This guy needs your advice about dating a single mom

by singlemomseeking on March 12, 2008

boy.jpg E. is a single, 33-year-old man who recently started dating a single mom with a two-year-old son. This is new territory for him, and he wrote in yesterday to say that he’d really appreciate some advice.

First, E., thanks for being bold and reaching out. Here goes:

E. met this 32-year-old single mom just two weeks ago on Eharmony. I know that many of your single mama readers will be up in arms, but this single mom brought her two-year-old son on their first date.

“The night of our first date, her sitter called to cancel an hour before our date,” E. writes. “Rather than postponing, I asked if she wanted to bring her son along.”

He explained to her that he’s an active uncle with his four nephews and three nieces, and that “I would be completely ok with her having her son at the restaurant as long as she was.”

So, she brought her kid along — he “was great bridge in getting over the nerves of meeting her for the first time” — and they’ve been seeing each other since.

This single guy wants to know: “Do you have any tips or advice for a single man with no kids who’s dating a mother of a two-year-old?”

He ends with: “I look forward to any advice you and your readers have. I’m treading on new ground here and would like to avoid any land mines. LOL!”

No doubt, many of you will tell E. that suggesting she bring her son was a big No-No. That’s done, let’s refrain from judging. In the meantime, the two have spent a lot of time together, “just the two of us. I have seen her son since the first date, but he has not joined us on any of our adventures together.”

Lastly, his single mom girlfriend has been divorced for six months. E. adds that “the father is involved but not very active. He has seen his son a handful of times in the last six months.”

Take it away single moms:

Should E. offer to pay for a sitter when they go out? Should he be jumping into make dinner?

What kind of advice would you give E. about respecting this mom’s space… and making boundaries?

Is it okay for this mom, say, to sneak E. into her home… after her son is asleep? Or, should they take it very slow?

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