though that these things may just be me being scared of things going wrong and making the same mistakes twice!

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I’d like to get married, but it’s getting harder and harder to imagine it.

Funny how this is the question of the day considering this is the anniversary of my marriage breaking up. I am no closer getting married today as I was six years ago, and that isn’t a bad thing. Like you, I still want to have the companionship, but I don’t know if I really want to share my life completely. It will have to be a very special man to make me feel differently. I like my life where just like it is, but I guess somebody taking to me dinner now and then would not be a bad thing.

I always viewed marriage as the ideal…going through life with a best friend and lover, facing things together, supporting each other, etc. I was eager to get married, to dive in, to take on the challenges.

But after 2 divorces myself, and from knowing lots of women (married and not anymore) for whom marriage is far less than ideal, it’s become extremely clear to me that marriage is an ENORMOUS risk.

And that when people say marriage is “hard work”, they aren’t exaggerating.

Sure, when it’s good, it’s very very good. But most marriages are not good, and all of them suck at least part of the time.

So, there’s a significant downside to marriage. And no matter how I search, I can’t see much of an upside to marriage at my stage of life. But I’m open to hearing arguments!

I can have everything I want without marriage, so why risk it? I’m 47 and don’t want any more children. I’m financially stable with a solid career, so I don’t need someone to “take care” of me. I like keeping my kids, my bank account, my kids’ college account (that I’ve worked so hard to build), and my core life independent from the vagaries of some guy who I might not be able to depend on, you never know.

I keep thinking, he’s great now, but what if he devolves in 10 years into someone I don’t like much? Over time so many people I’ve known (men & women) have descended into addiction, cheating, gambling, cults, you name it–ruining their lives. Why should I risk getting into that?

And I think, what if he’s lying to me after all, and I can’t see it? I’ve been fooled before so probably it’s not something I’m good at spotting. So why take the risk?

Also, I’ve gotten to like having my own space, time to myself, and I like making my space reflect me.

It’s so nice not to have to figure out how to decorate around “his” collection of ugly (fill in the blank!) sports memorabilia, giant stereo speakers, barbells, midcentury furniture, video game consoles, and vintage cheesecake posters. Men these days travel with a boatload of material crap, it seems, that I really would not want to live with!

I like being free to indulge in lace edged sheets and flowers on the nightstand in my bedroom that would be way too girly for any straight guy. Also…I get a whole closet to myself (yay!).

So…what are the advantages of getting married? I can have a stable relationship without that and without moving in with a man. So, why?

OMG so sorry….that got kind of long…apologies!

I would love to get married again, but for the first time.

My first marriage didn’t count. I got my two beauties out of it but I never truly got to experience the marriage factor and I think I deserve to do so. The beauty of it all is that I would never have been emotionally ready for marriage until I was emotionally mature enough, which I am just now realizing, although still not quite ready.

Marriage, in the healthiest of terms, is the absolute of trust, loyalty, dependence, responsibility, friendship, vulnerability, passion and romance. I want this! But I will wait until I have arrived at that intersection of right time/right person.

I am learning to overcome all of this abandonment crap. The only person that I should feel abandoned by at this point is ME.

I have one thing to say… It’s not looking promising. hehe

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I would love to have a woman in my life, my house, my bed full time again. I can’t imagine dating when I’m 60. So, yeah, I’d like to get married again!

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I’d love to get married (for the first time, because I never have), but at the same time it’s not a huge priority. If the right guy comes along I’m all for it, but I love my life right now. I love my little family of two, and I honestly think my daughter, though she claims to want a step-father (I honestly think that’s just because she’s tired of us being broke from living on one income), would be jealous after having me to herself all these years.

And I’m so set in my ways! I’ve had guys I dated get offended because I didn’t jump at the chance to spend hours chatting on the phone with them. But I’m more content to hang out with my kid, to sit and read a book, to watch The Daily Show before going to sleep. And maybe that’s because I haven’t met anyone yet that makes me want to break out of my routine and make a change.

So it’s going to have to be someone really special, and I’m going to have to be very sure because my daughter has had enough men walk out on her (her father and then a man we lived with for 2 years) to last a lifetime.

But the whole fairytale wedding, with me wearing white and Casey as my maid of honor and my dad walking me down the aisle? I do dream that it will happen one day.

Sometimes it takes meeting “THE ONE” for you to want those things. I did not want any of those things when I first dated my now husband. After we broke up for three years, saw other people, and grew up some, and got back together, then I knew he was for sure the one and I NEEDED all those things. Minus the joint accounts, but that’s a whole other topic. I’m not trying to make light of how you feel, but as you know, feelings and wants are subject to change throughout life.

