I am blessed in having a wonderful support network in my family. So as always, mothers day will be spent with them. My mom, my sisters, my dad, me and my little man. Mom and I will be treated like royalty, a late afternoon BBQ dinner ( maybe a few glasses of wine seeing as I’ll have a few extra eyes to keep watch) and lots of love and laughter.

For some reason these things always fall on her Dad’s weekend. She’ll come back to me Sunday afternoon or around dinner. I’m not horribly upset by this anymore-I have full custody-every day is Mother’s Day. Her Daddy has to wake up every day without her close by. That sure sounds like a bad day to me.

After spending the day before mom’s day (this saturday) chaperoning for an all day field trip for 200 teens, we are going to do nothing. That’s what I want.

But I told my kid it’s going to be his night for cooking dinner (he cooks once a week for us). Which means we’ll probably be eating mac and cheese, but I’m totally okay with that. It means I didn’t have to cook.

My own mom will be out of town so probably nothing special. I’m a little bummed because although he’ll make me something at school like always mine doesn’t quite grasp the significance yet. Without having a dad to go all out for he’s never really seen it other than cards for grandmas and grandpas.

Thanks for the reminder though, I need to remember to mail out cards tomorrow

I’ll be working my weekend job until noon, and then we’ll go out to eat with my parents and brother. My mom usually takes Casey shopping to get me a few little gifts.

As for breakfast in bed, I do get that most of the time. Last year I got Crunch Berries cereal, a rice krispy treat, and some apple juice. LOL

Very timely for me, your post today. This is my 3rd Mothers Day since I was plunged overnight into single parenting. My daughter is 7, my son almost 3.

I’m dating, these past 6 months. I’m so lucky, he is a really lovely guy. But as you say - - he’s not the one responsible for my being a mom. And the guy who *is* responsible is isn’t around for Mothers Day - literally, or metaphysically.

The past month Dating Guy & I have been spending time together with the kids (I kept him at arms length from the kids for months). Yesterday I gathered up the courage and asked Dating Guy if he’d take the kids on a quick trip somewhere so my daughter can buy a card and something small for me. This is Super Duper important for my sweet, loving, big-hearted girl. She’s like her Mom, she likes tchotchkes and wrapping paper. Last year, even though I gave her supplies to make me something, she was terribly disappointed she didn’t get to buy me flowers, or a small something to wrap.

He said sure, he’d love to. But…. it felt a little weird to me. Like I was pushing ownership on him of something that really isn’t his to own.

So interesting you brought this up, it’s been on my mind today.

GregPeckFan: You “got” me!

This post had another layer to it — and I think you’re SO bold for asking your guy to take your daughter to get a little somethin’ for you. You go mama.

I casually gave the Biologist the chance to do something special with us for Mother’s Day –when he asked me last night if we could see each other next weekend.

I said, “Sure!” Then I said, “Let’s see, Sunday is Mother’s Day–” and he quickly jumped in, “Oh, well — then, Friday or Saturday, of course.”

It was an opportunity for him to jump in and say, “Let’s all do something.”

But he didn’t. I was kind of bummed, but didn’t show it… I’m grateful to have my dad nearby. I can see that those of you with family close are grateful, too.

Tracy: Here’s to being treated like royalty!

All of you deserve that for a day.

Yes I think this Mother’s Day will be a little tough for me… It will be my “first” alone, but then again when I ws married last year, Mother’s Day was spent mostly alone since the hubby was out of town conveniently and secretly with his girlfriend [don't ask], then off to a baseball game… Yes Happy Mother’s Day to me- but my guy was just a wee 7 months, and it was a perfect day spent in the park, at home, just being mom and baby… Sunday, he’s with his dad and coming back to me a bit early… I’ll take the time Sunday morning to enjoy reading the paper, savoring a second cup of tea and scone…For me, Shannon says it perfectly- I have primary physical custoday, so every day I look forward to my little guy bright and happy in his crib- that is the best gift of all… wow that was a tome of a comment. sorry.

