I think this is great!

Haha. I would have been mortified at first. But it sounds like he’s really cool. And you haven’t written anything too embarrassing. So good for you!

jenn3´s last blog post…More Conversations With Shiloh

haha! Your experience will be much better than my last date that found my blog. I do think it could be interesting. I’m sure it will help him work through his thoughts and actions also.

I think it’s possible that after reading a your blog it gives some insight on what he knows of you in person. If nothing else, it might strengthen your friendship and that’s a great place to start.

FYI.. he’s not a bad looking guy. If I’m ever in Cali.. I might need a wing man.

I’m having to expand my blog reading every week. lol
Eathan´s last blog post…Polyamory

Oh my gosh…CRAY-ZEE! I love it!

I can’t wait to see how this unfolds.

I think since you are Single Mom Seeking that this all fits very nicely with your blog and your identity! I don’t blog about dating or relationships, to me, it’s too private. I admire your chutzpah in putting it all out there on a regular basis.

Amy Nathan´s last blog post…The zen of punctuation

Cool, looks like fun. I read his latest post and he seems like a chill guy.

Lance´s last blog post…This Blog Post Is Fairly Traded

Out of control? Nah. I think it’s funny, in an amusing, impish sort of way. Go for it! I can’t wait to read what you both write.

Oh, and never take the advice of your readers. They haven’t walked a single day in your shoes. They might happen to offer some wisdom that is just right for a given situation. But they can’t make choices for you. You have to make your own - based on your intuition, experience, wants, desires, etc. Make the choices that resonate an “ommmm” feeling for you!

Jenn, Goin’ Crazy: I was mortified at first. But really, what did I have to lose?

Eathan: He would make a good wing man, I’m sure. (A., have you ever been a wing man?)

Amy: Yes, he clearly gets the blogger in me. I’m fascinated by this.

Update: We might not hear from A. for at least 24 hours because he actually went today to have surgery on his shoulder.

Send him good vibes!

And in the meantime, go and check out his blog. See what you think–

I couldn’t have said it better than Dad so I won’t - Read DH for my comment!
The Exception´s last blog post…Having My Cake And Eating It Too

Well, the plot continues to thicken, eh?

I just pray my ex never finds my blog…

JulieR´s last blog post…Internet Dating Stories

How fun! I look forward to reading the he said/she said of dinner.

But a question SMS: It seems like often you use the blog as an outlet for emotions, reflections, etc (which I think is wonderful, as I do it, too!) and solicit feedback. Are you going to blog about your feelings for A knowing he reads here, too? Or will we just hear the witty stories we’ve come to love you for?

Heading over to check out Who’s Your Daddy now…my reader is ever-growing.

Liz, you ask:

“Are you going to blog about your feelings for A. knowing he reads here, too?”

Great question. I’m curious how this is going to unfold, too.

For now, A. and I have given each other to blog openly. I admit: it is really odd and fascinating at the same time.

For the record, I did give him the heads up about my line: “this guy has balls.”

I offered to delete that line if he was offended… He wasn’t.

OMG this brings dating in the modern world to a whole new level. Could we be a more “Documented” generation? I LOVE IT!

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SMS.. Please make sure you still stay true to your thoughts and feelings. That’s what draws us to your site. We love having the connection with you.

Eathan´s last blog post…Top 5 Dates Under $25

I think it only becomes a problem if you both start using your blog sites to communicate things to each other that you wouldn’t say directly, and I doubt that will be a problem for either of you!

Ooh, I can’t wait!
Susan´s last blog post…Changing Seasons

You know what? It’s true, we bring our own experiences to the plate and somehow assume that the same thing is going on with the other person.

I did check out A’s site–and now it makes a lot of sense–I, too, was in an abusive relationship, so I now clearly understood why he was reluctant to meet Rachel and why he chickened out—I know that feeling well—with due time, he’ll be able to trust his feelings and perhaps, get them right the first time without doubting himself.

In addition, this is great because this is the first man who actually reads Rachel’s blog and more than that, got encouraged to start his own. That takes a strong, strong person.

Yes, “Documented Relationship” is on!

Things just got a little more interesting! Can’t wait to see how this unfolds. And thanks for another interesting intelligent daddy blog to add to my reader.