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Wow, Andrea, I’m always inspired when I hear a story like yours: you two broke up, grew up… and now look at you!

Kelly: Your comment has me all teary. (What’s wrong with me today??). Last night, in a pang of sadness, I curled up with my kid, close.

I really get this: “I love my little family of two.”

No way. No how. Committed relationship - yes. One in which he lives elsewhere, but close by (I’m thinking down the hall) would be my ideal. I took the vows once and I think I would be a hypocrite to repeat them with another person.

I used to think that I wanted another kid, more so because I want The Mook to have a sibling, but I like our dynamic and the PPD I struggled with after her birth was just so hard that it’s maybe not a good idea to try that again.

I get nauseous when I think of the damage the Former Mister did to our joint account. Namely because they continue to call me looking for money I don’t have because I’m not the one who took advantage of the $2500 overdraft.

Right…so marriage to me was about lying, stealing and being stepped on emotionally and physically.

It’s been over a year, but I’m carving out a life for me and The Mook. We have our routines and rituals and I’m building up confidence in myself as a slightly dysfunctional parent and person who still has it together. Unless I can be convinced that marriage would never, ever change that, it’s not part of the life plan.

I was so unfortunate to be abandoned. My heart has been broken eternaly. i will die broken-hearted, there is no climbing out of the deep hole full of fear- No matter how hard I try to overcome,
the sadness in my soul never goes away. I loved this beautiful woman with all my heart, but I was not smart enough for her I guess.I’ve never found anyone whom I loved qui´te as much, and never will.

The ONLY way I would consider getting married again is if I was in a committed relationship with the “PERFECT” man (who doesn’t exist) and it was important to him that we get married. I’m perfectly happy having a committed relationship without marriage.

I’d be ok with living together until we turn 99, but getting married? What’s the point.

I’d love to have a long-term relationship some day - but even that? Is in the future some-day like ten years from now. I just don’t have the time or ability to devote to building a good relationship right now.

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LOL I feel the same way as Julie! Loved being a wife, didn’t so much love the girlfriends. Next time I think I will find someone with the same values as me. Maybe date them for longer than 6 months. Ex was born in Atlantic City, raised in Vegas. Maybe that should have been my red flag that his moral compass was a bit off??

So yeah, I’ll definitely marry again. I’ll date for a long time, make sure he’s the right person, and choose a bit more carefully, but I want that, and I know someday I’ll find it. =)

Not even a little. Never been married, not likely to ever be married. 1. I’m an atheist - so religious stuff doesn’t matter to me and 2. The whole history of marriage just leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth. 3. My ability to trust has been so damaged beyond repair that for me to even consider entangling myself with someone else legally would require such an enormous leap of faith, I’d have to be insane.

This is a good topic. I have abandonment fear too. My story involves a sudden, intense end of my marriage – with my husband picking up an addiction after years sober, and leaving us overnight. He left a note, “I no longer desire a family.” My son was an infant still, and my daughter 5. I had been with him since college, and he left when I was 37.

When Mark and I started dating a year ago - - I felt almost chemically altered in my dealings with him. I knew at times my perception was not reliable. I could barely stop myself from acting on it because I was so fearful. He would say something, or promise something (especially intense for me if he promised something to the children) and it viscerally pained my instincts to accept his word at face value and let go of the issue. I recognized some post traumatic stress in myself. I was seeing shadows, but they sure seemed real!

Little by little, I forced myself, one hour at a time, one day at a time, to emotionally extend myself (and for women like us - - we’re extending our kids out there too, aren’t we?). Take the next step, I thought, and more will be revealed to you. I don’t have to know everything today. I can’t predict what miracle might happen tomorrow. I forced myself to swallow my fear, and practice “openness”, and “trust” as behaviors I might once again ‘live myself’ into feeling.

I am professional and college educated, and a home owner. I support us. I am strong and self sufficient. But… I accept today that I *do* want to be married again. I do not want the remainder of my precious time on this planet ruled by the fact that I was abandoned with small children. Yes, it was a trauma. Yes, it was horrible. But my husband could have stepped in front of a bus to his death, instead of deserting us. Would I refuse to remarry if that happened? Would I tell my daughter “Don’t get married or you might suffer a loss!” or my son? No. I wish for my children the full spectrum of the human experience – and that hopefully includes commitment, and tight bonds, and amazing falling-in-love experiences, true companionship, and also probably trauma, and treachery at times, and horrible grief and terrible loss. This is what it means to be human.