I’m on the fence.
Either I will spoil my girl rotten in silly ways moms usually have to say “no” to like baking cookies for breakfast, dressing identically foolishly and having photos taken, skipping in the downtown fountain fully dressed and writing a note to her teachers excusing her with ONE day late homework because it was MY fault on Sunday it was not done.

Or I will set her up with a friend for the day so the moms can go out on their own for brunch and cocktails…..(I am a mom every day I don’t need Hallmark to remind me.)

On Sunday The Mook will be with her dad, so I will be able to sleep in. But I’ll meet up with her dad and her at her ‘nastics’ class and she and I will grab lunch, then home for a nap. In the afternoon my mum and grandma will arrive for a wee visit.

I will likely get a card from my best friend, who stepped in after that first and only Mother’s Day I was with Mook’s dad, for which occasion he gave me bedsheets and NO CARD.

An ideal Mother’s Day with be a day with the Mook in which she eats her dinner, doesn’t hit or bite and doesn’t once say “I don’t like it”.

Mothers Day is getting easier, as time goes by. This will be the third Mothers Day that the children and I have been alone. Honestly, life has been such a whirlwind that I haven’t thought to make plans. We will probably have dinner with extended family, which always helps take the edge off

We go out for brunch or an early dinner with my mom every year.

My daughter, who’s four, is very into making cards and little gifts for me—year round, and for my special occasions like Mother’s Day and my birthday, she asks the grandparents to take her shopping for me. (Or if she notices that I need something, she tells them!) Just the other day I had on a pair of black socks and my big toe was sticking out of one of them. She looked at me and said, “I know what I’m getting you for Mother’s Day!” so I’m expecting black socks (which is fine). But since my separation and ultimate divorce, my parents have been very good at financing whatever gift(s) my daughter decides to get me, and I always get cards from them and also from a close cousin and a girlfriend.

I usually get flowers from my male friend, and even though it’s really sweet, I can’t help but think that my ex is the one who should be acknowledging me on this day, especially because I’m the full-time parent and he’s the fly by night with no responsibility or cares in the world.

I very rarely treat myself or do anything special for myself anymore, but last weekend I went for a manicure and pedicure and did it feel good!

I agree that we should all be treated like royalty, and we’re blessed to have the children that we do.

SMS — Mom’s Day is a day for your kid to honor you, not a boyfriend, not your father, not your kid’s dad. And a day for you to honor your own mom.

In some ways, I miss the days when school made kids make something for their mom. I have a closet full of odd, misshapen ceramics and cards that The Kid made for me. But, honestly, the best mom’s day isn’t a “day” — it’s moments that happen throughout the year, spontaneously, genuinely. Like when I get home from work and he asks me, “How was your day?” Or when he just wants to be with me. Those are the real moments to treasure …

Thanks for the gentle reminder, Kat… you’re right.

Mae’s school celebrates “Parents’ Day” — and I treasure anything homemade. I get what you mean by those genuine, spontaneous moments. I hold onto them. Thanks.

I’m going to do a similar post on this subject, Rachel. This day continues to be bittersweet for me, even 5 years after divorce. But it has gotten better because now my kids can actually tell me how much they love me. That does count!

As for plans, believe it or not, my parents, kids, ex and his mom and stepfather are going to go to brunch. (His mom will be in town that weekend.) It wasn’t my idea; it was my mom’s. At first I was really upset she would try to mention it, but then I realized that we can celebrate 3 moms at the table, not just 1 or 2. Should be interesting…and I’m buying myself a spa treatment!

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My ex never did anything for me for Mother’s Day when we were married. He told me I wasn’t his mother, so he just did something for his mother every year. My kids never really thought of it as a special day since they had no example to follow. I decided to come to work for Mother’s Day so the other mothers whose families actually celebrate the day, could have the day off.

This is my first mother’s day! My situation is unique as I was never married and have never known life as a mom outside of being single. So.. the day should be interesting. My little boy’s dad took me out to breakfast, but we are just friends so there wasn’t a big hoop-lah made over it…

It’s kind of hard not having a signficant other who really appreciates what I do every day… making ends meet completely on my own.

So, I’m celebrating myself today by playing with the little boy I created.. what could be better?