I had no luck, I even wore a sundress to do my Sunday errands. Luckily I have a lot of errands to do this week before a party I’m throwing so I may have more luck spotting some actual men without wives somewhere along the way

But I’m having my first night out with friends this Friday, so maybe I’ll have better luck!

I had my eye on Supermarket Boy for a few weeks, when suddenly from a deep part of me I decided to just go ahead and ask him out on a date. That was after I did my big shopping with my 1 year old and he bagged our groceries, and I graciously accepted his help escorting us to my car and loading the bags. He even said that he liked my son’s name (Teo, pronounced Tay-o). As you can imagine that was bonus points for him!
The whole weekend I was on my little cloud, thinking about what kind of man he’s like, and what if he turns out to be a total flake, or he’s married or whatever. What if what if what if…
Well the day I had chosen to ask him out rolled around and I was a highly-caffeinated nervous wreck all morning. The nervous pit in my stomach was there, and I felt like I was in high school again.
So I went to the store, looking for something to “buy” so I didn’t look like I was charging in just to see him. When I saw him in the store, my stomach jumped 5 miles high, and I meandered through a few aisles before deciding to go for it. After all, I was only asking him out on a date, not to marry me (not yet, at least).

SO I asked him, and he was extremely flatterred, and said “I’m sorry, but I have a girlfriend”. While my adrenaline rush plunged 10 feet I was able to keep my cool and my smile. I was very disappointed, but oh-so-proud of myself for taking that huge first step in 2 years. He did tell me that it was very brave of me to do so, and that he thought I was gorgeous. At least I got a compliment out of it! I still think of him and his angelic Colombian face. Damn, those Latino men drive me crazy…

So, my radar is perked up even more, and I am ready to flirt away! I find the natural grocery store a cool place to check out guys and flirt with them. But I am still looking for time to do all that….

They laugh and then play with him. Usually this is when I throw out the small talk.

There’s one in particular that we keep seeing. Benjamin runs up to him when he sees him because the first time they met they played for a while. It was crazy. He just scooped Benjamin up and said, “hello, little man.”

So every time we bump into him our little chats keep getting a few minutes longer.

We saw him tonight and there he was behind his laptop (he’s an engineering student) peaking out at Benjamin. And as we were walking up to him to say “hi” Benjamin dropped his entire glass of orange juice all over the floor.

So there I am smiling at cute guy and wiping up the orange juice with a napkin.

Sigh.

But we made it up to him (seemed like 10 minutes later) and he asked, “so what’s it like? Is it hard? Being a mom?”

“Well…yeah it’s hard but it’s worth every second. Serioulsy, being a parent is amazing..”

“I’ve seen him in here with his dad.”

Hmmm…so he knows or wants to know if I’m a single mom. So I tell him I am and he smiles.

Could be interesting. If anything happens or if I get the guts to just ask him flat out I’m sure you’ll hear all about it on my blog.

Other favorite spots to meet men: the book store and festivals.

Good luck single mamas! Flirt away. But yes, always check for the ring first. : ) Nice post Rachel! I don’t want the book though… instead can I have another copy of yours?

I lent my first copy out and haven’t seen it since. Never lend books people! Never. Especially the good ones.

Leslie: Let us know what happens among the fronds!

Butterfly Mom: Going to school with 20-something men? How can you concentrate?