I love that feeling of having someone IN IT with me, day in and day out. Down to my bones, I want someone there with me at night, and again when I wake up. I crave that daily companionship. Sure, there is a downside to living with anyone – negotiations on schedule, chores, finances, house work, kids. People are annoying in cramped, small spaces with all their messy personalities.

I want all of that again. I am giving myself permission to NOT make rules for myself.

And yes, I think it gets harder as your kids get older.

Beautifully honest Greg Peck Fan.

And you struck a chord with me:
“People are annoying in cramped, small spaces with all their messy personalities.”

But still, as you point out, a whole relationship — with all its love — can transcend this.

Right now I’m stuck where I am.

Down the road, would I put up with all the crap again?

I don’t know.

Great questions, and I can understand more than one side.

I think, I would definitely hold off, but if you do that, then you become accustomed to life the way you want it.

On the other hand if you jump in too soon, you could be in the same boat you just got yourself out of.

Interesting.
Thanks for letting me read.

I think yes. But I worry about losing myself, making the same mistake twice and, most importantly, hurting my son. So if I do, I hope it will be with a lot of thought first.

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I had to laugh at Julie’s comment as well. When my ex decided to move on her comment was that she “felt trapped” to which I responded “you do absolutely anything and everything you want to how could you possibly feel trapped?” and she said “I can’t date other people.”

She definitely tore my heart out and it’s taken some time (coming up on 4 years) but I do believe that I will get married again and I am seeing a wonderful woman who’s very understanding about taking things slowly. I am very sad for the day everyone gives up on marriage because weddings are all about hope for the future and building/sharing lives together.

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I want to start by saying that this is a great question,one that has been on my mind for a long time. The truth is I would love to find a supportive, loving, trust-worthy man. But, I believe that it is impossible to start over unless you have allowed the wounds of a divorce/ break-up to heal. I personally have found it very difficult to trust again and my fear of being hurt has extended itself to fears of how it will affect my daughter. I do want to find a man who will love and respect me. I miss the love, and warmth and support that comes with a healthy relationship, but I’m still in the process of healing.

BTW- this is a great site, so glad I found it.

motherflower´s last blog post…Love and Marriage and the Single Mom

You know, after having been married probably because it was expected of me rather than because it was a good idea, you’d think I’d be sour on the whole idea.

I’d like to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I won’t settle for anything less. I want a partner who loves, respects, and supports me. That doesn’t have anything to do with control or smothering. Far from it. But if I find a man who respects my life and complements it? Yes, I’d marry him. I want my son to have a good man in his life, preferably with siblings… and since I don’t want to have more kids…

I’m just sayin. There’s a man out there if I want him. And he’ll have kids of his own. And a life of his own. And we will be a partnership.

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I’m not sure. I like the idea of marriage but I’m still at the point where I’m not really sure I was a good wife. I’m not really sure I’m wife material. I’m not-dating someone right now who I think does want to get married (not necessarily to me, but who knows) and would make an awesome father to my children but I’m just not sure what I want. I do want more children…I want the white picket fence…but I’m not sure that’s possible. Sadly, I don’t have too many role models of healthy marriages to look at. I do know that if I ever marry again, I will be smarter about it than I was the last time, but that brings me back to my self-analysis and whether I’m really willing or able to be the happy wife behind that white picket fence.

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I’d like to at least give it a try.

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At this point, I’m not looking for someone to help me raise my kids — actually — I don’t want help with that. Like you I don’t want a joint checking account or someone else on the deed or the mortgage. I like the idea of a committed relationship, so does that mean marriage? Probably not. I would never live with someone though, unless I was married, at least not while I still have kids in the house. Down the road, maybe. I like my independence, my space, my own place.

Although I like the idea of a wedding! LOL

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I used to think I would, but now I’m not so sure, thanks to all the single mom blogs I read.

The idea of being with someone that I adore, admire, love to share things with, and love to be with is great. I’m not in a hurry though. I’m learning (at nearly 40 that is no easy trick) that there is more to me and much more I want in the person I want to share me with. Single parenting is a lot of work, as is a relationship, as is a job. I know that right now I don’t have the energy to do all three, so parenting and job have to come first.

Yes, yes, yes I want to get married again.

Despite my awful marriage–like many of you experienced–bankruptcy, compulsive lying, mental/emotional abuse and the lot–from this man. This man did give me the most adorable daughter who is thriving and is healthy. And, she rarely sees or hears from him.

