Comments on: How to sleep alone in a king-size bed http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/ Remarried and Remodeling Mon, 21 May 2012 03:42:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: The Winners! How to Sleep Alone in a King-Size Bed and Panties from HerRoom.com | Single Mom Seeking... http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-4310 The Winners! How to Sleep Alone in a King-Size Bed and Panties from HerRoom.com | Single Mom Seeking... Thu, 04 Sep 2008 10:03:03 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-4310 [...] start with the winner of Theo Nestor’s memoir, How to Sleep Alone in a King-Size Bed, shall [...] [...] start with the winner of Theo Nestor’s memoir, How to Sleep Alone in a King-Size Bed, shall [...]

]]> By: Andrea http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3766 Andrea Wed, 06 Aug 2008 15:10:44 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3766 The exhaustion. Never being able to catch up on my sleep. Whenever I get a night squared away where I can get to bed early and not have to wake up early Frances will be up twice, guaranteed; whenever I have an afternoon I think I can nap something will come up or the errands will take more time than I expected. Sleep deprivation has become a way of life and there is nothing I can do about it. All that's left to cut out of my schedule are the things that sustain me and keep me level-headed and above water--in other words, things I don't dare cut. Except work. I'm ditching the job in a few weeks to go back to school. Not sure yet whether this will make things better or worse. In other words, the hardest part of sleeping alone in a double-sized bed is not being able to sleep there as much as I'd like! The exhaustion. Never being able to catch up on my sleep. Whenever I get a night squared away where I can get to bed early and not have to wake up early Frances will be up twice, guaranteed; whenever I have an afternoon I think I can nap something will come up or the errands will take more time than I expected. Sleep deprivation has become a way of life and there is nothing I can do about it. All that’s left to cut out of my schedule are the things that sustain me and keep me level-headed and above water–in other words, things I don’t dare cut.

Except work. I’m ditching the job in a few weeks to go back to school. Not sure yet whether this will make things better or worse.

In other words, the hardest part of sleeping alone in a double-sized bed is not being able to sleep there as much as I’d like!

]]> By: Chrissy http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3734 Chrissy Tue, 05 Aug 2008 19:13:43 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3734 What an Awesome Book! I must <a href="http://www.singlesisterhood.com/?pg=stories" rel="nofollow"> read</a> it. I'm addicted to book reading in my Queen Size Bed! I found a really neat site called SingleSisterHood.com and have really felt like a normal person. I've learned everything I need to know if I chose to start dating soon. I'm thinking of it because I do miss sleeping alone and having that companion but it's only been 2yrs since my divorce and I want to really be ready before I date again. What an Awesome Book! I must read it. I’m addicted to book reading in my Queen Size Bed!
I found a really neat site called SingleSisterHood.com and have really felt like a normal person. I’ve learned everything I need to know if I chose to start dating soon. I’m thinking of it because I do miss sleeping alone and having that companion but it’s only been 2yrs since my divorce and I want to really be ready before I date again.

]]> By: Lisa http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3732 Lisa Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:00:36 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3732 The part of sleeping alone in a king sized bed was being the only person available to help my 3 young boys when they woke up for the potty, diaper changes, bottles, etc. Didn't matter how tired or sick I was, there wasn't another person on the other side of the bed to ask for help. I am also finding that that idea of vacationing alone with three small children a big hurdle to overcome. Not financially, but energy and responsibility. We had always promised our kids that we would go to Disneyland when the youngest is 5, that's next summer and the kids keep bringing it up, but 3 under 10 at Disneyland by myself doesn't sound fun at all. At least I have another year to really decide to go or postpone, but I feel that if I postpone I am not keeping my promises to my kids. The part of sleeping alone in a king sized bed was being the only person available to help my 3 young boys when they woke up for the potty, diaper changes, bottles, etc. Didn’t matter how tired or sick I was, there wasn’t another person on the other side of the bed to ask for help.

I am also finding that that idea of vacationing alone with three small children a big hurdle to overcome. Not financially, but energy and responsibility. We had always promised our kids that we would go to Disneyland when the youngest is 5, that’s next summer and the kids keep bringing it up, but 3 under 10 at Disneyland by myself doesn’t sound fun at all. At least I have another year to really decide to go or postpone, but I feel that if I postpone I am not keeping my promises to my kids.

]]> By: Susan http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3722 Susan Mon, 04 Aug 2008 23:19:48 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3722 Wow, the quote you've highlighted really rings a bell with me! One of the hardest things after my divorce was forgiving myself...but not necessarily for ending our relationship and putting my kids into a two-home status -- although I harbored guilt about those things even if I didn't regret the decision. What was really hard for me was forgiving myself for not seeing signs, not listening to my own feelings of doubt earlier. Now, I accept that we each learn in our own ways, and, as I like to quote, "we do the best we can with the knowledge we have at the time." Outside of that, the hardest things were just trying to manage two small kids in Target by myself! By the way, I did inherit a king-size bed in my divorce, and eventually got used to having -- and liked having -- my space, all of it! Now that I'm dating someone, I'm having a hard time getting used to a person sleeping right beside me. I hope it's big enough for the 2 of us ;) Wow, the quote you’ve highlighted really rings a bell with me! One of the hardest things after my divorce was forgiving myself…but not necessarily for ending our relationship and putting my kids into a two-home status — although I harbored guilt about those things even if I didn’t regret the decision. What was really hard for me was forgiving myself for not seeing signs, not listening to my own feelings of doubt earlier.

