Comments on: Long distance relationships

By: T time

T time — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 03:45:02 +0000

I have just met a guy online who lives 3 hours away and I have never done “long distance” before. I am nervous to say the least…

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Inspired by One-Woman Show | Single Mom Seeking... — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 17:12:01 +0000

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By: alicia

alicia — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 05:15:05 +0000

Rachel,so sorry. Every time I hear another story about a potential BF going bust,my heart breaks for that person & for myself! But you know in your heart of hearts when a relationship is good & on the right track. The distance was difficult,but going MIA while you were sick-not cool.

By: BlueBella

BlueBella — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 17:38:37 +0000

Oh sweets. I’m sorry you’re going through this right now. Yuck.
My belief is every situation we encounter – every relationship, every person we meet is a ‘practice session’ to prepare us for “The One”. We get to learn and grow with people & take those lessons along with us so we are prepared when Mr or Ms Right finally comes our way.
Now that doesn’t mean this separation doesn’t suck big time. And for that – Huge Hugs from me.
Take care of yourself, doll. I’m thinking bout you:)

By: GLSD

GLSD — Sat, 31 May 2008 01:49:31 +0000

Rachel,

Sounds like you know what you want and need in a relationship…your time will come, when you meet “the one” but for now… don’t settle! Just enjoy every minute of every day with M. Have a great wkend!

By: Ms. Single Mama

Ms. Single Mama — Fri, 30 May 2008 14:11:52 +0000

That’s why it didn’t work out with Kris – when I really needed him, he just didn’t step up to the plate. You know? It’s SO hard trying to be in a relationship with a man who isn’t 100% able to give, give and give more.

I know that limits the dating pool for us, but in my eyes – it means we just end up with the best of the best. And for many of us – that means being alone.

I feel for you – and don’t worry about him meeting M – he’s a smart girl with an amazing mom … she knows what’s going on.

Hiding it can often do more damage than not.

Thanks for sharing!

By: Shannon

Shannon — Fri, 30 May 2008 13:43:05 +0000

I had a similar experience with a fabulous guy who lived in the town where I work (an hour from where I live). When I had my hysterectomy (for medical reasons), he was there for the surgery and then I was alone for days because he was so busy. Not good. that was the defining factor for me ending our relationship. There were other elements, but that one was huge. I don’t need to be babied much, but there are times that a man in my life needs to do just that. And I think that’s what you needed. And I totally hear you about not going to his place. It’s a hectic life between work and the mommy aspect. There’s a ton of unlisted work that goes along with it all and when you do get a Saturday night, sometimes you are just way too exhausted to make that extra effort.
Don’t fault yourself and if it’s meant to be, it will all work out for both of you. Most importantly, it’s not for any of us to decide.

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 29 May 2008 23:55:08 +0000

“I got attached. The deal about attachment is that when you detach, you need to deal with the sadness and disappointment that comes along with it. Know what I mean?”

Yeah, sweetie. As you know, I know what you mean. Hugs to you (and even the Biologist, too).

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Thu, 29 May 2008 22:09:21 +0000

Distance is OK if you are already committed; then it’s just another “thing” to work out. And sometimes, it actually can be pretty darn exciting.

I’ve met couples who live in different cities a few hours apart, even countries (!). They find a way. But it’s hard to start off a relationship that way.

And, it may be just me but I think we often expect too much from our partners as far as time. I don’t want to see my lover every night, or even five nights a week. Is that selfish? (of course, he doesn’t want to see me either! Hmmm ….)

I hope you’re feeling better. Sometimes it’s good to have all your crises hit at one time. Then, it can only get better.