Am I going to let this man control my fears? Because it happened once? Hell no! There’s no way I’m going to let him control my life. I have the power to choose how I want to move forward with my life. I choose to love and be loved back.

I have learned so many things from this horrid relationship–as they say, “From the ashes come diamond.” I have sinced learned to stand upright with pride, earned my MA and am a homeowner.

Most importantly, I finally know that I’m worth it–and will wait as long as I have to until the right man comes along (notice: not perfect–the right one).

I definitely want to get married. I’ve never been married before, but I had one almost. When he left it did heighten my abandonment, rejection, and trust issues, but I refuse to give up hope that marriage or relationships in general can turn out successful.

I also want my children to have a daddy while they are still young. Because I adopted as a single woman, my children have no “legal father” and little to no recollection of their “birth father.”

They have my close friends and my dad who act as male role models, but they have no daddy. It is already becoming abundantly clear to them that “the daddy” is missing and they are only 2 & 4.

I think the older they get the harder it would be for them to accept someone in their life as “daddy.” I think the longer I wait to get married, the more they would see my husband as a “step dad,” as opposed to “their dad.” (If that makes sense)But I may be wrong!!!

Now don’t be mistaken, I wouldn’t marry a man, just so my kids could have a dad. I think it is just an added perk.

Now finding a man, who wholeheartedly welcomes and is in love with “the total package (Me and my kids)…THERE’S THE CHALLENGE!

If you know someone who fits that description..please send them my way..LOL!

My daughter is a freshman in high school. I have been raising her solo since she was 2 and have had 2 ’serious’ relationships both lasting less than a year (if you can call that serious)

If I were to get married it would be after her graduation.

Do I want to get married? If the glass slipper fits……

Not sure if I’ll ever meet that special person but love is unpredictable so who knows…

But one thing I am sure of is that I would definitely have a prenup. Not so much for finances but so that if it were to happen again, it wouldn’t be turned into such a messy process just for money…if that makes any sense.

I don’t think I’ll ever get married again. I’m 40, set in my ways, and love coming and going as I please. Of course, I have a 15-month old son, so most of my comings and goings center around him. Still, I like where I am in my life and I don’t wanna subject myself or anybody else, for that matter, to my crazy (big word alert) idyosyncracies.

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Thy guy I’d been seeing until recently actually did want to get married and asked several times. But he wasn’t the right one, and I am not about to settle.

Amy Nathan hit my sentiments on the head, EXACTLY, except for another wedding.

While I thoroughly enjoyed planning my wedding the 1st time and my ex played a huge role in it, I’m past wearing a white gown. LOL. And I think as I get older the next event, if there is one, will be a lot less “fuss.” Who knows, depending on my mood and partner at the time, we may just go to Vegas!

I tend to agree with the people who may wait until their kids are older. To change my view on that, he’d have to be a hell of a guy, and so far he hasn’t surfaced. So for now, Mini Me and I are enjoying our bachelorette pad.

I certainly hope I’ll get married (or in a committed partnership) someday. I’m only 24, so I’d be pretty sad to consign myself to always being the end of the line, the buck stops here, I’m in charge. If it doesn’t happen, I’ll be okay with that, too. I mean, I have a lot of fulfilling friendships as a single woman, so it’s not as though I’m starved for social interaction, it’s just the practicalities and security of a committed partnership are very attractive to me.

It’s questionable whether I’ll get married in the first, and I’m not that “old.” I have doubts about that kind of covenant. I’d love to have a life partner, though.

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Ever since I was little I wanted to be married. Perhaps becasue my parents weren’t very happy and I watched too much Brady Bunch and Happy Days.

When Lisa died all I wanted was to be married again. I rushed into a realtionship that was destined to go south and ended up hating women. Which was a total 180 from who I really was.

When Stacy died I swore I’d never get into another relationship again unless it was stricly sexualy, no strings.

Ironically through that I’ve got a complicated situation (eventually there will be a full disclosure post on this…) on my hands where I think about marriage a lot again lately.

I really do miss it for many reasons. Or perhaps it’s just the huge whole in my heart wanting to be filled no matter what…

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Solo Mom: Our future life visions are so similar… I guess I’m not surprised.

LEM: Here’s to not settling… and to getting married in leather in Vegas, maybe?

Avigail: We’re old friends, and I never knew that you wanted to get married again. Glad you let me know!

singlemomseeking´s last blog post…Will you get married again?