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I’m glad he wasn’t upset about your posts or offended by all of our comments. I’m with Amy–I could never bring myself to write about my dating or relationships online. The web has already become such an easy tool to find out virtually anything about virtually anyone, and I’m a very private person about some aspects of my life. But I give you both credit for agreeing to document future meetings and experiences. That takes a lot of guts. And definitely follow Eathan’s advice, make sure you do stay true to your thoughts and feelings. If it ever becomes too personal an issue, just stop.

Thanks for the update, and for sharing so much of yourself with us.

Only you, Rachel. You are my inspiration. You go there so we don’t have to… LOL I’m definitely linking to this whole thing.

Loooove it!

So THAT’s what this whole “internet” thing is good for. Congrats — that is one seriously kickass turn of events, Rachel!

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hmmm.

Sorry to throw cold water, but I think the whole turn of events is more than a little bizarre.

*and* he’s suddenly got a blog! (eyerolls).

His blog isn’t very old, you might have noticed. Probably dates back to when he first contacted you. Doesn’t mean what’s on it is necessarily true.

He wants attention from you, alright. but why?

I think it’s kind of weird that he’s going to such lengths.

Like when a guy I used to date wouldn’t take “no” for an answer and tried to get a job where I work. The blog has kind of a stalker feel to it, is all. Ditto with his being “thrilled” that you and everyone is talking about him.

MC: I can always count on you to be the Devil’s Advocate here. Oooh, that water was cold.

I was initially weirded out, too.

Yes, you’re right:
He started writing his posts AFTER browsing my blog, but BEFORE he’d discovered that I’d written about him.

He’s not a stalker. I think he’s finding his way, like the rest of us.

He is a man who LOVES attention, you got that right.

He seems to be basking in it. (But I thought men loved attention?)

Anyone else find his actions weird?

Hey there, just got your email regarding BettyConfidential.com and so of course I had to pop over here and read more about you and I get this STEAMY fun stuff! I am all over it!

And now, I have to go see what Daddy’s got to say!

Manic Mommy´s last blog post…iS iT WRoNG?

mc has it right in my book.

I think his ego is big enough….I’d cut my loses now

This definitely seemed weird to me. But I was giving you the benefit of the doubt since you and only you know him, and for me, it’s been entertaining. But when you think about it, how open can you really be, knowing the other person knows about your blog and is going to be following what you write about him/her? And if it’s ABOUT him, why not say it TO him? Interesting turn of events, yes, but also on the verge of being silly. My guess is the charade isn’t going to last too long, anyway.

SMS - Just so you know, I am actually a helpless romantic.

But …

Here’s some more cold water (at least, it’s not hot grease) hahaha

mc, judy, and Legal Editor Mom are right. It just smells wrong. I don’t think he’s a stalker or necessarily dangerous, but this has the feel of being PLANNED, SCHEMED, and PREMEDITATED.

And yeah, he’s fine enough to make you want to slap your mama. But, I digress …
NappyKitchen´s last blog post…The Case Against Hair Grease

Does he have a healthy self esteem or just a big ol’ ego? I am guessing that you, Rachel, are the only one that can answer that for sure. I popped over to his blog and read some.

I am not going to lie - my first impression was BIG ego. From the “come hither” look he gives in his picture to the way he tells the the story of your meeting in his post “I’m calling an ex”. And even though I am sure he was being funny - to be quiet honest I think I threw up alittle in the back of my throat while reading it (especially the 4th paragraph that details why he contacted you). I noticed he does make it clear that he had a reason. And did I read correctly that he says he was from Venus (instead of Mars)???

But…I could be wrong. And really - there could be alot more going on there. He certainly is attractive and very charismatic. That would get him pretty far with me. As for what lies underneath - if he doesn’t reveal it himself - then you’ll have to do some digging and let us know what you find.

He seems fun and fun is good. And you like fun. Have fun…but keep your wits about you.

Amy´s last blog post…Journal 109: October 2008 Pregnancy Loss Remembrance Day

I think it’s hilarious! I have to disagree with some of the previous posters: OK, it’s ever so slightly weird, but in a cute, quirky way, not a disturbing way. Why do we need to take ourselves so seriously? We live in such a strange time in which it’s hard to know where the virtual world ends and the real one begins. So let’s just have fun with it!

