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By: Jourdain

Jourdain — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 07:49:08 +0000

I hear you about the myriad of excuses people are hacking up these days as to why they shouldn’t or “can’t” use condoms.

One of the things they always come back to is that condoms de-excite sex, make it boring, awkward, etc. That really bugs me. There’s amazing companies like One Condoms (onecondoms.com) out there who put stuff on the market that actually ENHANCES the enjoyment of sex–I mean who else out there makes condoms that glow in the dark?

Adding to the frustration is that so few people really understand that condoms are about SO much more than preventing pregnancy; the horrors of AIDS and the pantheon of other STDS continue everyday do to misunderstandings of the possible dangers of unprotected sex.

Use a condom. Every time.

By: krissy

krissy — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 20:49:35 +0000

I got pregnant the first time I ever had sex without protection (and more accurately- the condom failed). Now I do love my son dearly but I don’t want that to EVER happen again.
I do use the pill so when I’m in a monogamous relationship and he’s been tested, he can go condom-free.
My only mistake is that there have been a handful of times that sex has begun with no condom. So I’m not perfect. But have I ever gone completely without any method of birth control since that fateful first time? Absolutely NOT, never.
Here’s my theory. The men that beg you “please please, no condom. ” Guess what? They’re begging other women too. Do you really want all those all other women’s germs, STD’s and who knows what else?
Sex is not worth it!! Why risk it?
Another tip, masturbate regularly. You won’t be so desperate for sex that you’d go condom-free.

By: mark

mark — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 23:27:09 +0000

As a 44 year old guy that is now divorced and back in the dating scene, I feel that both the man and the woman need to and should talk first about sex.

I have dated some women who do not care if a condom is being used, but I do use one, and will continue to use one.

Safe sex for me and her and no wet spot in bed.

By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 17:51:08 +0000

Yes. Many, many people do sleep around without the use of condoms.

By: walt

walt — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 03:37:54 +0000

One further comment – the scary STD’s are the incurable ones – HPV (although a huge proportion of people already have this one), Herpes, and of course HIV. Condoms provide little protection against HPV, and imperfect protection against Herpes transmission. Condoms are considered good protection against HIV transmission, but would you really want to have sex on a regular basis with someone you were concerned might have HIV, protected by only a thin barrier of latex? For the risk averse, I think it’s clear that testing is the only correct approach (along with avoiding casual encounters).

By: walt

walt — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 03:03:01 +0000

I’m not real clear why most of you view condoms as the only way to safe sex. How about mutual testing plus use of another reliable method of birth control (which condoms are not)? I’ve never yet had a relationship with a woman who had a problem with that approach. Yes, I don’t like condoms, and I’d rather wait to get tested so we can enjoy true intimacy and spontaneity. Is that a problem?

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 00:11:04 +0000

Melannii: Do tell us, did you just reach in there and grab 30 condoms with two fists? You go girl!

Sounds like just the right amount… let us know how long they last!

By: Melanii

Melanii — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 18:08:06 +0000

Oh, thank you guys for bringing up this subject. It reminded me to stop by Planned Parenthood for a goodly sum of 30 fresh condoms for my next possibly unsuspecting quarry. It is my new resolution to insist, nicely, in my own sweet way, that condoms be a part of the bargain. Too lucky for too long, I feel. Did I just channel Yoda? Anyway, I know guys wouldn’t want to see a Costco-sized box of condoms in my home, but I figure a nice mix of super-thin and fun little knobby jobs in an, I feel, reasonable amount of 30 is respectable, and gives the option of a few per escapade. Reasonable?