One factor that no one is talking about is the impact that separate households have on the environment… It’s not environmentally sound to have two households for one family. Perhaps we can ease the strain we put on our resources by forming non-traditional homes, with two single mother families combining households, etc.

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First, I love Avigail74’s comments. I think you have got the right attitude.

I have always had a strong belief that I would marry again someday. And complete confidence that it will be an amazing marriage. On the other hand, I am in no rush to be married. I mostly love the independence I have now. My first marraige was very difficult. I could have many reasons to not trust men but I really don’t harbor those feelings.

I will not allow screwed up belief systems around fears about someone cheating, spending all of my money, etc. hold me back from my destiny. (And all of those things and more happened in my first marriage.) Until we let go of those old wounds you can’t find love. There is a theory which says any belief you have can be supported by different reference points. So for instance, if I could have the belief that a man will cheat on you given the opportunity. I certainly have enough references with my ex. However, I chose to believe that there are plenty of wonderful, caring, intelligent, compassionate men out there and I will find at least one to make a life with.

The other thing that comes to mind on this topic is that a relationship is where you to go give and I know that I have a lot of love and support to give someone. And I will find that person and marriage will likely be the natural progression.

Wow, so many comments! I’ll chime in as well and say that I am open to the idea. I don’t want to go through life thinking that what my previous marriage was, is what all marriages are. I’d like to be shown that it can actually work and be rewarding and enriching. But I’ll take it one step at a time. First I have to meet someone who will return my phone calls. ; )

Well, considering my wedding is in 16 days, I can only get off this question on a technicality - I wasn’t married last time!!

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Yikes! I don’t like to talk in absolutes — never, always, etc. — but I don’t think so.

It’s not that I’m against marriage per se; I just don’t like it the way most of us think it “should” be.

That said, I want to have a wonderful life loving a wonderful man who loves me back, and who is as willing as I am to allow each other space while demanding that we be the best we can be — for ourselves, for each other, for our kids, for the world.

What is that called? If it’s called marriage then, yes, I’ll get “married.”

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I do not know the answer to this. But I hope to find once again the gooby, head over heelsy, confident, crazy, laughy, intellectual, big time love I once had and then released into the universe.

And please God, if marriage is in my future, let it be that and really, really amazing sex.

I do want another child. And I do love the intimacy of one love. But my standards are much higher and so are the stakes. So we shall see.

Jessica Ashley (Sassafrass)´s last blog post…And so the divorce becomes a quest

You know, it’s weird. I was thinking about this very thing this morning. I thought about how wonderful it would be to find a partner again, yet there are so many things about this 24/7 single mama lifestyle that I will be loath to give up. Mainly this amazing sense of independence and freedom. I’ve always cherished independence so highly. Can that be found within the institution of marriage? I don’t know.

Leah´s last blog post…Blogging and Bloglytizing

I never really thought that I would get married…but now that the BF and I are on that track I’m quite excited, not just to live with him (which I already do) but to intertwine our lives and also to have a wedding that celebrates our committment. I never imagined a wedding before him, and now I’m addicted to “Say Yes to the Dress!”

Honey´s last blog post…Into-Me-See: A Couple’s Guide to Intimacy

I’ve been a single a parent for 7 years. During that time I never wanted to re-marry. My focus was my children, earning my education and securing a job so I would not need a man. Now I have all that….and have been dating a wonderful man for over a year. We are committed to each other and can’t imagine life without him. I am actually thinking of marriage again…but would like to try living together first. I have a 9 and 11 year old, he has a 8 and 10 years old… and we want to do what’s best for them. I realize in todays society committed relationships without the marriage certificate is common…but I don’t live in Hollywood…How would this affects our kids?

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I do hope so. I loved being married, and I was a great wife! I’ll provided that person stops dating other women after we get married and especially if he don’t sleeping with his own sister. LOL

I completely agree with you on everything you said! I got married at 19, separated at 26. My soon-to-be ex and I split a little over a year ago (hard to get the $ together for a divorce) and I’ve dated, and dated, and dated, too.

I understand the whole “I’m never getting married again” thing. Having 2 little girls, I feel especially protective of them and wouldn’t want to put them through another divorce. I look at celebrity couples like Brad & Angelina, or Golie Hawn & Kurt Russell and think…damn…they’ve got it right! I think you can give yourself to someone else completely without all the paperwork.

But, maybe we’re just not ready yet. And that’s ok! I am happy finding out who I am as a woman; something I didn’t ever get to do. And, one day, hopefully you and I will both find a partner who makes us happy. Obviously you’re not ready right now, so don’t stress it, girl