I remember the day last year when one of my favorite single mom bloggers — Emily Listfield at Redbook magazine — called it quits:
“When Redbook first asked me to share my dating adventures I was thrilled,” Emily wrote in her last post. “I really believed (and still do!) there’s too little attention paid to single moms and their desire — their right! — for romance.”
And then there was a but…
“But there were a lot of side effects I hadn’t predicted,” Emily wrote.
“First of all, writing a dating blog made me un-dateable! Seriously. I quickly discovered that no guy wants to see his personal life up on the web…. Even men I truly cared about and assured I would protect told me that they had to think about everything they said to me. Dating is hard enough — and men find it difficult enough to open up! — without the threat of that kind of exposure.”
Does this resonate with any of you?
So many of you blog about your dating life as a single parent. I know — because I read your blogs.
If you blog anonymously, let loose! But for those of us who blog with our names right there, I’d love to know:
- Do you tell your date that you blog?
- If you don’t say anything, do you worry that your date will Google you before you go out?
At this point, I sometimes feel like I’ve got to give up blogging about men… or find an open, honest male blogger who “gets it.” Know what I mean?
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Yeah, if a guy doesn’t call, I sometimes wonder if he’s found my blog….
A guy and I joked about starting a blog together. He wanted to call it http://www.nobodygetshurt.com, alas, the name is taken by some program for high school kids.
Honestly, I don’t think a lot of guys care if you write about them. Back in the days before the blogosphere, the newspaper I worked for sent me to a matchmaker, and I told every guy before our date that I was writing about it. And everyone was cool with it. Even the guy who I TOTALLY SKEWERED asked me out a couple of times afterward. (But, I didn’t trust him, because I was really mean to him in print.)
I think the problem with writing about your dating life is that you watch it more than you would if you weren’t. You analyze it. And sometimes you stay on dates that you wouldn’t have normally stayed on, just so you have material to write about. I mean, the all-time worst dates, make for some of the best, most memorable stories.
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How do you keep a blog that you are proud of and be able to say everything you want to say in it? There are so many subjects that are taboo, not only because potential love interests may be reading it, but because my MOM is reading it. That’s the draw. Do I spill and let loose and actually let my blog be fully interesting? Or do I hold back to protect those that may not need to know certain details of my life? At any rate, I chose to not give too many private details in this blog. And i keep an anonymous one where I unleash all the ugly truths. It works.
One trick that I use to give me the push to date again is…shopping and perfume.I go and buy clothes that fit me really well (no matter how much I weight at that time). Then, I need to show it off, right?
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