“If you are a lying, cheating, druggie, deadbeat looking for a meal ticket, please pass me by!”

The irony is that most ‘lying-cheating-druggie-deadbeat-looking-for-a-meal-ticket’ people don’t see themselves that way … hehehe

NappyKitchen´s last blog post…What does ‘Kitchen’ Mean?

Speaking of breastfeeding, I’m getting the attention of a lot of guys who are looking for a MOTHER figure!

My profile is also attracting party animals (with issues), guys old enough to be my father (with issues), guys (with issues) who think that when I say I am open-minded, it means that I will be cool with all of the insane-psychotic lifestyle issues that they have, guys (with issues) who are UNemployed or UNDERemployed, guys (with issues) who are gay, but for some reason don’t know it.

I guess it’s time to get to tweeking.

@sms: Blogging is indeed like breastfeeding. I have two. I must have put too much crack in my cornflakes when I created the second one.

NappyKitchen´s last blog post…What does ‘Kitchen’ Mean?

The best I can come up with today is “I am me” ;-p I will keep thinking tho – maybe inspiration hits me later in the day!

Singlemomseeking, about your first sentence—-if I was you I’d leave out “cooperative”. You already have “respectful”, and adding “cooperative” on top of all that makes your intro sound a bit negative, IMHO, like you’re the type to order a guy around a lot.

I also think that a shorter intro with something cute & memorable mainly about YOU is way better than a serious list of what you actually, really want–I mean, you just want to get his attention! And he’s looking for a woman, so show off yourself! You can him tell more about what you’re looking for after you get in touch, start emailing, etc. Let him ask you, and then tell him slowly, like you just thought it up.

I’d also say something more vivid and specific than “warm, generous, etc” when you describe yourself–you want to get him interested enough to read the rest of your profile, don’t you? And you have to distinguish your profile from the hundreds of other women’s profiles out there–they all say they’re warm, generous etc.

What about “Passionate writer”, or (I don’t know you, of course, so maybe it should be environmentalist, artist, musician, gardener, or reader?) Or describe yourself in some funny way like “Betty Boop with a PhD” (sorry, that’s me) or “Just like Joan Baez except not able to sing or play the guitar” (sorry, also me)?

My own online dating adventure lasted a couple years. I met some nice men (amazingly), and also some creeps (not so amazingly). The nicest man I met online (& ended up dating seriously for a year) didn’t contact me at all. I found him while searching on the dating site and winked at him.

My old profile started off something like, “Hippie chick in a business suit seeking etc…”. It was quite popular but I ultimately decided that the “hippie chick” line was not really a good idea because it tended to attract slobs who smoked ‘way too much weed. Just like my ex’s. I finally wised up & decided that that’s not really what I want, actually.

So now I’m trying dating services rather than online. The services form their own opinion about who to “match” me with, and no pictures are exchanged (so it feels less like a cattle call).

But I must say that they are not even coming close! (For example, the latest man they want me to meet listed his hobbies as “flipping real estate”…..arg!!!!….unless it’s a joke?)

But I think many people don’t pay as much attention to what’s written as they should, focusing on the picture instead. And, even though a picture is worth 1,000 words (or so they say), many of those words aren’t true!