Now, I accept that we each learn in our own ways, and, as I like to quote, “we do the best we can with the knowledge we have at the time.”

Outside of that, the hardest things were just trying to manage two small kids in Target by myself!

By the way, I did inherit a king-size bed in my divorce, and eventually got used to having — and liked having — my space, all of it! Now that I’m dating someone, I’m having a hard time getting used to a person sleeping right beside me. I hope it’s big enough for the 2 of us ;)

]]> By: Kelly http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3720 Kelly Mon, 04 Aug 2008 20:03:08 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3720 Wow, the part of the interview about having to sleep in a bed with the kids really hit home with me. Being a single parent and one of the few unmarried women over 25 in my family, I often find myself being forced to sit at the kiddie table and share a room with all the children. It's like because I'm not married yet, I'm not considered a grown up. And I'm turning 34 on Sunday! Wow, the part of the interview about having to sleep in a bed with the kids really hit home with me. Being a single parent and one of the few unmarried women over 25 in my family, I often find myself being forced to sit at the kiddie table and share a room with all the children. It’s like because I’m not married yet, I’m not considered a grown up. And I’m turning 34 on Sunday!

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3719 singlemomseeking Mon, 04 Aug 2008 17:47:06 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3719 Mom2Maddie: The other single parents are out there, really! I encourage you to venture out past your comfort level. Join the YMCA? A Meetup group? Really, we're out there in strong numbers! Right mamas? Avigail: Thanks for reminding us that time DOES heal. Indeed. KeenKamsMom: Please see my column about finding good male role models: http://www.mylifetime.com/lifestyle/relationships/dating/every-solo-mom-needs-good-man Mom2Maddie: The other single parents are out there, really! I encourage you to venture out past your comfort level. Join the YMCA? A Meetup group? Really, we’re out there in strong numbers! Right mamas?

Avigail: Thanks for reminding us that time DOES heal. Indeed.

KeenKamsMom: Please see my column about finding good male role models:
http://www.mylifetime.com/lifestyle/relationships/dating/every-solo-mom-needs-good-man

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3716 singlemomseeking Mon, 04 Aug 2008 17:31:42 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3716 Greg Peck Fan: Wow, what similarities to Theo's life! I love what you say about "Choosing Your Own Adventure." How very true. Those happened to be my favorite books as a little girl.... Single Mommy: Thanks for that idea about writing a loss list. Great suggestion! Greg Peck Fan: Wow, what similarities to Theo’s life! I love what you say about “Choosing Your Own Adventure.” How very true. Those happened to be my favorite books as a little girl….

Single Mommy: Thanks for that idea about writing a loss list. Great suggestion!

]]> By: Legal Editor Mom http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3696 Legal Editor Mom Sun, 03 Aug 2008 15:18:11 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3696 When my husband left, the hardest thing for me was getting his scent out of the house, the air, the sheets, my head! (I had to get rid of the clothes he left behind, because they were torture.) And because our sex life was so incredible, I kept having flashbacks, while tossing and turning, alone in our bed. Fortunately I had a baby who needed me 24/7, along with a house, a job, and a ton of responsibilities which quickly snapped me back into reality. And as Avigail stated, now I hardly recognize who I am, 4 years later. I have our life and routines down to a science, and the pain and hurt I once felt are no longer a big hindrance for me. My daughter sleeps in my bed every night, so she's on the other side (and then some!) and we enjoy it being just the two of us. When my husband left, the hardest thing for me was getting his scent out of the house, the air, the sheets, my head! (I had to get rid of the clothes he left behind, because they were torture.)

And because our sex life was so incredible, I kept having flashbacks, while tossing and turning, alone in our bed. Fortunately I had a baby who needed me 24/7, along with a house, a job, and a ton of responsibilities which quickly snapped me back into reality.
And as Avigail stated, now I hardly recognize who I am, 4 years later. I have our life and routines down to a science, and the pain and hurt I once felt are no longer a big hindrance for me.

My daughter sleeps in my bed every night, so she’s on the other side (and then some!) and we enjoy it being just the two of us.

]]> By: Vinnie Sorce http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/2008/08/how-to-sleep-alone-in-a-king-sized-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-3680 Vinnie Sorce Sun, 03 Aug 2008 04:34:44 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/?p=593#comment-3680 The hardest thing for me is the fear of being alone the rest of my life. The hardest thing for me is the fear of being alone the rest of my life.

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