Leah´s last blog post…I keep writing no matter what.

Rachel! We lose touch for a week and this is what happens? I can’t believe all this intrigue! I’m not sure what to think. i see the hotness factor — thanks for the visual aid — but what about the similarity to Locke on “Lost?” does that give anyone pause? The fact that he’s blogging on the same topic also throws me a little. but as always, i admire your courage, and i give him points for being dazzled by your eyes.

and your story about wanting more and getting unexpectedly cut out of the equation makes me reflect my own crappy recent romantic history. it would be nice to think that the someone who doused me in coldness before you and i hit the stage at litquake might turn up to apologize 6 years later. i’d like look forward to seeing tears roll down THAT face. but i’m dubious about the likelihood of that.

keep us posted. this is good stuff.

This intrigues me!!!

If you both totally ok with it then I dont see the issue!

I have a guy who I am sort of seeing who reads my blog - its weird in way cos he knows “more” about me right now than I do about him!

But it is nice that he does know that - makes it easier for him to understand things!

ENJOY it

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It is all so very intriguing: Open yourself up for public consumption, comments and criticism and you won’t be disappointed; I’m certainly not.

What I am finding most fascinating is that even though Rachel and I have offered up this voyeuristic entertainment by putting ourselves out there, the true colors of many of those who comment are nearly as revealing as to the pains, pleasures and experiences that are so appropriately human to us all.

Like me or not, trust me or otherwise, it can’t be more than speculation because you don’t know me; to simply use this forum as an outlet for mere projection, ranting, expressing and supporting is a completely appropriate use of the Internet, but I would suggest not taking it too seriously or too far.

Believe me when I say that I am a lot more than just this ego maniacal narcissist that have apparently portrayed myself as with my recent blogging violations. But, isn’t it more fun this way? You probably don’t really want to know the true “Adam” anyways, for that could spoil the fun and the fantasy.

So, keep ‘em comin’ folks and stay tuned, buckle up and hang on tight, ‘cause I think it’s about to get fun. Oh, and thanks for indulging me…

As Rachel explained, I am just beginning to heal from a recent surgery so it is not easy to type, let alone think, so I will be watching and chiming in as best I can…ooops, there goes my ego again.

Big Papa´s last blog post…I’m calling an Ex

Uh! I have no idea if this is very strange, odd, scary, fake (are they really the genuine thoughts, as you both know the other one is reading?) or the most brilliant idea - but sounds like true fun, and who cares, I’m hooked!

Bring it on

Here’s a test for how real this is: stop blogging about this guy and your feelings for him — and see how long the relationship lasts.

the guilty-pleasure side of me is wondering how things will go down on both blogs after the first “fight”. I think its great and sounds like he’s now on a level of communication that is up to your par.

I read Dad’s House also and Big Papa had posted a few comments with his blog address in a comment and thought he was sort of pushy. Really seemed to want attention.

Then later realizing he is the same guy you were talking about I finally did go over to his blog.

I’d say very weird. But then it might only be a online persona and he could be completely different in person.

No offense Big Papa just my personal opinion.

Rachel K: You’re perceptive!

After I that saw A. had posted his links within his comments, I quickly alerted him to blog etiquette.

He seemed embarrassed about having included links all over Dad’s House…. and fortunately, Dad’s House seems to forgive newbies out there.

I’m a little shocked. But I guess I shouldn’t be. There are quite a few comments who think he has alternative motives or he has a large ego. I’m not an authority on him. But I can speak from a man’s point of view. Especially one who wasn’t used to writing his thoughts or expressing his feelings on paper.

I think when newbies start to write/blog they are just putting raw emotions on paper. It takes time to develop a thought flow and pattern. For most men.. and I said most… we like sports, stats, and other factual type information. It’s tougher for us to be coherent writers.

I’m far from being an accomplished writer..but I do my best to convey my thoughts. I take my hat off to him for even attempting to dive into this tough crowd. This is almost a “Jerry McGuire” moment.
haha

I say give him a break.. see where things go with caution. oh yeah..

Can I be “A” in the made for TV movie?? The whole swirl theme would be hot! haha

Eathan´s last blog post…When Sex Is Bad

you’ve got to be kidding! OMG 1) I can’t believe you indulged him 2) ITA w/ Nappy, mc, Judy and Legal Editor Mom. 3) and of course he had to pop up and defend himself “you don’t know me” blah blah. Now I know I’m kinda new here, so PLEASE PLEASE Rachel tell me you are smarter than to fall for this BS?! I was so happy to find a blog like yours, but I feel like you need a smack upside the head back to reality. He’s totally self centered, and of course most of us do know men like him and see the red flags a-waving. And “Adam,” some single parents actually do find lots of serious support and camaraderie online, else this blog wouldn’t exist. So I’d suggest refraining from telling us not to take our opinions too seriously.

Wow - Big Papa, Adam, “A” - whatever name is going to be used - I have to say that after re-reading Rachel’s account of your coffee meeting - I am having trouble reconciling that humble open guy she described with some of your posts. By the way - that is NOT a criticism - just an observation. There are obviously many sides to you- as there are to most of us. And you are correct in saying that most of this is mere speculation as none of us really know you.

And therein lies the point I tried to make above. You asked “Isn’t it more fun this way? You probably don’t want to know the true Adam anyway for that could spoil the fun and the fantasy”
I can only speak for myself but I don’t really check in for the fun and fantasy. And I do prefer to know the real “Adam” - or at least the parts that he is willing to make vulnerable.

I am certain Rachel has her secrets -and she is not an open book that we all know intimately - BUT she is a genuine gal. And if you are a genuine guy - then be THAT guy (whoever he is).

Amy´s last blog post…Journal 109: October 2008 Pregnancy Loss Remembrance Day

I think it’s exciting. But this is coming from a woman who has fallen head over heels for a man in just two weeks… so i’m all about the love stories that are a little different.

Heather @ Desperately Seeking Sanity´s last blog post…How Tinker Bell Kept Me Sane…

Rachel,
What happened to your blog layout? This is the only post that’s showing up. While I have my own opinions I’m not comfortable with both parties on the same post so I’ll just say good luck to you both. Looking forward to seeing some other topics.

*swoon* there’s nothing better than a blogging man

I’m so excited for this blog-mance and more, I actually squealed outloud.

Leslie´s last blog post…Hooray!

Leslie, a blogging man is great, IF he’s a sincere blogging man.

And I have a question. Did he ever answer whether he was a recovering addict? I don’t believe it was covered on his blog so far, and if that’s too personal that’s understandable, but I find it very curious that we heard one side of him initially, then when he discovered Rachel’s blog, he turned into a whole other person. (His comments here haven’t impressed me either.)

Fun is fine, but it’s all rather suspicious to me. Whatever his problems were when this all began undoubtedly didn’t go away this quickly, and I’m sorry but I agree with the others who doubt him. And I’m also wondering WHY you indulged him in the first place after all his flaky actions and mixed signals. You can’t be that bored with your life! He wanted to make amends, and surely by now he’s had the opportunity to do that.

I love your blog and look forward to your posts. But this just seems silly. SDMktg summed it up best for me: I’m not comfortable with this two-party business either. Hopefully you will move on to something else soon.

P.S. What did happen to the other posts? I’d enjoy going back to them about now.

I’m baffled. I kind of can’t believe this. But have you read the book, “The Affair”? I grabbed it off my dad’s book case. A couple each kept a diary independent of each other during the course of their relationship. And then it got put together in a he-said-she-said book. Which is kind of what your blogs are.

I don’t want to be evil, but the first sentence of his blog about his abusive relationship made me say, “oh, God.”

I know you think he’s hot. And that it’s cool that he’s okay with you writing about him. But ….

tanasie´s last blog post…This is a crime?

Nope, he’s not an addict.

But he clearly has some codependent issues (so do I).

I’ll fill you in. More coming.

Not that I can say anything that anyone else HASN’T, but I think this is really cool. Talk about a tool for REALLY open communication. I’m all about that. And hey, this is better than reality TV.

Too funny. I am still laughing.

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